How to Develop Self-Confidence & Influence People by Public Speaking

"We have only four contacts with people. We are evaluated and classified by four things: by what we do, by how we look, by what we say, and how we say it."
Two chapters on practical advice of how to open and close a talk. Otherwise, mostly stories about people who have spoken with varying levels of success. Not for me.

Being a biggest fan of mr Carnegie I am always charmed to read him but an occasional time like sudden encounter a comet at western sky. For me, Carnegie's every book is like antidote but not a random choice! I always go or pick further next one whenever I feel its deepest catalysis 70% to 80% (or more than that) has been accumulated deep inside with actions because Carnegie's book has rich philosophy which needs to be emerged and grasped by psychology and formulated in action. However, this time I have been little disappointed by experiencing while I was going through this work because after 5th chapter it had been type of dry reading for me because the flow of its electrostatic idea somehow has been deteriorated as well lost its own way and was started to be exaggerated with vague and unnecessary stuff at subject complexion which is a gigantic fall of idea for me and this work that wasn't absolutely expected from one of the great writer like Carnegie. I'm going to give 3/5 for book.

The book blooms gradually like this way ! 

Chapter 1 

#Increase courage and self confidence 

 Start with enthusiasm and  Always find specific key of why you want to speak .

Breath 30 sec before you speak and calm down yourself

Always act that you are not afraid. 

Concentrate on your massages always more than on yourself. 

Always plan before what you want to say.

The main key to gain confidence for speaking is to speak.

Chapter 2

# How to open a talk

Start or open a speach with humor 

Ever never pretend yourself apologetic while speaking. It's very much crucial time for "F-I-R-S-T" 5 sec but it's very much difficult to keep public listening for next 5 minutes. Once you lost is lost, So always being something very much interesting with First sentence.

Always arise the curiosity of audience and give them shock with first sentence. 

Follow the magazine writer 

We can begin conversation with a story .

Begin with an illustration. 

Use any exhibit. 

Ask questions in order to make the people think and cooperate with you.

Always add a very simple, natural and interesting story.

Chapter 3

#How to close a talk. 

Always make plans for ending and not only one but 2 to 3 different strategies.

You have to understand of sensation of ending. 

Always ending speach with "some action needs to be done."

Close with sincere and optimistic compliments. 

"Always leave them laughing at the time of good bye. "

Stop when people egear to listen you in order to increase people's hunger.

Chapter 4

 # Self-confidence Through Preparation 

Always think about the subject in your mind everytime ,live with it, sleep with it.

Don't attempt to cover every area of subject, instead of take one point and exaggerate. 

Make a schedule and sit to study for gathering information as much as possible. 

Chapter 5 

# How Famous Speakers Prepared Their Addresses 

      1. State your facts.

      2. Argue from them.

      3. Appeal for action.


Many students of this course have found this plan very helpful and stimulating.


      1. Show something that is wrong.

      2. Show how to remedy it.

      3. Ask for cooperation.


      1. Here is a situation that ought to be remedied.

      2. We ought to do so and so about the matter.

      3. You ought to help for these reasons.

Or 

      1. Secure interested attention.

      2. Win confidence.

      3. State your facts; educate people regarding the merits of your proposition.

      4. Appeal to the motives that make men act.


How famous speakers prepared :

Write and record your speach and listen then correct 

Make notes

Practice alone and emerged yourself utterly and all the time.

Chapter 6 

# Essential Elements Of Successful Speaking 

#NIL

Chapter 7 

# The improvement of memory 

Meditation every day

Observe very carefully as well examain (Accuracy)

Read out loud (Lincoln technic)

Outline, write it and visualize 

Mnemonic techniques (Mark tween)

How to memorize a long book ?

REPETITION - "The natural law of remembering"
Repet often enough, use it, apply it, employ new words every day in conversation, call the strangers by his name, talk over the conversations the points to be needed in public address. 

The kind of repetition that counts 

Our memory actually works in intervals between repetition. Subconscious mind comes to work in intervals to be refreshed. 

In order to remember thing we have to do intelligent repetition. 

Chapter 8 

The Secret Of Good Delivery 

Strees important words, subordinate unimportant once.

Moderate your pitch high to low and low to high.

Pause is very powerful and most important.

Pause before important idea, bend forward towards audience and look at their eyes directly then speak

Pause before stress word.

Pause before and after important ideas.

Chapter 10

# How to make your meaning clear 

The main goals of speaker are :

To make something clear

To impress and convince 

To get action 

To entertain 

Always plan about spech 

Selp understand is very much indispensable because going to get something understand to someone 

Be concrete, be specific, be definite is always makes clearness, impressiveness, and conviction. 

Be short and one point at a time. If you want to cover several phases then summarize briefly at the end!

Chapter 11 

# Improve your diction

Read whenever and wherever you get time.

Read Shakespeare and Bibel 

Read dictionary daily in twice 

Always note the new words and look up several time in a day in pocket notebook. And Memories (daily 1).

Use thysus and memories synonyms and antonyms. 

Chapter 12 

# How To Interest your Audience 

Whenever talk, talk about themselves. 

Talk about people's interest not your own.

People are always interested in  amusing human story . (In details)

Always speak concrete and direct .

Always try to creat visual pictures by words.

Chapter 13

Capturing your audience at once 

#NIL

Definitely some good nuggets of wisdom in here about public speaking. Even several decades later, this book still holds up many of its points. There are many speech examples in this book, which I ended up skimming after a while, and many examples of speeches Lloyd George and Lincoln gave. I was reading this book for fun to help me to improve in my presentations. I think it may be better suited for someone in a speech/debate class. The crux of this book is that everyone is capable of being a good public speaker, which I believe is true. If public speaking is a fear of yours, I'd recommend this book to you to learn some basic tips and tricks.

A great book to equip ourselves to face a crowd and deliver our thoughts flawlessly . Most of the narrative come from the author - so they are authentic . will definitely help aspiring speakers to build confidence and share their thoughts .

The flipside being - a little bit of gender stereotype - why is the speaker always He?

It is Bible for self development.

it's an important classic.

<3.5

It's quite generalised advice. The kind of book you read through once and if you see any area that you have to work on, look for better advice on the topic. Problem with his books is they hinge on the reader already thinking 'ah, how nice would it be if I could be good at this'. But the book doesn't actually help the reader get there (though I suppose they feel better just reading and finishing the book). I prefer a book that tries to resolve problems that stop someone from reaching their goal.

When I'm lacking confidence or when I need a little push and inspiration, I read this book from the famous Dale Carnegie.