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The importance of exercise cannot be emphasized enough. It is beneficial for both physical and mental health. Regular exercise can help you maintain a healthy weight, improve your cardiovascular health, and strengthen your bones and muscles. It can also reduce stress, anxiety, and depression.

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The importance of exercise truly cannot be emphasized enough.

It offers a plethora of benefits for both our physical and mental well-being.

Regular exercise plays a crucial role in helping us maintain a healthy weight. By burning calories and increasing metabolism, it keeps our bodies in a balanced state.

Moreover, it significantly improves our cardiovascular health. This leads to a stronger heart and better blood circulation throughout the body.

Not only that, but exercise also helps in strengthening our bones and muscles. Making them more resilient and less prone to injuries.

On the mental front, it is a wonderful stress reliever. Reducing feelings of anxiety and depression, and leaving us feeling more relaxed and positive.

In conclusion, incorporating regular exercise into our lives is essential for a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle.

I truly love this book.

It has provided me with a wealth of knowledge and interesting details that I found extremely engaging.

Every page seems to hold a new discovery or a thought-provoking idea.

I really enjoyed all the information it contains.

It's not just a book to read once and forget; it's one that demands to be reread.

In fact, I must reread it a few more times!!!

Each time I go through it, I'm sure I'll uncover something new and gain a deeper understanding.

This book has become a favorite of mine, and I can't wait to explore its contents further with each subsequent reading.

It's truly a remarkable piece of literature that I highly recommend to anyone with an interest in the subject matter.

The author's passion for both pussy and prose is truly admirable and is something that we don't often see openly. As a self-proclaimed word nerd, I have to admit that I sometimes felt his references to grammar and writing were a bit overdone. The purpose of using metaphors is to bring clarity, but in his case, they seemed more like they were there for charm and to force a theme.

However, it must be said that his intent and teaching regarding the oral pleasures of a woman were well executed and, if nothing else, succinct. The chapters were almost always fewer than five pages, making it a quick and easy read. I was disappointed, though, by the extremely small amount of attention given to the concept of multiple orgasms. Unlike the detailed instructions provided for achieving an initial orgasm, there was almost nothing about facilitating a second orgasm after the first, which is a completely different art.

Finally, the idea of oral sex during my period with a tampon does very little to arouse me. He should definitely learn about the wonders of products like Soft Cup as an easier alternative for dealing with periods.

Despite these shortcomings (pun intended), this is probably a fairly solid read for most people who are new to cunnilingus.

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As a woman, I'm well aware that I'm not precisely the intended audience for this book. However, I chose to read it along with my husband. I believed this would be far superior to merely guessing what the book was teaching men and would also open up an effective line of communication on the subject. Even though I had read numerous positive reviews for the book before purchasing it, I was still extremely surprised by just how excellent it truly is. She Comes First is, without a doubt, the best non-fiction sex guide I have read thus far. It truly hits the mark when it comes to assisting men in understanding a woman's body and what makes her respond. And the most astonishing thing about that is that it was written by a man.

In my view, one of the aspects that makes this book so successful is the author's holistic approach to the female mind and body. Mr. Kerner has such a remarkable understanding, not only of a woman's anatomy but also of how a woman thinks. While reading the book, I almost felt as if he was inside my head. The author's genuine care and concern for women resonate strongly throughout the book, and he presents a compelling argument for why the woman's pleasure should come first. In my opinion, any man who can read Mr. Kerner's words and truly take them to heart will have no difficulty in establishing a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship for both partners. Another factor that sets She Comes First apart from some other books is that it is a well-thought-out work that never appears to be a cheesy sex manual. I've come across a number of sex books that seem more like pornographic material than realistically useful instructional books. She Comes First keeps everything very simple and real. Mr. Kerner writes in a very down-to-earth style that is easy to relate to and understand. He does utilize a lot of literary analogies, which may not be to everyone's taste, but the information contained within them is still quite understandable even if the reader is not an English major. Also, while many sex books incorporate full-color photos (which can be fine at times), She Comes First adheres to ordinary line drawings that keep the reader's focus on the substance of the text while enhancing the words with helpful illustrations. In addition, the chapters are very brief (generally only a few pages long), and several of the ones on technique include repetition in the form of quick reviews at the end of the chapter, making it ideal for the often shorter male attention span.

