During the Tang Dynasty, Empress Wu Hu reigned over China.

She was well aware that sex and power were closely intertwined. In fact, she issued a decree stating that government officials and visiting dignitaries had to pay homage to her imperial highness by performing cunnilingus upon her.

This shows the unique and perhaps rather extreme connection between sexuality and power in that era.

It is interesting to note that in the 1800s, under the influence of certain individuals like Mr Freud, sex became more penis-oriented.

This was perhaps a result of the prevailing观念 and attitudes of the time.

The book in question not only highlights the male ignorance in this regard but also provides statistics to support its claims.

Most men, when it comes to sex or oral sex specifically, rely on porn or first-hand experience, which is often not a reliable source of information.

The lack of sexual education is not only a health risk factor but also deprives us of one of the greatest human pleasures.

How can one expect to perform well with their partner if they don't even know or understand what they are performing on?

Rarely do men outside academic circles know that there are 18 parts to the clitoris and that each one can be stimulated differently.

Heck, even half the girls in some countries may not be aware of this.

The taboo around sex in many countries is not just an academic failure but also a social and cultural one.

I truly hope that every man reads this book at least once in their life, preferably before they start dating.

Understanding your partner and the respect that comes with someone allowing you to go down on them is of utmost importance and crucial to any healthy relationship.

It can enhance communication, intimacy, and overall satisfaction in a relationship.

So, let's break the taboos and start educating ourselves about sex in a more comprehensive and accurate way.

The statement "Seems clear and concise, though somewhat mechanistic in its approach. Practical tips and science!" appears to be a concise assessment.

It suggests that while the content or method in question is presented in a clear and straightforward manner, there may be an element of being overly mechanical or lacking in flexibility.

The mention of "practical tips and science" implies that there is a combination of useful advice and scientific knowledge involved.

This could potentially be a valuable combination, as practical tips can offer real-world applications, while science provides a foundation of evidence and understanding.

However, the mechanistic approach might limit the adaptability of the tips and science to different situations or contexts.

To overcome this, it would be beneficial to consider the individual needs and circumstances of the users and to encourage a more creative and flexible application of the practical tips and scientific principles.

Overall, while the clear and concise nature is a positive aspect, a more nuanced and adaptable approach could enhance the effectiveness of the practical tips and science.

I will admit that I have been debating whether I wanted to log this one on Goodreads.

There are some individuals who would be shocked at the thought of a book about cunnilingus. However, realistically, I consider myself to be a very sex positive person.

Too many adults in the USA are unfortunately undereducated about sexuality, especially women's sexuality. If you are one of the lucky people who have received comprehensive sex education and are in a relationship with open communication, you probably won't gain much from this book.

To be honest, there wasn't any information here that an adult shouldn't already be fully aware of. However, I know that there are a lot of people out there who don't even know their own anatomy, let alone that of their partner.

I heard a coworker say that there didn't need to be sex education because, and I quote, "I got a pole, they got a hole, what's there to learn about." That attitude makes me think that maybe books like this have an important role to play.

They can help fill in the gaps in people's knowledge and promote a healthier and more informed attitude towards sexuality.

This book presents what seems like a nice idea, but in practice, it is incorrect.

“She comes first” appears to be a polarity towards male egoism in sex. However, it is merely a reversal of priorities, and the most crucial aspect - sharing the sexual experience (irrespective of power dynamics or tantric equality) - is completely absent. This is vividly depicted in the book's stance of "satisfying the woman" and "giving her an orgasm."

It is advisable to discard this worthless cookbook manual and instead read something like "Come As You Are." The fundamental fact is that there is no single method of cunnilingus that works for every woman. Some women are more sensitive in one area, while others are more responsive in different places. The direction of licking, whether up to down or down to up, will vary from person to person. This is precisely why a rehearsed routine will not be effective.

Get rid of this book and, instead, listen to the woman you are with. This book is truly terrible and not in a positive sense. :(

I find this book to be truly empowering.

It is specifically targeted at men, yet it holds great benefits for women as well.

