FINALLY. I have finished this book. WHEW.

The version I read of this book was published in 1944. I don't know if newer versions have been modified at all, or not.

I would've given the book a five star rating if it hadn't been so completely TORTUROUS to get through the chauvinistic view points. Granted, most all of Carnegie's strategies for overcoming stress and worry were excellent and I plan to put many ideas to use, HOWEVER, the ideas presented in chapters like #25 titled: "How the Housewife Can Avoid Fatigue and Keep Looking Young!" are ridiculous. This chapter took me days to get through - and it was only five pages long!

For example, to quote from this, my least favorite part of the book, "Yes, you, as a housewife, have got to relax! You have one great advantage - you can lie down whenever you want to, and you can lie on the floor!...Lie flat on the floor whenever you feel tired. Stretch as tall as you can. Roll around if you want to. Do it twice a day."

HAH. If I had read this exerpt first, I would have thrown the book in the trash.

However, I was determined to acknowledge that this book was written in 1944 and attitudes towards women were much different then. So, I tried to ignore the comments about females and instead focused on the valid strategies to overcome worry.

The worthwhile strategies presented outweigh the chauvinistic attitudes.

I do recommend this book - but only if you are open-minded.

أعتبر هذا الكتاب من أروع الكتب العملية التي تجعلك تترك عادة "القلق" الكريهة بخطوات عملية وواقعية
هذا الكتاب لا غبار عليه ويستحق شهرته ولكني في الاونة الأخيرة بدأت أؤمن أن ما أقرؤه في الكتب التي إن صح تسميتها دينية أو التي تتكلم عن تطوير الذات وعلم النفس بشكل عام ولكن عن طريق الكتاب والسنة أجدها أكمل وأشمل من الكتب الأجنبية المترجمة وصدقا في جميع مجالات الحياة ومجال الذات وعلم الاجتماع بالذات أجد أن كتب علماؤنا الذين شربوا من وعائي الكتاب والسنة أكثر اقناعا وأشد تأثيرا وأصح قولا
من غيرهم
بل أجد أن حديثا واحدا من أحاديث الرسول عليه الصلاة والسلام يختصر كتاب كامل ويصلح لأن يكون قاعدة يرجع إليها .

Bardzo dużo ciekawych przykładów radzenia sobie ze stresem i zamartwianiem z życia wielu ludzi (znajomych autora lub tez bardziej znanych osób). Wiele myśli, które skłaniają do zastanowienia się nad sobą i swoim światopoglądem. Motywująca, dająca nadzieję na lepsze jutro, polecam

Yesterday is dead and tommorow is unborn - so do not worry about them. Instead, focus only on what you can do today!
Cam asta e ideea. :)

