I'm truly happy for you straight people. You have a certain path in life that seems, in many ways, more straightforward and perhaps more socially accepted. You can easily express your love and affection for the opposite sex without having to face some of the challenges and prejudices that others might encounter. Your relationships are often celebrated and supported by society in a more conventional way.

You get to experience the joys of falling in love, getting married, and starting a family in a way that is familiar and understood by most. You don't have to constantly worry about how others will view your relationship or if it will be met with judgment. I'm happy that you have this sense of ease and normalcy in your romantic lives. It's wonderful to see the happiness that straight relationships can bring and I wish you all the best in your future endeavors.

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TL;DR - This book is solely focused on cunnilingus.

Skip to chapter 9 to access the actual content. The initial part is filled with rhetorical virtue signaling and bashing on guys and their historical ignorance.

It requires a significant number of pictures. The anatomy section had only 2 images, which were almost stick figure-like sketches, and the action parts were even worse. Illustrating the layers of muscle and other tissue, along with indicating when and where each should relax, contract, or engorge upon stimulation, would have been beneficial. There should also be at least some mention of statistical trends, variance, potential cultural differences, and what to do if your partner has cognitive difficulties or issues from past encounters. Additionally, pictures of the locations of the openings and ducts of each gland would have been nice.

Moreover, perhaps due to my recent immersion in academic papers, this book reads like a long magazine article. While some may enjoy the pop trivia, the constant use of secondary sources and quotes from other (often informal) magazines and books as if they were scientific evidence is irritating. The lack of biological mechanisms or behavioral studies is also a drawback. It offers only suggestions and speculations, and the information content seems only slightly above the level of locker room gossip.

I wish the author had incorporated more from the field of microbiome research. I suspect that cunnilingus would impact the microfloral and fauna ecology of both participants, with noticeable downstream effects on scent, taste, and overall well-being. However, the author mainly provides only general statements and the advice to eat more yogurt and maybe drink wine, which I find skeptical.

Despite the above, I did learn a few things. For example, I was unaware that the Clitoral Glans retreats under the hood at the peak of sexual arousal. It is unfortunate that the author gives different explanations for this in different sections. The notes on alternative positions of the body, legs, hands, fingers, lips, mouth, and tongue, as well as the placement of pillows, are helpful. Finally, chapter 22 offers a useful section on literary recommendations for foreplay.

Conclusion = 2/5 stars. You might prefer to read "Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life" by Emily Nagoski for the psychological aspect of sexual pleasure, or "The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina—Separating the Myth from the Medicine" by Jennifer Gunter for a more science-oriented approach.

Still engaged in reading and referencing, I have come across some truly great concepts. This has led to a significant amount of technique testing and practicing, which has received rave reviews. I was fortunate enough to have the opportunity to practice on some bisexual and lesbian individuals, and I was rated in the upper 80%. Although I still have room for improvement, it's quite remarkable for a guy like me to now be considered the best among the guys and even better than most lesbians. I can't exactly brag about this to my parents, but it's still reassuring to know that I'm on the right track and making women happy. I almost feel like a slightly perverted Captain America!

This article is truly very informative. It provides a wealth of knowledge and insights that are relevant and valuable for all genders.

Whether you are male, female, or identify with another gender, there is something in this article that you can learn from and apply to your life.

It covers a wide range of topics, including relationships, personal growth, and social issues. The information presented is well-researched and presented in a clear and engaging manner.

Reading this article is not only a great way to expand your knowledge, but it can also help you to gain a better understanding of the world around you and how different genders experience it.

So, if you are looking for a thought-provoking and informative read, this article is a must-read for you.

I was extremely afraid to add this on GR back in 2013 when I first read it as a fledgling gay. At that time, I was so nervous and hesitant. Now, with Nonfiction November almost here, I have been trying hard to recall all the nonfiction books that I have read and cherished. It is such a delight to discover that this book is still being passed around and read by sapphics. It truly served me well during that difficult time in my life. It provided me with a sense of validation and connection. I am so glad that it is still making an impact on others. It gives me hope and makes me believe that there are always stories out there that can touch our hearts and souls.

Because, why not? Knowledge is power. This simple yet profound statement holds true in many aspects of life. In this case, I have decided to get a particular book for Jake. The book is titled “Vive La Vulva!”, and it is quite surprisingly spot on. What makes it even more remarkable is that it was written by a man. One might expect such a topic to be explored more commonly by women, but this male author has delved into it with great insight. I believe that this book will provide Jake with valuable knowledge and a new perspective. It could potentially open up discussions and expand his understanding of a subject that is often overlooked or stigmatized. By giving him this book, I hope to empower him with knowledge and encourage him to think more deeply about various aspects of life.

Picked this book up as a gag gift for a friend and ended up reading it.

Surprisingly, it contains really good information. However, the main thing that stuck with me was that what we know about sexuality, especially our own, is so often taught to us by negative or external sources such as pornography, gossip, and social media.

These are places and things that have no business informing us about sex and our role in it. As a result, we often come to believe that there is something inherently wrong or flawed with ourselves or our partner.

