children is a gift from god..
this book will teach you how to know your children needs. every child or every person has a different way of feeling love. get to know your child love language. we have to use all the languages with our children but focus on the one they feel loved through.
my kareem feels it from quality time. but tooti through physical touch.
to be honest this book will change your behavior. we need to discipline our children but with LOVE.
LOVE your children and stop abusing them
stop ABUSING them.

This was a joint read, so we could read and discuss our parenting tactics, but it became much more than that. We'd worked through The Five Love Languages before and I remember being blown away by that, not expecting the same thing here - and for a very different reason.

Our experimental test subject (first child) is still a toddler, under the key age for this book; the specific tactics aren't really applicable for under 4s, and you probably want to implement them before the teenage years begin (for everyone's sanity), so instead of plotting evil loving parental strategy we found ourselves mulling over our own childhoods and seeing them in an entirely new light. You could almost use this as a pre-counseling book, if needed.

Although nominally a Christian book you won't find it out of place anywhere - this is a parenting book, first and foremost. Anything else is by-the-by. I dinged a star because it was too repetitive in some places, but then I suspect it was also designed to allow people to just read one chapter here or there and still make sense of it.

Highly recommended to anyone who has children or plans to.

I was introduced to The Five Love Languages when I was a young teenager. I was instantly intrigued by the idea of five different ways that people show and receive love. So when the opportunity came up to read The Five Love Languages of Children I was excited to pick it up since I've become a mother. The idea of loving my child in the best ways possible for them was easily something that I wanted to learn more about!

“The 5 Love Languages of Children” is written by Gary Chapman, author of “The 5 Love Languages”, and Ross Campbell, a psychiatrist who specializes in the parent-child relationship.
If you've read The 5 Love Languages, you will recognize the same elements discussed in that book but this time, they apply to children, which is where Ross Campbell's expertise comes in to play.
There are sections devoted to parenting philosophy, discipline & the nature of children whereas the original book focused more on the spouse and romantic love relationships.
A good informative book, for parents, couples, teachers or anyone who wants to grow their Emotional intelligence towards children!

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كما قال جبران خليل جبران هم ليسوا لنا بل هم ضيوف نحاول قدر الإمكان أن نكرمهم ونحسن ضيافتهم لعلهم يحسنوا إلينا عندما نحتاج إلى دعائهم يوما ما.

الكتاب أضاف إلي أكثر مما كنت أظن إستفدت جدا فهو يتماهى مع طرق التربية الإيجابية ويحاول تحليل الجانب النفسي للحب لدى الأطفال.

كتاب جميل وخفيف،انصح بقرائته

I took a class that used this book and at the time, thought it was fabulous and brilliant and insightful. My kids were really young and I couldn't wait for them to be old enough to try this all out on them.

I just went back and re-read it, and this time found it interesting and somewhat helpful but lacking in concrete ways to determine love languages in children. It would have helped to have more examples of the "either/or" questions, for example. I was reading it specifically for help with one child, and having finished the book I am not sure I have much more insight on her than I did before reading it. The other two kids were more easily "pegged" into this book. But if the book doesn't help with the more "difficult" case, then what is it for?

Like Dr. Sears or any of the myriad experts on young children, this book essentially promises that if you follow its approach, you WILL be a fabulous parent and have well-adjusted, happy children who grow into productive adults. Well, that's all well and good if your children happen to have read this book and decided to follow along.

Anyway, I still the general theory is a good one and it has helped me over time when I've had trouble connecting with people and couldn't understand why. Like anything else of this genre, in the end I found some useful nuggets but also some flaws.

Wow! I am truly impressed by this book and highly recommend to all parents. This was an amazing resource for parents who want to raise emotionally healthy children. The authors explain specifically the five ways children receive and perceive our love, and the book helps parents learn how to keep their children’s emotional love tanks full with unconditional love so that they can then train them and guide them more effectively. The authors explain that no matter how the children act, if the child feels genuinely loved by their parents they will be more responsive to parental guidance in all areas of their lives.

This book goes in detail about each of the love languages and how to notice them in your child and how to respond.

The last bit of the book shows how couples can fill up their spouses’ love tanks with their spouses’ love language to better express love, honor and respect to one another and be better in sync to better parent their children. The book gives hope as well for all the parents that even if the reader did not use these techniques with their children when they were young, it’s never, ever too late to begin–even with adult children.

لو قريت كتاب الكبار قبله، فعدي اول 5 فصول بتاع شرح اللغات واوصل للفصول اللي بعدها على طول..
الفصول اللي بعد شرح اللغات بقة رااائعة، فعلا مفيدة وفيها جوانب كتير مهمة وانا رأيي انه كتاب لازم لازم يتقري!