What makes it so remarkable is that it enables women to gain a deeper understanding of the anatomy of their bodies and their sexuality.

This knowledge is crucial as it allows women to take control of their own health and well-being.

By having a better understanding of their bodies, women can make more informed decisions about their sexual health and relationships.

The book provides detailed and accurate information in an accessible and engaging manner, making it a valuable resource for anyone interested in learning more about the female body and sexuality.

Overall, I highly recommend this book to both men and women as it has the potential to transform the way we think about and approach female anatomy and sexuality.

I picked up this book with the anticipation that it would offer a comprehensive perspective on pleasuring. However, to my surprise, it turned out to be a detailed technical guide specifically on cunnilingus. But this wasn't a letdown at all. In fact, a more fitting title for this book could perhaps be "The Art of Cunnilingus - Eating P*ssy Like A Champ". I have already put some of the techniques into practice, and they truly do work. I overloaded the pleasure senses of my friend, and she was pleasantly astonished by my newfound skill. It's important to note that I only used the audiobook version, so I didn't have the opportunity to study all the diagrams. But I will definitely be revisiting a text version as soon as possible.

This manual is truly worthy of months of in-depth study. I fully intend to re-read this book in the near future. After all, as the saying goes, practice makes perfect! I'm excited to see how much more I can enhance the pleasure experiences with the help of this valuable resource.

Good advice if you're afraid of vaginas.

If you find yourself having a fear of vaginas, it's important to first understand that this is a common phobia that many people experience. One piece of good advice is to educate yourself about the female anatomy. By learning more about the vagina, its functions, and its place in the body, you can start to demystify it and reduce your fear. Another helpful tip is to talk to someone you trust about your fear. This could be a friend, family member, or even a professional counselor. Sharing your feelings with others can help you to feel less alone and can also provide you with valuable support and advice. Finally, it's important to be patient with yourself and to take things at your own pace. Overcoming a phobia takes time and effort, but with the right approach, it is possible. Remember, you are not alone and there is help available if you need it.

Are men okay?

I will always, by default, have a certain aversion to men writing about women. Why don't men focus on writing about themselves? Why are they so often writing about and for women? I've seen this book mentioned both online and in real life, and found myself involved in a buddy-reading and discussion of it. I really dislike this book!

The first half of the book is like a full-on anatomy lesson, which is fine. There's a lot of talk about rebranding foreplay as "coreplay" since oral sex is still sex, and I agree with that. Decentering PIV sex is also a good point. There's also a lot of discussion about men delaying their gratification, which is great.

But then there are these constant reminders to act like you're enjoying yourself and actually want to be there. It's kind of laughable.

I ask again, are men okay? This book must be for a certain type of man, maybe those who are deep in the closet or have some sort of neurodivergence, because why do they need reminders to enjoy being with their partner and make sure she enjoys herself too? It's like the misogynistic version of those nighttime PSAs that remind boomers to check on their kids. Reminder: your partner is a person, not a fleshlight.

This kind of insidious nonsense is exactly why there's an orgasm gap.

There was a chapter about safe sex, which sounds great. But then he talks about dental dams and using saran wrap in a pinch, yet he doesn't suggest that women use a condom or something like a ziploc bag when giving blowjobs. Why is that?

He mentions multiple times that the vagina has a similar pH to wine and then suggests taking a break during sex to sip on some. He even recommended certain flavors and notes. Again, are men okay? 1. Remember to act like you're enjoying it. 2. Take a breather with some peach-flavored wine. Ian, you're crazy. Are you implying that going down on a woman is gross, or is this book for men who aren't actually attracted to women?

It's really insidious, I tell you.

You know what's missing from the entire book? Communication. He never mentions talking to your partner or asking her anything. It's like she's not a participant at all, let alone a passive one. No wonder so many men treat sex as a performance rather than play. Bring back the fun, for God's sake! While the anatomy lesson and some of the points were truly wonderful and needed, it's pretty clear pretty often that this book is driven by the male ego. The book opens with the author talking about his previous struggles with sexual dysfunction, and I fear he thought writing this book and acting like an expert on women was his vindication.