My husband was certainly willing to read She Comes First. However, since he already reads a fair amount about sex and relationships on the internet, I think he was perhaps a little skeptical that he would learn anything new and, more importantly, that it would actually work. Well, I can truthfully say that both of us were pleasantly surprised by just how effective the techniques can be. If this book could teach my husband, a normally attentive lover, a few new tricks, I can only imagine what it might do for other men who aren't quite as skilled or considerate. Of course, that's with the proviso that they are open-minded enough not to think they already know everything. In fact, I even learned a few things about my own body that I wasn't previously aware of. Who knew that the clitoris wasn't just the “love button” but an entire network of eighteen different parts, all of which contribute to experiencing sexual pleasure? I certainly didn't.

She Comes First is primarily an instruction manual for cunnilingus, as well as an argument for why this is the most effective way to pleasure a woman. Nevertheless, there are also chapters on incorporating manual stimulation (a very important complement to cunnilingus), transitioning to intercourse, and practical information on safe sex, in addition to sections that briefly touch on things such as toys, light bondage, and sexual concerns such as premature ejaculation. The first half of the book is mainly about female anatomy, while the second half covers step-by-step techniques. I would caution any man who might be tempted to skip the first section to get to the “good stuff,” thinking that they already know these things, to think again. A woman's body is far more complex than it may initially seem, as I demonstrated with my earlier comment about the clitoris. If there are things that I didn't even know before reading this book, then it's highly unlikely that men would either, and truly understanding the female body and all of its inner workings is crucial for being able to effectively pleasure it.

Overall, She Comes First is a book that I would highly recommend to both men and women. Any man who desires to have a happy, healthy sex life and truly know what a woman wants should definitely read this book. Women should also do themselves a favor by encouraging their lover to read it, or at the very least, leave it lying around where it can be easily found. She Comes First has undoubtedly earned a permanent place on my bedroom shelf, and I am eagerly anticipating reading the companion book, Passionista (the retitled release of He Comes Next). Ian Kerner is also a regular contributor to several magazines and newspapers and makes appearances on various television programs such as The Today Show. Now that I know his philosophies definitely align with my own, I'll surely be looking up his articles and interviews as well. All I can say is that if Mr. Kerner makes a habit of practicing what he preaches at home, his wife is one lucky lady.;-)

An amazing book on this subject. It was authored by a man, which initially made me rather skeptical. However, since it was also highly recommended by numerous women, I decided to give it a go, and it truly paid off. The book offers solid advice not only regarding the technical aspects but also about the general mindset one should have when approaching cunnilingus.

Nevertheless, it lost a star. The reason being that the first part was stretched to approximately 100 pages for content that could have been easily conveyed in just 10 pages. I understand that there might be some page requirements to meet, but it really felt as if I was reading the same thing repeatedly. To the author's credit, he did mention that readers could skip the first part if they wished to.

Overall, despite this minor drawback, the book still provides valuable insights and is definitely worth a read for those interested in this topic.

If you have a desire to learn and at the same time have some giggles, then this is the book that can do both!

It offers a unique combination of educational content and humorous elements that will keep you engaged from start to finish.

The book is filled with interesting facts, useful tips, and entertaining stories that make learning a fun and enjoyable experience.

Whether you are looking to expand your knowledge in a particular subject or simply want to have a good laugh, this book has something for everyone.

So, pick up this book today and start learning while having a great time!

You will be amazed at how much you can learn and how many giggles you can have along the way.

Content warning for NSFW language and extremely (and I mean extremely detailed) descriptions of oral sex.

UPDATE: Good god, you wouldn't believe the amount of creepy messages I've received about this review. No, I will not be available to give you sex tips because I wrote a review about a book on sex tips. No, I am not interested in personal conversation about my sex life. Please stop being creepy about this towards me, or I'll have to delete the entire thing.

This is a manual on performing cunnilingus on women written for men, and it's truly bonkers. As the title suggests, it aims to prioritize a woman's pleasure for hetero men who struggle with that, so kudos to the author for trying to do a good thing. It meets m/f couples where they are, especially if sex for them is a brief 2.5-minute thrusting in the dark that ends with a man's orgasm.

