I was hoping for advice on being assertive while coming across as an intelligent adult but the sample dialogues mainly made the assertive person sound stubborn and rude or as if they were a psychiatrist speaking to their patient. The author is a psychiatrist but the advice was given to be used in every day life. The only useful information I found was that just because someone asks you a question, you don’t have to answer it. You can just reply with “I don’t know”. I definitely don’t agree on how the author thinks an assertive person should deal with criticism...to not only accept the criticism but to also verbally agree with the criticiser regardless if you agree or not. I didn’t realise just how long ago the book was written until I was nearing the end unfortunately. When I read in a sample dialogue that someone got up to turn off the tv I realised it must have been written a long time ago. I checked the publication date...written in the 70s! I hope this book helped many people 45 years ago but unfortunately I doubt it will be much help to anyone today.

The first impression about the book was, I wished I read it earlier. I think so many things in my life would've been different today. A brilliant book that don's leave you wondering at the end about how to go about putting the principles in practice. The writer explains the techniques first but she also ends it up with dialogue that further help the reader to use the principles in the day to day dealings.
I recommend the book. It delivers what it promised.

Hated the font - it hurt my eyes! So I moved to audible and loved it. I'm very assertive, so I tend to paralyze people that are not so assertive. This booked showed me how to give people space to say no, but also to draw out why they are a no and come to an easy compromise that is a win-win. It also helped me to see a few places that I'm not assertive and have clearer boundaries. I recommend this for everyone!

This book has a good core, underlying message that is mostly lost in a very thick almost unreadable content. The dialogue portions were much easier to read. I did learn some good things to try if/when I get in a place I have to defend my own stance. As far as the rest, very sluggish and felt like it was written by someone who found the subject as boring as I do.

Un libro que ayuda a entender cómo comportarte de forma más asertiva, dándote no solo consejos, sino también diálogos que ejemplifican las lecciones y que ayudan a entenderlas y ponerlas en práctica.

Un poquillo desactualizado pero buen material de comunicación asertiva.

The first 125 pages lay out the basics. This section contains background information, one overarching idea, and 3 useful techniques. If you read the first 125 pages, you're good. The rest of the book is just filled with examples. The examples are often very dated. Language and culture has changed a lot since 1975, but the 3 techniques to reduce manipulation and to be more assertive can still be useful today.

Into it! Reading it I felt more equipment to deal with situations where I want something but don't feel confident standing up for it. I'm still unsure of where the line comes between applying these techniques to be assertive and being an asshole though.

Many of the example conversations are dated but the principles remain the same. The author covers a series of techniques and then spends the remainder of the book showing how to apply them. Techniques such as "fogging" and "broken record" are easy to pick up and start using, whilst others, such as the "assertive bill of rights", take time to internalise.

اغلب کودکان طبقه متوسط جامعه های غربی طوری تربیت می شوند که در رویایی با دشواری ها برخورد انفعالی داشته باشند: «جواب نده» و یا «بگذار هرچه می خواهد بگوید» این ها واکنش انفعالی است. واین اغلب به زیان ما تمام می شود، و به خواسته مان نمی رسیم. به جای برخورد انفعالی بهتر است حقوق حقه مان را مطالبه کنیم.
چنانچه در برخورد با مشکل به شیوه جنگ یا گریز واکنش نشان دهیم از نظر روحی در موقعیت نامناسبی قرار می گیریم اینطوری خشم یا ترس بر وجودمان مستولی می شود. و در ارتباط با مردم شکست می خوریم در نتیجه افسردگی، یاس، غم و نومیدی بر وجودمان حاکم می شود.
در حالیکه حیوانات در تنها سلاحشان برای تنازع بقا جنگ یا گریز، با انسان شریک هستند، ما به لطف نیاکانمان علاوه بر این توانایی از نیروی تکلم بهره مند هستیم که از آن برای حل مشکلاتمان استفاده می کنیم و با گفت و گو با یکدیگر به تفاهم می رسیم.

شروع کتاب جالبه و یجورایی فاز روانشناسی تکاملی بر میداره .. ولی هرچی پیش میره زرد تر و زرد تر میشه و بی هیچ ارائه منطق و دلیل و مرجعی واست نسخه میپیچه که اینکارو بکن اینکارو نکن برای کسی که کتاب علمی نمیخونه شاید جالب و حتی بدرد بخور باشه ولی واسه من نبود
در حد همون خجالت نکش دختر و امثالهم بود
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Helpful but then terrible language and women shaming at the end.