The second half of the book is all about technique, and it even closes out with different routines for beginners, moderates, and experts. No, really. Routines. I'm talking about things like inserting half a finger for 3 - 5 minutes, grasping the taint for 10 minutes, and the orgasm stage lasting less than a minute. It's so ridiculous.

I don't know how anyone could be in the moment if they took this book as gospel. It's all so literal and clinical, void of any passion. Listen, if you have the anatomy and basics down, all you have to do is talk to your partner and pay attention. If you want bonus points, I don't know, read some romance novels written by women and watch a papaya eating contest or something.

There's an entire chapter about adding a finger to her butt, but never asking her first if that's okay. First, he downplays the act, saying there's a difference between a "wee" fingertip and full-blown anal intercourse. Okay, and? Both require express consent, Ian. He never mentions consent, though. He says to first tease the area and give her physical cues that you're going to do something more, but if she seems uncomfortable, then pull back. There's nothing about speaking to her or asking first at all. "It's not worth jeopardizing a productive cunnilingus session over." Jeopardizing for whom, Ian? This is so male ego-driven, it's insane. This nerd really wants a participation trophy.

This is an important book for humankind. It contains crucial issues that more men and women should understand. The author of this book presents his ideas in a thorough and cogent manner, making it a great read.

However, the only drawback of this book is that it downplays the importance of penetrative sex. Based on my experience, girls don't feel that the sex act is complete until they have been pleasured well through penetration. Even if they experience a few intense orgasms, they still need to feel the presence of their partner inside them, perhaps due to both psychological and physical reasons.

We should not fall into the trap created by the author of thinking that penetrative sex is mainly for male pleasure. Moreover, beyond all these physical sensations, establishing a cosmic rhythm with your partner, especially after a good meditation session, is of the utmost importance. It enriches the sexual experience and brings a deeper connection between the two individuals.

One man's perspective on how to please a woman with oral sex is quite an interesting read.

I initially purchased it as a "joke" for my partner, thinking it would be a lighthearted thing. But to my surprise, we both ended up loving it.

The author makes a rather bold claim that most men are "ill-cliterate" when it comes to this aspect and know more about the inner workings of a car engine than the anatomy and needs of a woman's clitoris.

This book offers some valuable insights and tips that can enhance the sexual experience between partners. It's not just about the physical act but also about understanding and respecting a woman's desires.

I would highly recommend this as a gift to your partner. It can start some interesting conversations and bring a new level of intimacy to your relationship. LOL!

This book is, to some extent, fine for what it claims to be.

However, when it attempts to “solve the enigma” of the female orgasm, it patronizes the audience and describes female sexual experiences as elusive and with sexual superiority. This seems to be at odds with the very goal it set out to achieve.

The skills that are discussed in the book are technically sound. But the directions given seem to be clinical in their approach. There is a lack of emphasis on partnership and communication, which are crucial aspects in any sexual relationship.

It is important to note that understanding the female orgasm is a complex topic that requires a more holistic and respectful approach. Instead of simply trying to “solve” it, we should focus on creating an environment of mutual respect, understanding, and communication between sexual partners.

Perhaps the author could have taken a more collaborative approach and included the voices and experiences of women themselves. This would have provided a more accurate and comprehensive understanding of the female orgasm and sexual experiences.

Overall, while the book has its merits in terms of technical knowledge, it falls short in its approach to understanding the female orgasm and sexual experiences.

Ew vagina hehehe nah.

However, upon further reflection, this topic can actually be quite insightful and interesting to explore.

The vagina is a natural and essential part of the female body, and understanding it can lead to a greater appreciation of human anatomy and sexuality.

Regardless of gender and sexuality, it is important to approach this subject with an open mind and a willingness to learn.

By educating ourselves about the vagina and other aspects of sexual health, we can break down taboos and promote a more healthy and informed attitude towards sexuality.

So, while the initial reaction may have been one of discomfort or玩笑, there is actually a lot to be gained from taking a closer look at this important topic.