Before I poke fun at some of the advice, I want to clarify that my intention is not to make the perfect the enemy of the good. The book de-prioritizes PIV sex as the end-goal of intimacy and focuses on oral sex as the main event, with the sole purpose of bringing women pleasure. This is a very positive and radical thing, especially for a book published 17 years ago. It has likely done a lot of good for hetero couples by de-centering penetration and centering mutual pleasure.

However, the book's paradigm is a one-size-fits-all approach to oral sex. Its instructions deliver several pre-planned and timed oral sex routines of varying complexity. The central problem is that it conceptualizes oral sex as something enacted on a passive, nonverbal woman. It portrays oral as a routine a man deploys to show off his sexual prowess, rather than something specific he does to please one woman based on her preferences.

Let's start with the ludicrous aspect of the advice. What music should you play during oral sex? Ravel's Bolero or whale singing? Yes, these are actual recommendations. Can you imagine? Bolero is now forever associated with this book for me. Also, what beverage best accompanies the taste of a woman's vulva? Wine, specifically Viognier. The author even goes so far as to describe the combination as "the closest you'll ever come to tasting ambrosia, the food of the gods."

The sweet nectar of her vulva! I also find it amusing how he feels the need to explain what ambrosia is to us. I can just picture a man arriving at a woman's apartment in 2005 for a third date, armed with a chilled bottle of viognier, mansplaining these vulval tasting notes to her while being overly proud of himself. How many women must have sent bathroom texts to their besties in 2005, saying something like, "I dunno, this one's a bit creepy. He has this thing about viognier and the taste of pussy? I'm kind of freaked out? Maybe call me later to make sure he wasn't an axe murderer?"

We're not done yet. How should you structure your oral sex session? Consult Aristotle's Poetics, of course. I, too, have read the Poetics, and I'm only disappointed (or maybe it's more like schadenfreude) that the author didn't use this opportunity to make some hamfisted connection between orgasm and Aristotelian catharsis or expound on feminist-friendly porn and theatrical mimesis. I'm a woman, and I'm out-wanking the author over Poetics references.

As these examples show, this reading experience is a disconcerting mix of pretentiousness and hokey wordplay. The book's concept, aside from making tedious comparisons to the Elements of Style, is to develop these oral sex "routines." They involve a template of set, timed moves that are supposed to work for every woman. But women have different preferences when it comes to getting off. There's some lip service paid to "listening to what she wants" and "seeing what works," but the whole template idea undermines this by choreographing the event like a dance routine.

The idea of checking in with your partner, responding to her feedback, and modifying what you're doing is not part of the process in the template. While there are some general pieces of advice that counter this, like asking the woman if you can watch her masturbate and telling her you want her feedback, the flow of the templates undermines this. The book is incredibly step-by-step in its advice, often highly repetitive, with relevant parts of one template copy-pasted into another. If communication and learning from what she likes specifically were significant parts of the process, they should have been included in the routines explicitly.

The main assumption in the book, which is toxic to both men and women, is the paradigm of a dominant man who wrests orgasms from a passive woman who doesn't direct the action or communicate verbally. The emphasis is on looking for non-verbal signs of arousal and escalating stimulation until the woman produces these signifiers. But receiving oral doesn't make you mute. Women can and should communicate what they want. The book's lack of ongoing verbal consent is especially problematic when it comes to ass-play. It's not enough for a man to indicate with exploratory touches that he's heading there before he sticks a finger up her ass. This is a question that requires consent.

I'd say verbal consent should apply even for penetrating a vagina with one's fingers. Maybe she doesn't want your fingers. Maybe the external touching is doing it for her. But of course, a default inserting fingers stage is part of the template, with no consent asked for.

Even when the author recommends letting the woman take control of the action (temporarily, of course), it's with the intention of "wearing her out." It has to be conveyed with this gross attitude of "let her think she's really doing something." The metaphor used is a boxing match, where the man is going to "rope-a-dope her" by letting her tire herself out so he can pummel an orgasm from her with his tongue when she's exhausted. Oh my God, what on Earth.

I do recognize that this is a seventeen-year-old book whose common assumptions don't quite reflect our current times. Even so, I think its assumptions about sexual techniques gained through sex research are still prevalent enough to comment on. The book uses science to declare that some things will work when it comes to pleasuring women, while others won't. For example, it accurately states that the clitoris is far more sensitive than many places within the vagina. But it also uses Kinsey's research to dismiss penile penetration as a way to get a woman off, and it re-labels the G-spot as "the clitoral cluster" that you stimulate with only your fingers.

