First, let me talk about what annoys me about this book. Like any "how to" book, there is a certain cheesy aspect to it, and this one is no exception, although admittedly the cheesiness is toned down. More significantly, Kerner has a one-size-fits-all approach to sex. Different people have different preferences, and this is especially true for women. I would pair this book with "The Guide to Getting it On," which surpasses it in tone as it is as hilarious as sex itself. The GTGIO emphasizes communication between partners. You won't know until you ask or at least receive nonverbal feedback.

Now, onto the good points. Men often learn about sex through pornography, which is similar to learning about hunting by watching Elmer Fudd cartoons. In porn, women, just like men, love intense stimulation, and the male ego and a woman's pleasure are intertwined. In other words, there are really no real women in porn, only the male's self-image. This creates in men a kind of fascination and repulsion towards women's sexuality. (And unfortunately, women often feel a certain repulsion towards their own bodies.)

So, it's no surprise that there are more reviews of this book by women than men. Women understand that it's high time to learn about women's bodies, real women's bodies, and this book is a good starting point. Even the non-readerly boyfriend can get through this book during the halftime of football games. And even the avid reader needs to realize that there is something and someone beyond the pages.

Women deserve orgasms, early and often. Everyone deserves good sex. But it's not something you're born with. Practice, study, practice some more, and worship at its altar. It's yours, Grasshopper. The mango is there.

I was already familiar with a significant portion of this information.

In fact, I had a good understanding of many of the key aspects.

It wasn't all completely new to me.

There were certain elements that I had come across before and had some prior knowledge about.

However, there were also some details that I hadn't known previously.

These new details added to my overall understanding and gave me a more comprehensive view of the subject matter.

Despite already knowing a fair amount, I was still interested in learning more and delving deeper into the topic.

I believe that continuous learning is essential, and even when we think we know a lot, there is always more to discover and explore.

So, while I knew most of this already, I was still eager to expand my knowledge and gain a more in-depth understanding.

This is really an interesting and well-structured piece!

It's a book that I firmly believe every man, woman, and those in between should take the time to read.

The content within its pages has the potential to offer valuable insights and perspectives that can enrich the lives of all who engage with it.

Whether it's for personal growth, entertainment, or to gain a better understanding of the world around us, this book seems to have something for everyone.

It's not often that a book comes along that can have such a wide-reaching appeal, but this one truly stands out.

So, if you're looking for a good read that will leave a lasting impression, I highly recommend giving this book a chance.

You won't be disappointed!

A book that I will present to my daughters once they reach an appropriate age to empower them in their sex life. This remarkable book not only validates that what they desire is genuine but also provides the reasons behind it. It clearly outlines what he should do, and it reassures them that they can most definitely ask him for precisely that. Moreover, in the event that he is ignorant of how to fulfill those expectations, this book offers valuable suggestions on what he should read to enhance his understanding and skills. It serves as a comprehensive guide, equipping them with the knowledge and confidence they need to navigate this important aspect of their lives with grace and authenticity.

I was initially rather sceptical of this book (and other similar ones) for two main reasons. Firstly, sex is an extremely individual matter that demands experimentation. Secondly, it's challenging to determine if the advice provided is truly good. Someone could come up with something out of nowhere and pretend it's solid advice when in fact it isn't, or it might be skewed towards the specific preferences and tendencies of their own experience.

However, given the positive feedback regarding the topic, I decided to give it a try. The book is divided into three parts. The first part was quite disappointing. The beginning is needlessly long and almost solely focuses on convincing you of the importance and role of oral sex for women. It discusses how sex is often viewed as almost exclusively about penetration, the longer arousal period of women, and how many have difficulty achieving orgasm from penetration alone. While I'm sure this information is necessary for some people, I believe that with the younger generation, this isn't exactly news.

The second part of the book was a bit better as it was more technical about the actual process. However, I still wasn't overly impressed as the advice was rather basic. Again, I'm certain it's useful for some, but if you've spent any time researching the topic, there isn't anything truly extraordinary. I was a bit annoyed by this, but the book did improve somewhat after the middle of the second chapter or so. There were several techniques that I wasn't aware of, and I think they might be useful. I also appreciated the slightly more in-depth anatomy than you typically find, as most of it was quite new considering female sexuality was understudied for a long time.

I was surprised by how detailed some of the advice was, which I think can be extremely helpful, especially if you're completely new to the subject. I remember when I first started researching this stuff, some of it was a bit vague, and I wasn't sure how to apply it. That isn't the case here, and the author did a good job in this regard. It also has a decent number of illustrations, which were useful, although I think even more illustrations would have been better.

The end of the book was great, and it wrapped up everything very nicely, even arranged by experience level. The appendices were also quite good. I did gain some value from the book, and it wasn't as bad as I had expected it to be after reading a fair amount of it.

