My mom got this book for me for our wedding, and I won't lie...it sat around for quite some time before I could put down my paranormal romance books and see what it was all about. I have to say, I was pleasantly surprised. It gave me a lot of insight about the inner workings of a relationship and that love, a feeling, is also a choice! Luckily I am one, who has a full tank...so it took me some time to decode what my love language truly is, but I'm glad for it! AND my husband even said he'd read it! :) HIGHLY recommend to ANYONE in a relationship! I think I'll even be purchasing the 5 Love Languages of Children! :)

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I think every married couple should read this at least once.
Do the quiz and know what Love Language your partner speaks.

For the advice given in this book I give Chapman a five star rating.
The writing on the other hand was not that good. He tends to "speak" down to the reader, making you think - I am not that stupid. Also he repeats himself A LOT!

Reading this I think is the easy part: to practice what Chapman suggest is the difficult part.

So over the years this is a book that has been gifted to me. Why? I’m not sure. I recently received another copy a few days ago and decided it was time to give it a read. I have 4 copies of this book.That is correct, 4, and all were gifted. Apparently my friends think I needed this book bad and while I’m not married it was interesting looking back and seeing where miscommunication occurred that could have been simply prevented if we knew what the other one needed based on how they interpreted love and vice versa.

Rating: a little over 4 stars.

This book was good. The concepts are important. I got the singles edition as well so I could actually apply these ideas to my current life. The book got a little tedious, though. I felt the first 9 chapters were all that were needed. These chapters encompassed an overview of how Chapman came to the 5-language conclusion, a discussion of each of the five languages, and a "how to determine your love language." I felt the remaining chapters served very little purpose other than to make the book a little longer. In a few weeks, I will likely skim and maybe read the Singles Edition.

One issue I had with this book was one Chapman didn't address at the extent I thought he should have. Because different people speak different love languages, a certain expression of love that might not be your primary language can mean more coming from a person for whom that expression is difficult than if that person acted within your primary love language. This might seem like an inconsequential issue, but, if I know that it is hard for someone to express him/herself through physical touch (he or she isn't a huggy person), I will recognize how much he or she must care about me if he or she gives me a warm hug. Now, I test low for physical touch being my love language; however, knowing another person's disposition would make that hug mean a lot more to me ("fill my love tank") than if a huggy person embraced me, or potentially even if that person had spoken my language.

I suppose my point is, while it is important for people to learn to express love for others in ways that speak to them in their own language, I didn't feel Chapman addressed the fact love is coming from another person and knowing what is more difficult for that person should mean a lot. Perhaps that wasn't addressed so much in this book, though, since it was written for married couples. I still feel that someone would value my hugs more than the gifts I give because those hugs are rarer than the gifts.

افضل ما في هذا الكتاب ثلاثة أشياء:
الأول: التركيز والتبسيط
اعتقد ان�� قد تنسى الكثير مما تقرأه وربما تنسى محتوى هذا الكتاب كذلك ولكن سيبقى عالقا في ذهنك على الاقل العناوين الرئيسية للغات الخمسة للحب (تكريس الوقت، كلمات التشجيع، تبادل الهدايا، الأعمال الخدمية، الإتصال البدني)ه
الثاني: التنظيم والترتيب
أثر فيّ هذا الكتاب بأن قام بعمل تنظيمي داخل عقلي .. فأنا أعرف كل المعلومات التي ذكرها الكاتب مسبقا وربما الكثيرون ايضا، ولكن ما فعله الكاتب هو ان رتب المعلومات الموجودة داخل رؤسنا ووضعها داخل أدراج خمسة بالعقل، يسهل الوصول اليها والتعامل معها وإستدعائها وقت الحاجه ..
ثالثا: صحة الفكرة
اذا تمعنت في التفكير وحاولت تطبيق ما قرأته عمليا على بعض الاشخاص حولك ستكتشف ان الكاتب محقا فكلنا نعبر عن الحب من خلال الخمس طرق الاساسية تلك على اختلاف تنويعاتهم وسجد أنك انت نفسك تفضل التعبير عن الحب باستخدام طريقة فضلا عن اخرى وهكذا .. إن معرفة لغة الحب الخاصة بشريكك تساعد على انجاح العلاقات بشكل كبير .. فالحب ليس مجرد اقوال ومشاعر مندفعه فحسب بل يستحق ما هو اكثر من ذلك، مزيد من التفكير والبحث والقراءة لتطويره والمحافظة على استمراريته

بي اينكه كتاب رو خونده باشم تو زندگي به كار برده بودم همون حركات واصول رو واصلا خودم نميدونستم

This is suppose to be a self-help teaching book....for me there was too much chatter.....when I listen to these type of book...please get straight to the point for me....too much talking leads to me tuning out, which is exactly what I did in a lot of this book. In addition, I really don't need someone to explain to me what my love language is and if you are in tuned with the people that you care about, you can completely understand what their love languages are and the things that bring them joy. Simply pay attention. It really is that simple.

I was tempted to not give this book a high rating because I do not like self-help books and especially marriage advice type things. So many people recommended this book to me that I wanted to read it just so I could have an opinion on it and I have to say that I think it is pretty useful. It is definitely cheesy and certainly oversimplified, but the author is on to something. I have been trying this out not just on my marriage, but also with my children and other relationships and it's just nice to know that people speak different "languages" or whateve you want to call them when it comes to feeling appreciated/loved. I do not think that there are only 5 and I do not think people have just one or two, but it's good to know that it probably isn't the one you are using and to try to observe and use different ways of communicating. My other criticism is that Gary Chapman never even mentions gender differences and I am sort of relieved that he doesn't because I would be worried that they would be oversimplified. But I do think that a lot of miscommunication happens along gender lines. All in all, I liked it and I would recommend it to anyone in a marriage or any type of relationship--not as the only tool, but as a useful one, in trying to understand and appreciate your spouse/significant other/child.

لا يمكننا ان نمحو الماضي ولكن يمكننا ان نقبله كتاريخ.

My dad actually recommended this book to me and I finally decided to check it out from the library. Although I think my husband and I have a good relationship - it was amazing how much I learned from this book! And how I realized that by understand how we communicate differently - it could strengthen our relationship. I would recommend this book to just about anyone! A lot of it seems common sense but it's a good reminder and an eye-opener to read it.

Turns out, my top three love languages are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, and Touch. I knew this before reading the book, but at least I know I was right!

The 5 Love Languages is a good and helpful book that is very easy to comprehend. There were some naïve bits where I had to shake my head and laugh, but overall it's very aware and has helped a lot of relationships. I'd say everyone, no matter what kind of relationship you're in, should give it a shot.

FINAL VERDICT: 3.5 stars

Chapman used many real-life examples from his own marriage, and of couples that he had counselled across the years, to illustrate the concepts in his book and how they can be applied to address different marriage/ relationship issues and circumstances. These are case studies help us to identify similarities and lessons for our own relationships.

In the book, he also offers 2 pages of additional ideas and suggestions for each of the 5 love languages, as well as separate love language profile surveys for husbands and wives (to identify your primary love language). If you enjoyed the ideas in this article, do get a copy of The 5 Love Languages from Amazon