We internalize these perceived shortcomings as real, and they become baggage that comes between us and our spouse.

The reality, though, is that we have been lied to or misled, either intentionally or not.

Resources like this book, despite their imperfections, serve to remind us that our sexuality is not something wrong with us.

We were designed to inhabit it in a way that is mutual and best served with love, understanding, and commitment.

This book offers a different perspective and encourages us to question the information we have received and to embrace a more positive and healthy view of our sexuality.

It is a valuable resource for anyone looking to improve their understanding of themselves and their relationships.

240225: Maybe it's not the fifth book, but it's definitely the one I wish I had when I was much younger, say around 20, when I was first becoming active. Being a thinking man has always been a major aspect of my identity. And pleasuring a woman has been a definite ideal. But where else can you gain such knowledge? Your friends are likely just as clueless. Popular culture is based on deceptive exaggerations. Your parents, teachers, and other mentors will probably just expect you to muddle through.

Looking back, of course, there are years (even decades) of learning experiences. But there is an underlying ideological claim in this book that I agree with - it's sex-positive. That is, sex can and should be mutually affirming, regardless of the range of emotions desired. It should be non-abusive, non-coercive, equally pleasurable, not naturally perfect but perfectly natural. And yet, I also face a philosophical dispute in this favored conception of sex. What about those people who disagree with any or all of those assertions? What about this somewhat skewed or obsessive concern with sex? What about gay, bi, trans, asexual people, or simply those who do not share the same views on sex? Are they any less human?

I am much more on the spectrum towards sex, and this text would have been very useful, and perhaps still is. However, there is a pragmatic orientation and a particularly male perspective, despite its avowed interest in women's pleasure. It's about how men can give this pleasure and the value for both men and women in giving it. In the later pages and appendices, it tends towards an instructional model. He does qualify that every woman is different and that the key is deep listening.

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I have always regarded myself as proficient in cunnilingus. However, this book has imparted some novel techniques to me.

At first, I was rather apprehensive upon seeing a book about the female orgasm and proper ways to pleasure a woman, written by a man. For a long time, men have been penning guides and pamphlets regarding the mysteries of the female orgasm. Many of them were quite vulgar, and Ovid comes to mind. Nevertheless, upon seeing all the outstanding reviews written by women, I was intrigued.

As I mentioned in the beginning, I always thought I was good at giving oral sex. Obviously, I'm sure most guys think they're amazing, but in reality, their partners might fake their orgasms to please them. Still, I had a strong sense that through my research and trial and error, it was a skill I had acquired and truly enjoyed. Kerner's work has unveiled to me a world of the secrets of the vagina's biology and the best ways to stimulate and pleasure the clitoris. Moreover, Kerner's scientific and somewhat poetic language has managed to address many of my own queries and doubts surrounding cunnilingus and how to ensure my partner reaches orgasm every time.

Kerner offers a useful step-by-step guide on what to do and what not to do throughout the entire oral sex process, even providing a cheat sheet for those who need a quick reference in the minutes leading up to expected cunnilingus. I had no objections to what he wrote, and his work appears to be supported by sexologists and other female testimonials, so I have no doubt that they are based on orgasmic experiences.

This is a book that I believe all straight men should read at least once in their lives. It not only provides an expert guide on pleasuring a woman but does so philosophically. Kerner instills his mantra of enjoying the act, savoring the act, and the act unifying the couple. As the title suggests, making sure she comes first is Kerner's main teaching. By ensuring your partner is satisfied before having sex, you will relieve a burden from your shoulders, and your lovemaking will be more passionate and your relationship stronger.

Everything you ever wanted to know about women and orgasms is a topic that holds great significance. Understanding this aspect of a woman's sexuality can have a profound impact on relationships. If every man would take the time to read and truly understand this information, it could potentially lead to a decrease in the divorce rate. In fact, this knowledge is so important that it should be considered required reading in high schools. By educating young people about the intricacies of female sexuality, we can help them form healthier and more fulfilling relationships in the future. It is essential that we break the taboos and stigmas surrounding this topic and have open and honest conversations. This way, both men and women can better understand each other's needs and desires, leading to more satisfying sexual experiences and stronger relationships.

I must say that I had my doubts initially. I wondered if I would really enjoy reading a "self help" book on a subject as personal and private as this. However, I can now say without a doubt that I truly enjoyed this book. My wife also read it and had the same feeling. What's more, it opened up a line of communication between us that we didn't have before.

I have come across plenty of negative reviews. The main theme seemed to be that the book becomes one-sided and narrow on the subject of oral sex. Another criticism was that it gives just one point of view about women, leaving the reader with the impression that all women are like that in the book. But I actually didn't get any of those impressions.

The point of reading this book for me was to gain knowledge on oral sex and understand how women may feel about it. I got even more than that. I learned about why women may respond in a certain way and how to talk about sex in general. If you can read this with your partner, I think no matter what level of experience you both have, you will truly gain from it. I read the Kindle version, so I don't know if the printed version is different, but I highly recommend this to any couple looking to develop a deeper intimacy together.