However, some women like penetrative sex for getting off, and it's not fair to dismiss something that works for them. While countering the coital imperative is a positive thing, sweeping advice about what gets women off and what doesn't replaces one set of over-constraining sexual assumptions with another. Finally, the routines themselves, with their specific touches, intensity, and pacing, will only work on women who can tolerate direct clitoral touching and like moderate to aggressive stimulation at a rapid pace for an extended period. Some women don't like that kind of intense touching, and it won't work for them.

There should be a far more varied range of intensity within the recommended techniques, including adjacent-area touches and whisper-light direct touches that aren't fast-paced. The focus should be on finding out what feels good for each individual woman, not presuming a set of assumptions about what will feel good. Overall, the emphasis should be on discovering what actually works for that woman without the template.

It was worth reading this book. In general, it is worth reading such books, even if one has the impression that one already knows everything. Well, sometimes one can learn a practical detail that matters. There are quite a few such details in this book.

Moreover, the author presents these details in an engaging and accessible way. The writing style is clear and easy to follow, which makes it a pleasant read. Whether you are a beginner or an experienced reader, you will find something valuable in this book.

Furthermore, the book covers a wide range of topics, from the basics to more advanced concepts. This makes it a great resource for anyone who wants to expand their knowledge in a particular area. So, if you are looking for a good book to read, I highly recommend this one.

Some explanations on women's bodies can be useful to read.

However, aside from that, this article is not very informative. I already knew most of the things the author keeps pounding into your head constantly.

Moreover, it reeks too much of the typical, outdated societal idea that men are the all-encompassing force and women are not really in charge of anything. (By the way, I was mostly interested in the reversal of this.)

Even though there is a slight pretense of being somewhat different, it fails to deliver.

It's also not very well-written, with a lot of repetitions that don't add any value.

At least I found the idea that women-focused porn is far more focused on story than anything else quite hilarious. A simple search on "dedicated" sites will prove the complete opposite.

In conclusion, this article is best avoided safely.

This is the Kerner book that delves into female sexuality, yet it truly focuses on cunnilingus. In fact, it is quite exhaustive and contains some valuable information. It presents very specific cunnilingus routines for those who are interested.

Heh heh, I find myself blushing a little as I write about this topic. It's not every day that one gets to discuss such an intimate and often overlooked aspect of sexuality. The Kerner book seems to offer a detailed exploration of cunnilingus, perhaps shedding light on techniques and approaches that many may not be familiar with.

While it may be a bit embarrassing to write about, it's important to have open and honest discussions about sexuality. By doing so, we can gain a better understanding of ourselves and our partners, and enhance our sexual experiences. So, even though I'm blushing, I'm still sharing this information in the hopes that it may be helpful to others.

On the path to cunnilingus black belt, one embarks on a journey of exploration and skill development.

It is a path that requires dedication, curiosity, and a willingness to learn.

If you know me, you can just ignore this review, for it is meant for those who are interested in delving deeper into this particular aspect of sexual intimacy.

Becoming a cunnilingus black belt is not about simply achieving a certain level of proficiency; it is about understanding the nuances and pleasures that can be experienced through this act.

It involves learning about a woman's body, her erogenous zones, and how to use one's tongue and mouth to bring her the greatest amount of pleasure.

Whether you are a beginner or have some experience, the path to cunnilingus black belt offers endless opportunities for growth and discovery.

So, if you are ready to take your sexual skills to the next level, embark on this path and see where it leads you.

3 1/2.

If you have a passion for anatomy, and in particular, the anatomy of sex, then this is an outstanding book for you.

It delves deep into the fascinating world of the human body's sexual anatomy, providing detailed and accurate information that can enhance your understanding and appreciation.

Not only is it a great resource for those interested in the subject matter, but it could also have a positive impact on relationships.

Most girls would likely be overjoyed if their boys took the time to read this book.

It could lead to better communication, increased intimacy, and a more fulfilling sexual experience for both partners.

So, whether you're a curious individual or looking to improve your relationship, this book is definitely worth checking out.