The Kitchen God's Wife

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Winnie and Helen have kept each other's worst secrets for more than fifty years. Now, because she believes she is dying, Helen wants to expose everything. And Winnie angrily determines that she must be the one to tell her daughter, Pearl, about the past—including the terrible truth even Helen does not know. And so begins Winnie's story of her life on a small island outside Shanghai in the 1920s, and other places in China during World War II, and traces the happy and desperate events that led to Winnie's coming to America in 1949.

416 pages, Paperback

First published January 1,1991

About the author

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Amy Tan (Chinese: 譚恩美; pinyin: Tán Ēnměi; born February 19, 1952) is an American writer whose novels include The Joy Luck Club, The Kitchen God's Wife, The Hundred Secret Senses, The Bonesetter's Daughter, Saving Fish From Drowing, and The Valley of Amazement. She is the author of two memoirs, The Opposite of Fate and Where the Past Begins. Her two children's books are The Chinese Siamese Cat and The Moon Lady. She is also the co-screenwriter of the film adaptation of The Joy Luck, the librettist of the opera The Bonesetter's Daughter, and the creative consultant to the PBS animated series Sagwa the Chinese Chinese Cat.

Tan is an instructor with MasterClass on writing, memory and imagination. She is featured in the American Masters documentary Amy Tan: Unintended Memoir. She was inducted into the American Academy of Arts and Letters and recently received the National Humanities Medal. She serves on the board of American Bird Conservancy.

Her forthcoming book The Backyard Bird Chronicles began as a journal in 2016, when she turned to nature for calm. She also began taking drawing classes with John Muir Laws (The Laws Guide to Nature Journaling and Drawing, and The Laws Guide to Drawing Birds). During the pandemic shutdown, she drew birds only in her backyard, documenting behaviors she found puzzling. Over time she identified 64 species of birds that have visited her backyard in Marin County. By 2022, she had more than nine journals of sketches and notes, which her editor at Knopf suggested she publish. The book, which will be released in April 2024, has already received high praise:

“Much of great writing comes from great interest, and in The Backyard Bird Chronicles, Amy Tan shows us how the world fascinates her, especially the birds. The result is both unexpected and spectacular.”
—Ann Patchett, author of These Precious Days

“What an enchanting and illuminating book! How lucky for us that Amy Tan has turned her genius, her deep empathy and insight, her keen eye for what is telling, to birds. Every page of these chronicles radiates warm curiosity, wonder, and delight.”
—Jennifer Ackerman, The Genius of Birds

“This is one of the most infectious and convincing books about nature I've read. For the bird-watcher, the would-be bird-watcher, or for the bird-watching skeptic, this offers great delight and unexpected intrigue. Through Tan's ecstatic eyes, what could be a dry treatise on ornithological happenings becomes something far more fun and much more profound. It's really a book about seeing.”
—Dave Eggers, author of Ungrateful Mammals

“Anybody even mildly interested in birds, or thinking about getting interested in birds (which are, after all, the indicator genus for the health of the planet), will want this book perched on their shelf, if only for the gift of Amy Tan's eye and the example she gives us of how to pay attention. What a treasure.”
—Robert Hass, Pulitzer Prize-Winning author of Summer Snow: New Poems

“Backyard Bird Chronicles is fun reading. It shows how we can become engaged emotionally, literally and artistically with the natural world—to joyfully learn about the most accessible and yet wild animals, the often rare and beautiful birds that choose to come and live near and sometimes with us.”
—Bernd Heinrich, author of Mind of the Raven

“With this book as your guide, embark into the bird world Amy Tan. This is an intimate view, a sort-of love affair with the birds and their behavior, that Amy has come to know over several years. Within the leafy universe of her own backyard, she has quietly beheld, patiently observed, and taken in-depth notations of an extensive array of bird species. In colorful detail, she describes various bird's behavior, while capturing their beauty in exquisitely rendered illustrations. Species include fearsome predators and watchful prey, long distance migrants and hometown residents. Through her unique insight and gift as an author and

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July 15,2025
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The book commences in contemporary America, with Pearl, a second-generation Chinese emigrant, as the narrator. She endeavors to strike a balance between her own 21st-century American family life and the needs of her Chinese mother, Winnie, and her mother's friends.

