The Five Love Languages of Teenagers by gary chapman

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March 26,2025

The only reason I caught up to this series is because our bookgroup chose it. I surmised the gist of the method but had avoided it, perceiving it too "hocus/pocus, touchy/feely" for my likes. I intended to skim and quickly return it to the library. Imagine my surprise upon discovering parenting stategies that could have been so meaningful years and children ago. My loss, and my family's loss. Chapman has a gift for serving it straight up in a way that is neither belittling or naive. I credit him for his experience and ablility to sort complex issues into realistic application. I enjoyed the book's concrete examples and suggestions vs. abstract theories. With children ages 20, 18, 17 and 12 I walked away from this book a better parent, but not as effective as I could have been reading it a decade ago.

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Mousuke

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March 26,2025

Good reminder that I can't just express love in my language, but I need to express it in the way the receiver needs it. With two teens/tweens, I was surprised to find out that their language isn't MINE! Which would have made it so much easier....*sigh*.
And that they are at the brink of trying out their own independence, so even speaking their language might not work if it is seen by them as controling or annoying.

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Rebels

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March 26,2025

I like this spin on the original specifically for teens. Especially how words are not only critical in love languages (since most people can't read minds), but even more critical in hate languages as there is a good chance anything you say (even in jest, sarcasm) could chip away (if not permanently damage) a loved one OR a stranger.

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hugrim

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March 26,2025

I absolutely love the concept of the five love languages. As someone who has been struggling for quite some time to feel like, I am being a good parent, especially of teenagers, this book is such a wonderful resource! I really love the five languages, the original book, so to have this broken down, then again for teenagers is wonderful. I will be purchasing a hardcopy book so that I can go back frequently to look at a lot of the ideas and thoughts on each of the love, languages, and the practice of putting them into my own life. Love.

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MongoDB

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March 26,2025

It is always difficult for me to finish a non-fiction book but this one kept me going and hopeful that I would better relate to my kids. It actually left me feeling like I had uncovered a secret treasure in the heart of my teen. I know something about her that I did not know prior to reading this book. I can put my finger on what my kids need from me just a bit better than before. I highly recommend this book (and the other "Love Language" books).

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ryuujiryu

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March 26,2025

To each his own. This is a great book for parents with teenagers. I have two and this book was right on queue. Raising teens in this day and age is difficult, but if you can figure out their love language and fill their tank, you will succeed. Thank you Dr. Chapman!
I use this book as a reference guide on a continuing basis.

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SugarJane

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March 26,2025

I just finished this book and I am absolutely going to buy my own copy so that I can read it again and again. It is just wonderful. I had so many "aha!" moments while reading it. It made me feel like I understood my teenage daughter 100% better and gave me great hope for improving our relationship. I have been really struggling with her in some areas and have had no idea how to improve things, and I felt so strongly while reading this book that it had so many of the answers that I had been looking for. I knew that the concepts talked about here will do a world of good for my daughter personally, and to improve my relationship with her as well. The insights given here into the teenage mind and heart are just priceless, and at this point, instead of feeling frustrated, I am actually excited to move forward in my relationship with my daughter! I can't wait to implement the ideas here into our family and to feel that closeness with my daughter. I have already tried some of the ideas, and I am seeing such a difference! I also feel like it helps me to see my daughter differently, to have more respect for her as a person, and to have more compassion for her struggles. I see now some of the things that I have been doing that have been destructive and I am ready to change. I think that parents of all teenagers should read this book.

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