Un clasic, nu? Și o carte pe cât de simplă, pe atât de importantă, mai ales pentru vremurile pe care le trăim. Practic, grijile pe care ni le facem în fiecare zi ne omoară, fraților. Iar nenea Carnegie explică în stilul său ușor de înțeles cum putem scăpa în mare măsură de stres, pentru a ne putea bucura de viață. Citind cartea, mi-am dat seama de ce unii oameni pur și simplu fug de joburi care presupun răspundere. Îi invidiez, pentru că sunt conștienți că responsabilitatea înseamnă stres, iar stresul dăunează. Vorbesc din proprie experiență. La ultimul control medical, mi s-a găsit un lob al ficatului de trei ori mai are decât celălalt. Lucrurile erau mult mai nasoale acum trei ani. Nu am fumat niciodată, nu mai beau de trei ani, am o alimentație bazată pe plante, fac sport aproape zilnic, am slăbit 35 de kilograme în ultimii 5 ani. Cu toate astea, nu e de ajuns. Pentru că stresul - presupus de livrarea zilnică a unei emisiuni tv, plus asigurarea resurselor financiare pentru atâtea familii care depind de făbricuța asta, Starea nației - este enorm. Iar eu sunt tipul care se consumă din orice, care pune la suflet, care reacționează imediat, de multe ori impulsiv. Eram, mai bine zis, pentru că de când citesc și învăț atât de mult am reușit să schimb radical abordarea. La cartea lui Carnegie am revenit săptămâna trecută, căutând bibliografie pentru cartea despre un stil de viață sănătos, la care lucrez împreună cu a mea colegă, Alexandra Corbu. Și sunt acolo câteva sfaturi excelente. Vă dau doar câteva.
Confuzia dă naștere grijilor. Așa că e bine să afli ce anume nu ți-e clar și să rezolvi problema. Știți, da? Situațiile pe care le tot amânați și la a căror rezolvare vă gândiți zilnic, dar nu faceți nimic? Astea ne distrug încet, dar sigur. Înfruntați-le pur și simplu, spune autorul. Sigur, ușor de zis, ceva mai greu de făcut, nu?
Trăiește azi, ține departe de mintea ta grijile de ieri și pe cele de mâine. Sigur, pare o prostie, dar nu e. Ideea e că amânăm tot timpul viața, fraților, nu credeți? Muncim ca sclavii, ne facem o familie, credit, casă, copii, nu neapărat în ordinea asta, și tragem tare pentru ce? Pentru ce-o să fie la pensia pe care n-o apucăm oricum? Gândiți-vă la asta, pe mine m-a făcut să vreau să trăiesc și să mă bucur de fiecare azi.
Încă una și gata: fii mai fericit concentrându-te pe părțile pozitive ale vieții și fiind bucuros. Sigur că asta nu înseamnă să râzi ca boul indiferent ce se întâmplă, dar nu vă puteți închipui cât de mult ajută o setare pozitivă a minții.

دع القلق وابدا الحياة من جديد كتاب مفيد لغير مجتمع اما نحن العرب فمشكلة القلق مشكلة من مثات مشاكل وطبعا لايوجد أمل ولاحياة لنعيشها في تلل البلاد

- Advice - live in day-tight compartments.
- Imagine the worst, accept it, and try to improve upon it. Then you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
- Get the facts, analyze them, arrive at a decision, and act on the decision. You worry more when you don't know
- what is the problem? What is the cause? What are all possible solutions? What solution do you suggest?
- being busy leaves no time for worry
- don't be bothered by the little things
- cooperate with the inevitable. Bend like the willow; don't resist like the oak
- when we change our actions, we change the feeling. Act happy even if you're not.
- You don't attract what you want, but you attract what you are
- Don't expect others to be grateful. Give for the inner joy of giving. To raise grateful children, we have to be grateful.
- quote by John Baillie - "What makes a man a Christian is neither his intellectual acceptance of certain ideas, nor his conformity to a certain rule, but his possession of a certain Spirit, and hsi participation in a certain Life."
- no one ever kicks a dead dog - if you're kicked and criticized, it means you are accomplishing something and are worthy of attention.
- people aren't thinking about you. They're thinking about themselves
- take naps.
- relax your eyes
- do things in the order of importance.
- clear desk of everything not related to the immediate problem at hand.
- don't put off decisions

Many people sneer at self help books, but I credit Dale Carnegie's How to Stop Worrying and Start Living with being one of several books that helped me to understand and control the anxiety and panic disorder that also plagued most of the members of my family. Fear is often born from "not understanding," so I made sure to examine my fears before I gave into them.

I agree that mental health issues need to be addressed with proper medical assessment and intervention, where required, but Carnegie's books were the stepping stones that helped me take charge of my life, get a good education and then decide what I wanted to do with that education. I started to take the conventional path, but at one point, I realized that keeping up with the Joneses was not making me happy, so I made some radical lifestyle changes. We don't need as much as we want, and our possessions start to own us after a while. Always good to keep that in mind!

إن لم تكن قد قرأت هذا الكتاب فضع ما بيديك جانبا و ابدأ قراءته الآن !