From the third chapter, Winnie takes over the narration, and the story transforms into an account of her life. Set against the backdrop of her living in Shanghai in the 1930s and 40s, under the Kuomintang rule, with the Communists already making their presence felt, and her experiences during the Japanese invasion of Shanghai, it delves deep into her personal relationships. These include her bond with her own mother, her first husband Wen Fu, her friends Hulan, Peanut, Min, and Grand Auntie Du, and finally, her connection with the Chinese-American translator Jimmy Louie.

For me, the first pillar of the book is the suffocating nature of the portrayed family life. Beginning in the present day, the mother/daughter relationship is cringingly intrusive. In fact, the entire family is overly domineering, and this extends beyond blood relatives to include various friends ensnared in this gooey familial web.

The second pillar is the superstition that pervades the entire story. From the eccentricities of Grand Auntie Du's household altar to a plethora of omens that saturate the lives of these people, inspiring or damning, and always taken seriously. At one point, there is a visit to a fortune teller, but it seems superfluous given the already intense awareness of portents of good and bad fortune.

The third and final pillar is the ubiquitous male dominance in Chinese society at that time. Illustrated in the general culture, in the license given to Winnie's first husband, and in the heavy governance of her father towards her and her mother, men ruled and marriage was everything. However, this pillar had its flaws as the women in the story were rebelling through friendship, support for one another, the changing politics of the time, and the sheer determination of the main female protagonists.

My least favorite character initially was Helen, or Hulan as she was known in China. But as the story progressed, I couldn't help but be charmed by the depth the author brought to her personality. She was a complex mix of stupidity, clumsiness, touchiness, wile, endearment, maddening traits, loyalty, naivety, preposterousness, being a turncoat, and vulnerability. By the end of the book, I found her quite irresistible. In fact, all the women characters had a significant presence for me.

The book concludes with a return to the present day, as Winnie and her daughter Pearl come to terms with many secrets in each other's lives, and we sense a newfound closeness between them.

For the most part, though, the book is harsh and brutal. Winnie endured a difficult life, not only personally but also during the bombing, while fleeing the Japanese army, and in the aftermath of the war. Nevertheless, there is a happy ending, and the warmth from that did much to touch my heart.
July 15,2025
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I thought I had read this book many years ago. However, I knew that if I truly had, I would notice it right away. So, I guess I didn't read it after all!

What an incredibly wonderful story it is! It's a story filled with secrets that have been held for many, many years. It's about a mother and daughter who come from not only different generations but also different cultures and continents.

I find the stories of new immigrants and their American born children absolutely fascinating. This is especially true when the immigrant's life in their home country was impoverished, abusive, and horrifying, particularly due to war.

In such cases, there is often a huge gap between the parents and children, and a lack of understanding. Unless the stories are shared, this gap will continue to widen. The threat of secrets being exposed in this story sets the stage for the mother to share her history with her daughter.

It's never too late to reveal how your history has impacted who you are today. By sharing these stories, we can gain a better understanding of ourselves and those around us.
July 15,2025
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Secrets, secrets, and more secrets.

This story is filled to the brim with them. There was old Aunt and New Aunt, and a whole host of relatives, each one bringing their story secrets to vivid life.

Growing up and living in China during and after World War II, they faced numerous difficulties. The war had brought chaos and destruction, yet they persevered.

Winnie, a beautiful and strong-willed woman, has an unforgettable voice in the story. It's not just her life that is told, but also her mother's life in China and then her daughter's life in America. The story weaves together the experiences of three generations, showing the impact of time, place, and family.

