886 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1,1960
The desire to be near the beloved object initially stems not from the idea of possessing it. Instead, it is simply to allow the two experiences to compare themselves, much like reflections in different mirrors. This comparison enriches the understanding of both the self and the beloved. However, as time passes, there is a risk that love may degenerate. It can turn into a mere habit, where the once passionate connection fades into routine. Then, it may further transform into a sense of possession, as if the beloved is something to be owned. But this path often leads back to loneliness. The true essence of love, which was initially about connection and comparison, gets lost along the way. We must be vigilant to ensure that love does not follow this downward spiral and instead remains a source of growth and fulfillment.