كتاب سيغير طريقة تفكيرك للأبد ويجعل الحياة أسهل وأكثر مرونة، ليس عن طريق الكلام الحماسي الذي ينتهي بمجرد الانتهاء من قراءة الكتاب... بل عن طريق التطبيق العملي والممارسة اليومية لمبادئ وأفكار ديل كارنيجي الفعالة.

when I decided to read this book
I was very depressed
and even I couldn't read any more books
I don't know why?
I was good at outside but my inner life was damaged
but after reading this precious book everything changed
it was like a window that lets you see the other side of life (the positive side of it)
the true stories let us believe in our self
that we can do it too

Skamba kaip geri patarimai, tik kaip juos įgyvendinti, kai esi užkietėjęs nerimautojas. Nemažai dėmesio skiriama tikėjimui, kas mane, kaip ateistę nuliūdina, jog be maldų negalėsiu ramiai gyventi. Knyga pateikiama daugiausia vien praktiniu pobūdžiu, remiamasi sukaupta didžiule gausa istorijų žmonių, kurie iš savo gyvenimų iškrapštė nerimą. Kai kuriuos patarimus tikrai iš šios knygos išsinešu su savimi.

Wow this was long! But good. It's actually one of the only anxiety books I've ever read that I'm thinking is worth a re-read at some point.

But first, a little light-hearted critique:
* Dale Carnegie is a Buzzfeed writer before there were such things. ("If you have a worry problem, apply the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier." "Seven Ways to Peace and Happiness", "If You Do This, You Will Never Worry About Ingratitude", "How to Cure Melancholy in Fourteen Days").
* Dale Carnegie is also your mother who knows exactly where you're off base and is talking to you kindly but firmly about how to Straighten Up.
Yeah, it's an interesting tone. It's a bit... folksy? Is that the right word? I think so. You definitely feel as if he knows who he's talking to. And it's you.

BUT. In spite of the fact that I chuckled/cringed at some things...
He makes a lot of solid practical points, and he says them in a way that makes me sit up and take notice. I think since he was writing decades before the market was flooded with formulaic self-help books written in a detached clinical voice, his text stands out as truly unique and memorable. And some of his points have actually popped into my head during anxious moments, days after reading about them. I honestly think I will remember and use some of this stuff.

One of my favorite points came early on. And, you guessed it, it's "the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier." ;) Yeah, I'm not crazy about that label. But the chapter is very thought-provoking. We worrywarts spend a lot of time distressed about terrible but vague outcomes. The advice here is to try and define to yourself what is the worst logical outcome in this situation... face up to it, mentally prepare to accept it if you have to, but then calmly proceed to improve upon the worst.

Related to that is another chapter on cooperating with the inevitable. It's exhausting to think you can control the uncontrollable, you know? I have that problem sometimes. Especially in a COVID world. So this chapter is about stopping that mindset. It doesn't mean giving up when there's a chance to make something better. But, if it's truly something that can't be changed... well, as he says, "No one living has enough emotion and vigour to fight the inevitable and, at the same time, enough left over to create a new life." I'm reviewing the chapter now, and I have to say, it's powerful stuff.

Dale Carnegie includes lots of real-life stories that illustrate what he's talking about. Some of them are very poignant, and some of them seem a little over-hyped. And some of them are just a product of their time. Like the short article, "I Was Acting Like an Hysterical Woman," by Cameron Shipp. Whew. Glad he got some help for that. I guess Hysterical Men hadn't been invented yet.

(Note: There are definitely some instances of gender and racial stereotyping that stand out glaringly to a modern reader.)

But all in all, this was a solid, straightforward read for anxious people, and in my opinion, way more engaging (if also occasionally snort-inducing) than most current books on the subject. So much so that I'm considering getting a hard copy so I can review and highlight some things.

DNF @ 26% because I cannot stand the bullshits and the romanticisation of overworking as a way to cope with anxiety by stacking up another. Learned that the hard way but it was not a pleasant experience per se. Maybe I’d try to pick this up another day when I’m not feeling so self-conscious. Or bitter. Or maybe nonfics are just not for me.