It's truly a joy to read, as it takes the reader on a journey through different cultures and eras, filled with love, loss, and the power of family secrets.
July 15,2025
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DNF @ 41%

The writing in this work is indeed well-crafted and masterful. However, at this moment, I simply couldn't immerse myself in the plot. It gives the impression of being a forgotten story from "The Joy Luck Club," yet lacking the same degree of interaction with the younger generation that served as a counterpoint to the direness of the mothers' tales. I feel really bad for not being able to complete this because I generally do enjoy Tan's characters. Her ability to create vivid and complex characters is truly remarkable. But perhaps in this particular instance, something about the plot failed to engage me on a deeper level. It's possible that the pacing was off or that the themes didn't resonate with me as strongly as I had hoped. Nevertheless, I still have a great deal of respect for Tan's writing and will likely give her other works a try in the future.
July 15,2025
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I absolutely adored this book. It has set two new goals for me. Firstly, to read more works by Amy Tan. Secondly, to aim for books that are longer than 300 pages, as I find that longer books offer the depth of plot that I desire.

Wow! What an incredibly enjoyable read it was. I would say it was somewhat like riding a rollercoaster, albeit a slow one. The plot twists managed to surprise me almost every time. They were not just cliche attempts to add excitement but rather, they built upon each other in a seamless manner. No plot line was left forgotten; everything tied back in the end or at some point in the story.

Is this a love story or a portrayal of the evolving relationship between a mother and daughter? Perhaps it is both. So far, this is hands down the best romance-like book that I have read between 2020 and 2021. If you are seeking excellent character development and a captivating story line, I highly recommend that you start reading this book right away!
July 15,2025
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When wars descend upon the world and unlikely friends find themselves crossing paths, it is often the case that the bonds they form can endure a lifetime. These are not the ordinary best friends that young women with relatively trivial First World Problems seek. No, these are the kind of friends who know most of each other's deepest secrets. However, the existence of those unknown secrets, the ones that are deliberately kept from the other friend, has the power to make life extremely complicated.


And then there is a daughter added to the mix, creating a situation where two generations of women, who have grown up in different continents, interact. The women of the older generation attempt to convey to the young woman born in another continent what life was like in the old country, albeit in a somewhat limited way. The respect for each other's feelings still significantly impacts their willingness to reveal their truths. Sometimes, they still resort to telling lies. Oh, the complex nature of mature friendships that manage to last a lifetime. The question that lingers is whether such friendships are still possible in the same way as they were in the old country?

July 15,2025
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"It's not you it's me" is what I truly feel like expressing to this book!

At the beginning, it touched on several sensitive points for me due to my own mother/daughter relationship. I set it aside for a while as I found the shift in point of view to the mother rather difficult to manage. It was really just rhetorical complaining and the story was consistently depressing. I had to continuously take breaks and read something else to lighten my mood.

I highly doubt that I will read anything else written by this author. The overall tone and style of this book didn't resonate with me, and it left me with a rather negative impression. Maybe others might find it more engaging, but for me, it simply didn't work.

July 15,2025
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What a remarkable journey this is!

The story commences with Pearl, a stressed-out mother of two lively little girls and the wife of Phil, an upbeat and lovable man who hasn't bought into the cloying ways of Pearl's Asian-American family. However, the true focus is on Winnie, her mother. When Winnie's sister-in-law menaces to disclose family secrets, Winnie is compelled to sit Pearl down and reveal all. Thus, this is a frame story, with 90% of the actual novel dedicated to Winnie's narrative.

After the opening, we are transported back to Winnie's childhood. She unfolds the tale of growing up as an orphan in China, finding a home with caustic relatives. Winnie matures and marries a dreadful, abusive man. Then, World War II erupts, and the Japanese cause widespread destruction. Winnie endures and eventually emigrates to the U.S.

My description fails to encompass all that occurred in this sumptuous, sprawling novel. Amy Tan is truly a wizard of storytelling. She takes a moment in history and envisions experiencing it through the eyes of, for instance, a pregnant woman fleeing through the dirt streets of her village to evade Japanese machine-gunning planes. Yet, there is so much beauty! Such vivid descriptions. Resilience, love, unexpected loyalty, and kindness abound.

By the time we return to the present day and Pearl has her own secret to share with her mother, I almost felt disoriented, having been so engrossed. And certain triumphant scenes where Winnie acts fearlessly - I have replayed them in my mind. The story becomes even richer in retrospect. What a magnificent work of art.

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