Excelente! En este libro Katie nos enseña a deshacernos de los pensamientos obsesivos que no nos llevan a ningún lado.

Summary:
Ask yourself the following questions about any negative thought you have:
1) Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to 3.)
2) Can you absolutely know that it's true? (Yes or no.)
3) How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4) Who would you be without the thought?

Reading the book is/was unnecessary. In the end you need to practice it and the book just gives a bunch of examples. If you are interested in the topic; I guess the website is sufficient: http://thework.com/en/do-work (though I haven't tried any of it)

This was a complicated book to both read and rate. If you step way, way back and your takeaway is that worrying doesn't change or enhance the outcome, it is a helpful concept. Perhaps even a life changing concept. The idea that you should stay in your own business and not coerce others to meet your needs, is also a good concept. The complicated part is where Katie places the respsonsibility.

For situations where your goal is to simply be less bored, frustrated, unhappy, more fulfilled, her reasoning works. Let go of expectations, change yourself, see what you are doing to get in your way. I get it. The author had the same advice though to terminally ill patients, 9/11 survivors, incest victims and domestic abuse victims. She advised an incest survivor to look at her abuse through the perpetrator's eyes and realize he was the far more troubled of the two and see what a horribly tortured existence he had having to live with what he did. She goes on to ask her to see her complicity in the situation since she admitadly didn't shy away from the attention (rape at age 9) and never asked for it to stop.

The same callousness is applied to terminally ill people expressing their fear of death. She explains that the problem is in the incorrect thinking that they should live longer. A mother of a drug addicted daughter is told to realize that she (the mother) is in fact addicted to the idea that her daughter shouldn't use drugs and uses that addiction similarly to how her daughter uses drugs.

Her concepts could be useful if she stuck to more benign issues but it simply doesn't work in situations where significant trauma has taken place.

A few respected readers/thinkers in my life recommend Byron Katie. I very quickly developed a love-hate relationship with her.

I’m on board with the premise … investigate your thoughts as the source of your stress/discomfort/anxiety/depression. As a trained counselor, though, her method gets quite dangerous for abuse/harassment/violence victims. This can quickly become victim blaming and shaming. Also, there isn’t follow up work after your revelations; just more inquiry.

I think there are better books on mindfulness, Zen Buddhism, and letting go of the fallacy of control.

Katie Byron is FABULOUS....
Haven't heard her name for years!

She was a pioneer (along with Werner Erhard) ---

"The Way Things Are --are the way things are"!

FUN person! (we also saw her years ago)

Wow---all these spiritual books a Goodreads member posted --is taking me down memory land!

Not sure how i feel about this one. Things I liked and some stuff felt wrong to me. I'm going to discuss with the friend who recommended this and see if I feel differently.

* Liked her first question - can you know that it's true?
* Second question - can you absolutely know that it's true? That one is practically impossible to answer. There are very few things you can be absolutely certain about, if any. This was tricky for me.
* Then you get in to the part where you're looking forward to said "bad things." I can see that there is a beauty in accepting things you cannot control. But I'm not in a place where I can be excited to deal with trials that are breaking my heart - and I don't look forward to that.

Perhaps Katie is far more progressive than I am. Perhaps I'm not open to that much change yet. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps. I can see that part of this process is super helpful, but I worry that parts of it could be far more detrimental.

To be continued...

This book really puts into perspective how our mindset and interpretation of things that happen is what’s more powerful than the things themselves.

I really appreciated the line: “If I think they need the work, then *I* need the work”

"Reality doesn't wait for your opinion, vote, or permission, sweetheart. It just keeps being what it is and doing what it does." Byron Katie, pg 70.

When I am discontent, it is because I cannot accept some person, place or principle that is not as I want. I get stuck on the "shoulds". Even though I know I need to let it go, I'm not sure how. This book gives a very simple process of examining my thoughts. For this reason, I rate this book as a life changing five star.

Many of us cling to our story about how life has treated us. Our role as victim serves us well. This book will not be helpful to those of us unready to examine our perceptions about life. However, if you are tired of reliving over and over pain and hurt, this book may offer profound relief and a new freedom from terminal thinking.

This book has changed my life. At first, I thought the teachings were a little out there until I realized the point of the book. Loving What Is has helped me challenge my cognitive distortions and thinking errors which greatly relieved emotional distress. I couldn't recommend this book higher.

I own both the audio and paper versions of this book. Considering the fact that most of my reading and listening comes from local libraries, that is saying something. The concepts in this book are fairly easy to grasp, and the impacts can be life-changing. Rather than studying enlightenment for years and hoping for a glimpse, Katie's ideas are the fast-track.

To summarize, the book explains that we are the projector of the world and everyone in it. If the world seems chaotic, there is chaos inside us, and our job is to shine the light there. Expecting the world / situations outside ourselves to be different from what they are is hopeless, and leads to anxiety, fear, anger, and depression.

The worksheet Katie designed allows us to judge the people/situations in our lives that provoke us as a way of opening our eyes to the truth, clearing the lint from the projector so we can see reality as it is. The understanding is like a lightbulb being switched on; it is instant and life-changing.

Both the abridged and unabridged versions of the audiobook are wonderful. Katie does most of the narration. The abridged version consists mostly of live clips of Katie doing "The Work" with others at public events. The unabridged version is basically a reading of the full paper book. They are completely different but in my opinion, equally helpful.

I encourage anyone looking for a peaceful mind to read or listen to this book. Find more info at http://www.thework.com

I dont disagree with the concept of what she is trying to get across; I agree that only we have control over our own reality and the thoughts that reinforce our way of feeling. I agree about projection and acceptance. I like some of the questions such as "who would you be without the thought..." On the other hand I think the method is a bit harsh and cannot be used with just anyone who is suffering. I think it puts blame on people which can further reinforce the victim role that people who suffer often take on for themselves. the concept may be simple but I find it complicated and had to stop during the course of this book to really understand what she was doing. She comes across as insensitive at times even though she states she is not trying to be. But is if she was following her own mantra, she would not have to state that in the first place because if we think she is being insensitive or judgemental, that is just our own projections we are putting on her...I dont know if I would reccomend this to a client (I am a therapist) but I think people in general should read this book for some of the more feesible concepts.

I went into this with open eyes and mind and ended up being quite disappointed.

***SPOILER ALERT***

The story that really sent me over the edge was the one of the abused woman. She was sexually abused by her stepfather from about age 9.

Byron Katie must not be a sexual abuse surivor because her "work" with this gal both appalling and insensitive. To tell a victim that they need to admit they are guilty of some part of the abuse is incomprehensible to me. And to tell a victim to put herself into the abuser's shoes (how he must feel about himself) made me ill.

The abuse happened when this gal was a CHILD. A child does not think or process information the same way an adult does. It in no way was her fault. I re-read that chapter twice to make sure I was not missing anything that made me draw my initial conclusion, but I still felt the same after re-reading. That's when the book was put into the pile to go back to the library.