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I appreciate what Mr. Chapman discusses within his book. Having heard about the "Love Language" books, I had never read them, as they were mainly directed towards married couples or parents. Why should I - as a single woman - want to wade through yet another book dedicated to people who are in a stage of life that I was not, but desired to obtain and yet could not?
That being said, I was very excited that Mr. Chapman decided to address Christian Singles. However, I was severely disappointed with the book over all. While he does an excellent job of explaining the different love languages, most of the scenarios seem to be taken from his "married", "teen", and "children" books. There is a plethora of examples of "how to fix your relationship" when dating, but very few options for singles who are NOT in a relationship, no matter how much they desire it! If I had picked up this book 6 months ago, before I was in a relationship, I would have thrown it across the room in disgust.
It does NOT give singles methods of expressing love in a Godly way - as Mr. Chapman leads the reader to believe in the introduction to his book regarding singles, widows, divorcees, or single parents - instead focuses on singles who have a significant other, a two instances of familial relationships (parents & child/brother & brother), and a few instances of parents relating to their children.
I'm sorry, Mr. Chapman. As someone who has been single (with absolutely no prospects for most of my 29 years of life)I feel gypped. Cheated. Overlooked. Like you put a finger-tip band aid on a hemorrhaging severed limb. From someone who is dedicated to showing the importance of communicating love, I sure DON'T feel loved.(Get the idea yet?! I sincerely hope so!) I felt like your editors told you "You know, there's a good market for Single Christians out there. Put out a Love Languages book for them." and then you cobbled together a few stories from discussions with "singles in a relationship" that you met during your pre-marital counseling or conferences and then sections of all your other books. This gave you a "book for singles" that you could market. I feel that this is not directed to "singles". What is a single, Christian girl/guy supposed to do? Singles desire love just like anyone else. In reading the introduction to your book, I felt hope. But by the end, I was disgusted.
I WILL NOT RECOMMEND THIS BOOK TO ANY OF MY SINGLE FRIENDS!!! By this I mean all those who desire relationships but are not in them (not for lack of trying), not currently wanting to be in a relationship, or widows, or those content with their singleness, nor single parents!!! Why waste the time? We would be better off getting the traditional "Love Languages" book, since we would not feel so let down at the end: after all, Singles ought to be used to applying "advice" from books dedicated to those in walks of life that are different from where they are and to "buck up" and "apply what you can where you can", right.
That being said, I was very excited that Mr. Chapman decided to address Christian Singles. However, I was severely disappointed with the book over all. While he does an excellent job of explaining the different love languages, most of the scenarios seem to be taken from his "married", "teen", and "children" books. There is a plethora of examples of "how to fix your relationship" when dating, but very few options for singles who are NOT in a relationship, no matter how much they desire it! If I had picked up this book 6 months ago, before I was in a relationship, I would have thrown it across the room in disgust.
It does NOT give singles methods of expressing love in a Godly way - as Mr. Chapman leads the reader to believe in the introduction to his book regarding singles, widows, divorcees, or single parents - instead focuses on singles who have a significant other, a two instances of familial relationships (parents & child/brother & brother), and a few instances of parents relating to their children.
I'm sorry, Mr. Chapman. As someone who has been single (with absolutely no prospects for most of my 29 years of life)I feel gypped. Cheated. Overlooked. Like you put a finger-tip band aid on a hemorrhaging severed limb. From someone who is dedicated to showing the importance of communicating love, I sure DON'T feel loved.(Get the idea yet?! I sincerely hope so!) I felt like your editors told you "You know, there's a good market for Single Christians out there. Put out a Love Languages book for them." and then you cobbled together a few stories from discussions with "singles in a relationship" that you met during your pre-marital counseling or conferences and then sections of all your other books. This gave you a "book for singles" that you could market. I feel that this is not directed to "singles". What is a single, Christian girl/guy supposed to do? Singles desire love just like anyone else. In reading the introduction to your book, I felt hope. But by the end, I was disgusted.
I WILL NOT RECOMMEND THIS BOOK TO ANY OF MY SINGLE FRIENDS!!! By this I mean all those who desire relationships but are not in them (not for lack of trying), not currently wanting to be in a relationship, or widows, or those content with their singleness, nor single parents!!! Why waste the time? We would be better off getting the traditional "Love Languages" book, since we would not feel so let down at the end: after all, Singles ought to be used to applying "advice" from books dedicated to those in walks of life that are different from where they are and to "buck up" and "apply what you can where you can", right.
