I just didn't find it very insightful.

Great advice for parents on how to speak their child(ren)'s love language. Is has been helpful for my relationship with one of my children in particular. I'm going to read it with my husband next so we can both reach out to and love that child in the best way we can.

I was all set to give this book at least 4 stars until the last 6 minutes of the audiobook when the co-author, Ross Campbell, called his own daughter “profoundly r*t*rded.” Seriously? Now, I know this book was originally published in 1997, but the audiobook I listened to was published in 2016. You’re telling me that in 19 years, you couldn’t have gone back and changed 1 word? I know Campbell died 4 years before this audio was published, but he was also a child psychiatrist and still used that word? The other author is still alive and you’d think between him and the publishing company, someone would’ve had the sense to edit.

Now that you know my love language, will you use it against me? Seriously, compartamentalizing love into five expressions is a bit limited. To some it may help to understand why those "special" people don't meet our expectations, and how to accept their love expression (even though it may not mean much to my love language receptor). I was one of the unusual ones that couldn't figure out my love language... sort of like those personality/gift tests (dinc) that put me in the "I don't know" range. Just think how frustrated my wife must be?!? Maybe there are 5 more love languages out there we have not discovered yet...

انهيت اليوم قراءة كتاب لغات الحب الخمس التي يستخدمها الأطفال لمؤلفيه جاري تشامبل وروس كامبل

شدني عنوان الكتاب ودفعني فضولي لمعرفة هذه اللغات والتي لخصها الكاتبان في الكتاب على النحو التالي :
التلامس الجسدي
الوقت النوعي
الهدايا
أعمال الخدمة
وكلمات التوكيد

فكل أم بفطرتها على يقين بأنها تحب أطفالها ولكن هل هي على يقين بأنها قادرة على ايصال هذا الحب لاطفالها وهل هي قادرة على ملئ خزانهم العاطفي! وهل هي تعرف لغة الحب التي يتحدث بها أطفالها لتحدثهم بها ؟

كل هذه الاسئلة يجيب عليها الكتاب باسلوب شيق وسلس مع اختبار مسل في نهايته ليتعرف به الوالدان على لغات الحب لدى أطفالهم والتي بمعرفتها سينشآن أطفال أسوياء مستقرين نفسيا وعاطفيا.

أنصح بقرائته

خديجة، ام نور
30 يوليو 2016

Nesu skaitanti daug tokio tipo knygų, bet karts nuo karto kažkokia patraukia vis mano dėmesį. Apie šią tiek gerų atsiliepimų bei rekomendacijų teko girdėti. Pamaniau, jog tikriausiai ne šiaip sau. O kaip geriausia įsitikinti? Perskaityti pačiai!

My oldest child is much like me, but my second felt so different! But for the first time I'm understanding him, and this book may be the difference between a close relationship with him during these formative years, and a distant one.

This is the best parenting book I've read. In a nutshell: everyone shows love and desires love in return, but we do it in different ways. Those "ways" are called languages, and are condensed into five types. Receiving love in YOUR language fills your love tank. Kids whose love tanks are full learn better, are disciplined more easily, and manage anger more appropriately.

A great analogy for the whole thing: Someone can be screaming as loud as possible in Chinese, but if you don't speak Chinese, you're not going to understand them.

Tėveliai, Čia ta knyga, kurią gyvenimo universitetas manau įtrauktų į privalomosios literatūros sąrašą :) Nesutinku, kad meilę vaikams kažkaip įmanoma diskretizuoti ir išmatuoti, tačiau šioje knygoje paminėtos 5 meilės pavadinčiau kryptys yra puiki startinė pozicija tėvams. Man patiko, rekomenduoju.

I am a blue, type - A, ESTJ, who likes to be shown love through quality time, and likes long walks on the beach and....WAIT, no I'm not. I'm Karen, a girl with lots of personality quirks, one of which is that I dislike pop psychology books that tell me I and everyone else fits into one of their created, ficticious descriptions. I have to admit, I didn't even finish this book (I did read almost all of it though). Probably most of us are familiar with the five love languages, they have enjoyed being very discussed pop psychology for the past 10 years. This book applies those same love languages to children. My issue is not with this book specifically, but with the idea in general. All this labeling, catagorizing, pigeon-holing, and simplifing people, into tidy little groups. I know we all have similarities, but if you really want to love someone, get to know them. It takes time and effort, but that would be a better use of your time than reading this book.

Fantastine knyga kiekvienam. Net seneliui, nes juk pas ji anukai atvaziuoja. Didziaja dali turinio intuityviai zinai, bet pastiprinimas, kad tai kaip manei pagal tam tikra poziurio krypti yra tikrai gerai, dziugina.

As neskaites penkios meiles kalbos, kazkada buvo toji knyga ant bangos ir visi kalbejo, gal del to man ant tiek smarkiai patiko pastaroji knyga. Galbut skaiciusiajam penkios meiles kalbos, si knyga nebus tokia naudinga ir idomi ant kiek man buvo.

Giving it a generous five stars because unlike most nonfiction I read, I actually learned some new, enlightening concepts and perspective on communication, love, and parenting!

Just a couple of big takeaways for the sake of my own memory:

... that the statement "I love you" always needs to be unconditional and stand alone, or it loses all of its meaning. No, "I love you, but..." Kids need to learn that their parents just love them.

... that I should keep up the diverse, practical ways I show love to my kiddos!

... that I can take bedtime a little slower. An extra ten minutes will not make a huge difference to detracting from each evening but can make a huge difference for my littles in the long run!

... that so many people have issues from immature ways of handling anger! Including me, haha! I loved reading about the strategies for helping kids express anger verbally vs. behaviorally and particularly vs. generally. Works for adults, too! The Anger Ladder is something I'll refer to a fair amount for myself and friends as well as in parenting.

... that teenagers primarily struggle with anxiety and passive-aggressive behavior--not a revelation, haha, but I want to revisit those chapters again insofar as, for now, they can help inform my classroom management so I can best help my student kiddos, who are right in that vulnerable 13-15 year old range the authors identify.

My thoughts! I took a lot of value from this book, so 5 stars from me. ✨️

Edited to add: basically we can sum up this book as "Do small things with great love! No task is too mundane to be infused with love."

I loved this book. Not just for its basic information about love languages in children, but also for its reminders to me as a mother about what my kids need from me. Of course I know they need love and diligent training, but it’s always refreshing to hear it again! Keep going! Keep training! In the marathon of parenting, I’ll be using this book as a “water break” for years to come!