Nevertheless, it does have its flaws. I would say that over half of the book is quite basic if you've done more than a couple of Google searches on the topic. And the book seems a bit forced. There isn't that much content, and the way it's organized seems a bit odd for this format. There are a lot of chapters, and they are incredibly short, sometimes only two pages long. It feels like this was a bunch of notes thrown together and expanded as much as possible to justify a book. I also wasn't a big fan of the writing style, as it was a bit corny and forced at times. The author also seems to make this more poetic and intellectual than it really is, making allegories and references to boxing matches, Shakespeare, or Aristotle. Most of them were, to be honest, cringy.

Another thing that I didn't like is that the author often seems a bit too universal with some of the claims. While he does touch on the different responses of different women, it is severely understated, and some of the things he said were completely wrong according to the reports of women that I've read.

If you're completely new to oral sex, this book is a must-read, and it will help you a great deal. I would have liked to have read it when I first began, and I do think it's an easier and more efficient process than looking at countless different sources online.

If you have some experience and/or have researched the topic a bit, it will still have some value and likely some good tips that you haven't heard of, but you have to wade through most of the book to get to them. If you're in the second camp, I would skip the first part entirely (although skim the anatomy charts which are helpful later), as this will allow you to dive straight into the most practical and helpful bits of the book.

The book is interesting.

Based on everyone's experience, it can be more or less useful. I believe that even though it is dedicated to a male audience and written by a man, it still becomes an additional weapon in the knowledge of one's own body for a woman as well.

But above all, it is necessary to spread certain types of reading. Because a true sexual education, starting from schools, cannot exclude an education in pleasure towards those who share this experience with us, in order to focus on the other.

Particularly towards a woman, who is too often seen as the one who has to provide, but never receive pleasure.

The battle against the male-dominated society in which we live also passes through books like this.

You can learn more by asking your partner(s) what they like.

I'm not saying you can't learn anything from this book. In fact, it does have a couple of useful things. The way it explains the whole anatomy of the vulva was really the best part. However, I still wouldn't recommend it to anyone. I would rather suggest looking for an updated vulva anatomy book and establishing a healthy communication with your partner.

One of the main problems I found was the narration. The exaggerated romanticization throughout the book comes across as creepy. And if you listen to the audiobook, it's even worse. It was torture to listen to it until the end. Also, what about non-romantic sex? At times, it feels as if the author implies that you can only have good cunnilingus with an established partner and if you make love instead of just having sex.

The book feels too male-centered. Have you ever listened to one of those guys who give advice without asking, about how to make love to a woman the right way? It feels exactly like that.

Save your time and put your insecurities aside. Just start having conversations with your partner about what she likes.

The book says a couple of things about every woman being different, but then it gives very specific instructions on how to give oral sex. There is no correct or incorrect way to give oral sex. It's all about paying attention and listening to the other person. Just stick to the first statement, "every woman is different."

Even if we (men) can get a couple of useful things from this book, I'm more worried about how easy it would be for some men to think they know more about cunnilingus than women and how easily they could get confused, thinking it's just about learning a set of movements and some sequences to be good at it. It looks like a train heading for disaster.

In conclusion, save your money. There are much better books out there.

Well! I admit that when I initially embarked on this book, I harbored doubts. I wondered if it would simply be yet another instance of a man purporting to tell women what he “knew” about their bodies. However, I am extremely pleased to say that my concerns were unfounded! This man truly KNOWS.

He is, in fact, a trained sexologist, which gives him an in-depth and legitimate understanding. I, for one, have learned several valuable things from this book.

If you are a man who finds himself in a quandary, not knowing what to do, or perhaps you think you know what to do but your partner has gently corrected you, then I highly recommend READING THIS BOOK! Your partner will most likely thank you for taking the time to educate yourself and enhance your understanding of their needs and desires.

It could potentially transform your relationship and bring a new level of intimacy and satisfaction. So, don't hesitate, pick up this book and start learning today!

Okay, I haven't yet tried any of these tricks, but I plan to.

What I loved about this book the most is that it truly helped me better understand my body and how it functions. It was like opening a door to a whole new world of self-awareness.

Moreover, it also raised my self-confidence a bit. I have always struggled with not being able to orgasm during sex and had kind of given up on it. However, this book showed me a different perspective. It made me realize that perhaps I just need a partner who would be willing to try harder to please me.

And let's not forget, I fucking loved all the funny metaphors and language used in the book. It made the whole reading experience not only educational but also highly entertaining. It was as if the author was able to make even the most complex topics seem simple and approachable through the use of these clever literary devices.

I'm really looking forward to putting some of these tricks into practice and seeing how they work for me.

I happened to come across this book while browsing through my bookcase. I have a great fondness for Kerner's books, and I already own six of them.

This particular book is a must-have for every sexually active man. It is truly fantastic. Although it contains some scientific elements, its value cannot be overstated.

The information and insights provided in this book can enhance one's understanding of sexual health and relationships. It offers practical advice and tips that can be beneficial in improving one's sexual experiences.

