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As nice as it was to read a positive marriage book about emphasizing the good things about your spouse and your relationship, Dr. Neil Clark Warren's book is a frothy, cotton candy snack of a book. Considering Warren admits most of the time couples therapy does more harm than good, it's no wonder the divorce rate is so high in America. Warren's book is a strange mixture of advice on making your spouse feel good while also reminding the reader one's most important relationship is with oneself (which is not actually true), sprinkled with occasional lip-service to God. If one has never read a positive book on being married, this is a decent place to start, but as Warren himself admits throughout, it's only a beginning point (perhaps we are to read his other books to get more information). Warren's message throughout is to accentuate the positive, whether it's physically, verbally, emotionally, or spiritually (his treatment of spirituality is quite horrendous, essentially equating God with Santa Claus who wants to fill our stockings with happiness if we only think he's out there). Warren says the bad stuff in a troubled relationship needs to be dealt with, which is true, but he does say it should be done when you are willing to remember the good times. It's not a total waste of time, since it is such a short and fast read (and one of the few marriage books emphasizing positive things), but you won't get a whole lot of useful (or even accurate) things out of it.