مراجعة كتاب لغات الحب الخمس التي يستخدمها الأطفال

جاري تشابمان

روس كامبل

وصلتني رسالة على بريدي الإلكتروني من الأخ خليل لمكتبة القراء البحرينيين، شدني عنوان الكتاب وعلى الرغم من أنني لست قارئة إلكترونية أن صح التعبير إلا أنني بدأت في قراءة الكتاب، كلمة شدتني لنهاية السطر وما أنهيه السطر حتى يأخذني السطر الآخر بقوة.

لطالما أمنت بأن الحب هو نبض العلاقات هو روح العلاقات المؤسسة لحياة سعيدة، ولأسباب كثيرة نعلمها أحيانًا ونجهلها أحيانا كثيرة لا نوفق لتلك السعادة في بعض الفترات.

أتحدث الآن من قلب أم وقفت كثيرًا متسائلة عن الكيفية التي تمكنها من الوصول إلى قلب أحد أبنائها، متسائلة عن سبب غضبهم في اغلب الأوقات؟ وكيف بإمكانهم التنفيس عن غضبهم دون أن يؤذوا المحيطين!؟ كيف بإمكاني مساعدتهم وجعلهم قريبين !!؟ ما هي أسباب كل ذلك !؟

أجابني الكتاب عبر فصول قائلًا : عزيزتي أنكِ لا تتحدثين لغة الحب الخاصة بطفلك، فَّفَّرغ خزان الحب لديه فتمرد في سلوكه ليلفت نظرك، أنه يحتاج لملأ ذلك الخزان من جديد بالحب ليستطيع أن يواصل الحياة فبدونه الحب هو ضعيف من الداخل.

- أحبهم جميعًا وأحاول جاهدة أن أكون منصفة في تعاملي!!.

- نعم ولكن تتحدثين لغة حب واحدة قد لا يفهمها جميعهم فهناك يا عزيزتي خمس لغات للحب

-خمس لغات للحب ، وما هي!؟

1- التلامس الجسدي.

2- كلمات التوكيد.

3- الهدايا.

4- أعمال الخدمة.

5- الوقت النوعي.

فابحثي بين صفحاتي كيف يمكنك أن تتعلمي التحدث بتلك اللغات جميعًا وكيف تكتشفي لغة الحب الخاصة بأبنائك فكل إنسان يحتاج الخمس لغات ولكن هناك لغة واحدة ما تشعره أن محبوب.

تلك اللغات مكتوبة بكلمات بسيطة لأفكار متسلسلة تأخدك تدريجيًا لإستيعاب الفكرة والجميل هو أرشادك إلى مراجع أخرى في حال الرغبة في الاستزادة، النماذج للحالات الحقيقية التي مرت على الكاتب بحكم وظيفته كدكتور نفسي دعمت الافكار بشكل جدًا قوي.

أنصح كل أم وأب وزوج وزوجة يتطلعون إلى حياة أكثر راحة بقراءة الكتاب.


** لا انسى ان اتقدم بالشكر للجهود المبذولة في المكتبة الإلكترونية لتحدي القراء البحرينيين.

أمل سالم

20/03/2016م

With any book that's designed to help parents be better parents for their kids, it's easy to fall into the trap of defining the success of the book by whether its advice was successful in the reader's family. The fact that every child is different is actually the highlight of this book. This helps people understand why two kids might react completely differently to the same gifts, the same activities, and the same punishments. It has to do with how the people involved show and express love.

Most of the explanations from this "5 Love Languages" book were more instructive to me than the examples from Gary Chapman's main book in this vein, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.

One problem: I expected this book to help with my toddler. In the book, Chapman and Campbell say that if the child is under the age of 5 that I should just not try to figure out the love language. They also say that parents should not discipline or punish the child with methods related to the child's love language. (E.g., a child in dire need of Quality Time could be emotionally damaged by punishing them with isolation.) This presents a problem: I am not to discipline in my child's love language, but I can't know what my child's language is until he's older? Should I simply hope that my discipline tactics are not in the same language as my son's understanding of love?

Sadly, the authors do not offer a solution to this. It seems that the book is geared primarily toward school-aged children. Still, the advice seems good and I'd hate to fault the book with a lower rating simply because of the book's scope. I wish the publisher had clarified the appropriate age range of the book in its list description.

This book is garbage.

I really liked this book. The theory is that there are 5 love languages and by figuring out your child's primary love language, you can figure out how they best perceive and feel love. Without even reading the descriptions, I could easily figure out my oldest son's primary love language. The books says if your child is under 5, you probably won't be able to tell their primary language yet so I am interested in trying to pick up the clues as the twins get older.