Whether you are looking to enhance your own sexual well-being or improve your relationship with a partner, this book is well worth reading. It is a valuable addition to any man's library.

Decent is a word that holds significant meaning in our lives. It implies a certain standard of behavior, character, and quality. A decent person is one who treats others with respect, kindness, and fairness. They are honest, reliable, and have a good moral compass.

In society, being decent is essential for building healthy relationships and a harmonious community. Decent people contribute to the well-being of others by their actions and words. They are the ones who help those in need, speak up against injustice, and strive to make the world a better place.

Moreover, decency is not only about how we treat others but also about how we present ourselves. A decent appearance, for example, shows that we take pride in ourselves and respect the people around us. It doesn't mean being overly fashionable or glamorous, but rather being clean, tidy, and appropriate for the occasion.

In conclusion, decency is a virtue that we should all strive to cultivate in ourselves. By being decent, we can make a positive impact on the world and create a more美好的 future for ourselves and those around us.

It's rather a strange book to review on Goodreads. Not that there's anything amiss with it. However, publicly discussing a book about sex can give one a queasy feeling, as if one has been caught red-handed (or in this case, with one's partner's pants down). But perhaps we should shed this false sense of shame. After all, there's nothing disgraceful about wanting to educate oneself about sex.

This isn't my first encounter with this book. The first time was many years ago when I was seeking to understand something I knew very little about. While I delved deep into the book (mmm), I was deterred by all the details and timings in the practical part. I was afraid I could never measure up to what the book seemed to expect of me. There are beginner-friendly sections, but I wish they received more attention instead of being relegated to the appendices.

Now, upon rereading, I can see how much this book has influenced my evolving understanding and approach to sex. Even many of the techniques I thought were beyond my reach, I now realize I had unconsciously incorporated into my repertoire over the years. Looking back, I regret not finishing it then or reading it even earlier. I'd love to go back in time and give it to my 15-year-old self, tell him to get ready for some quality fun time, and then run away because I'd be an adult giving a sex book to a teenager, regardless of the context. But I'm infinitely grateful that it entered my life and had an impact.

The timings and detailed steps still sometimes seem a bit absurd, as if one is expected to take a stopwatch and a cheat sheet to bed. But now, with considerably more experience under my belt, I can see its value as both a guide for novices and a way to fill in knowledge gaps for advanced participants. The advanced routines also present a challenge that I'm excited to work towards.

Plus, they're only half the book. The first half is dedicated to getting the reader into the right mindset, to stop seeing cunnilingus and overall non-male pleasure as an afterthought or a means to an end, but as one of the main events. It can be an appetizer, but it's a big mistake to view it as anything less. Of course, neither I nor the author can convince those who have no taste for it to enjoy it. But part of the book's point is that anyone interested in certain types of bodies owes it to both their partner and themselves to give it a good try. It seems so obvious to me that I feel like I'm preaching to the choir, but then again, the TV series Insecure had a storyline about how humiliating going down is just a few years ago, so who knows how crazy people are.

I also like how the author approaches his subject as a source of enlightenment. There's no talk of conquering, getting laid, showing off, or anything like that. It's just not that kind of book. Instead, from brutal honesty about himself, he presents a true appreciation for the body of his subject and the pleasure within. It can sometimes feel a bit cultish with all the flowery language and manifestos, and a bit amusing with the clinical descriptions of intimate acts. But aside from that, it's an approach I appreciate, which is no surprise considering how the book has affected my mental growth.

I'd even call it a bit feminist in how it aims to educate its mainly cishet male target group about the importance of female pleasure, bringing more equality to the bedroom. Although, of course, not everyone with the genitalia addressed in the book identifies as a woman, and it must be recognized that the real target group is anyone with a partner with a vulva, not just cishet men.

I wish my younger self had worried less. Back then, I thought, "Oh god, how am I supposed to qualify? I could never memorize all this." But really, as the author says in the end, it's not about perfection. It's about more than that - closeness and pleasure. Just like sex itself - there is never any perfection, but with a good sense of humor, trust, a sense of adventure and discovery, and plenty of desire, it can be so much better. And it's no small compliment that this book can help in that regard. Even now, I found a lot to learn from it, adding to my existing knowledge and familiarity and expanding my toolkit, so to speak. At the very least, it's a must-have in my library. And a great birthday gift for anyone with a vulva to give to their partner with a hopeful and mischievous smile.

Edit (10.6.24): Half a year later, and having read more about the topics the book touches on, I can't help but like it less. I'm still grateful for the positive impact it had on me, but much of what Kerner recommends is laughably rigid, and some of the tips are obsolete, like "doing the ABCs." It also seems harmful in how it encourages the idea of performance rather than cooperation and communication. Mutual pleasure is somewhat mentioned, but not really. Reading "Come as You Are" made me come back and lower this book's rating. I do have my own issues with that book, but it feels smarter than Kerner's and more caring of the female participant. For Kerner, she may come first, but in "Come as You Are," it actually matters what she thinks about it.