Powerful read and very comforting to know we are fully in control of our own lives…

A must read for anyone who wants to make a big life change but are scared…

"How many times you wanted to do sth but you stopped yourself because you were afraid?"
The book has started with this sentence.

I can say that I learned a lot from this book; one and the most important thing that I learned is that to feel fear and do it anyway.

When I read the subject of the book at the first time I excepted it be good and good it was.

We used to think that feeling fear is a good reason to not do sth BUT it hasn't to be this way.

Suzan is is speaking about fear and it's kinds. She also wondering about what would make us afraid when we knew that we are ganna handle anything life brings to us?! NOTHING
Therefore, the magical words for the book were: "I will handle it."

Moreover, Suzan shard some of the truths that she learned about fear during her experiences. Here is some of them: 1) fear isn't ganna go a way as we continuo growing. She looked at this as a positive thing that helps to face fear.
2) the only way to get rid of fear is to go put and do what we are afraid of doing.
3) the only thing that ganna make you feel good about yourself is to go out and do it; NOT wait to get rid of fear to do it. 4) which is the most important to know is not only you feel fear when you are in a new situation EVERYBODY is.

The book speaks about taking responsibly and the correct definition of it.

In conclusion, turn your fear into confidence and your decision into act. Feel fear and do it anyway.

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This is the second time I've read this book. I barely remember the first time, so I thought I'd read it again before putting it here on the Goodreads. The book is okay. It has some helpful, true ideas, but nothing I haven't read elsewhere. I like her outlook on fear, especially how at the root of it is often the feeling that, "I can't handle it." Turning that into, "I will handle it," or even "I'll survive, it will be okay, and there may be positives," is a helpful way to deal with fearful problems. I like how she talks about the "no bad decisions" concept, her thoughts on action and trust, and her thoughts on having a positive outlook and energy. After a while I just felt done reading, but pushed myself to finish. I'm not sure what turned off my interest. Maybe it is the continual promotion of her other books. Maybe I began to feel weary since some of what she says toward the middle to the end of the book feels cliche. I guess I've read a lot of self-help books. Maybe I'm just in a non-receptive mood today.

"Sois prudent tu pourrais faire un mauvais choix" on nous le dit depuis petit et c'est ce qui permet de développer LA PEUR, la peur de perdre ce que le "bon choix" a à nous apporter (amour-amitié, pro..etc), c'est de là que provient notre peur de relever les défis et d'essayer les nouvelles choses, et bien sûr il faut y remédier.

Alors comment dépasser cette peur?

1• Retrouver la confiance en soi.

Étape très importante, se répéter des affirmations du genre "Je peux faire ça" à longueur de journée, remplacer les "je ne peux pas" par "je ne veux pas" et les "je devrais" par "je pourrais".

2•Etendre notre zone de confort.

En faisant par exemple chaque joir quelque chode qui nous met mal à l'aise ou que nous reportons à chaque fois.

3•Etre responsable.

Et cela ne veut pas seulement dire être indépendant financiêrement..etc, mais aussi arrêter de se plaindre et éviter de remettre nos fautes sur les autres.

4•Garder le contrôle.

-En transformant la voix intérieure qui nous décourage et qui nous avance toutes les eventualités négatives qui pourraient arriver en une voix encourageante et positive, et bien sûr ça prendra du temps.

-En déterminant clairement ce qu'on veut dans la vue et agir dans cette voie.

5• Positiver

-Mais attention, positiver ne veut pas dire utiliser la pensée positive pour refuser la souffrance et la négativité réaliste, mais d'envisager d'éventuelles solutions même si elles n'appraissent pas forcément tout de suite.

-S'entourer de gens positifs, et motivants, a commencer par le conjoint qui est la personne avec qui on a tendance d'être le plus proche, si celui ci refuse l'idée de vitre épanouissement et du changement que vous voulez effectuez dans votre vie, (penser positivement) alors ila personne qui vous est la plus proche sera votre première destructrice, la solution envisageable est alors la séparation( décision à prendre après maintes reflexions et discussions avec votre conjoint)

Et finalement l'auteur nous invite à suivre notre instinct et de faire ce dont on a envie quand on en a envie( les choses positives bien sûr) en général on ne se sent que bien après.

An excellent slogan stretched out into a book.

Ugh, this is so disappointing. Partly because it started as a five star book, and then quickly descended about half way through.

The first few chapters were exceptional! Real tools that you can realistically implement into your everyday life. I found myself raving to friends about how much I was learning and could already see personal growth.

Then from about the half way point it all started to go downhill. I understand where the author was coming from, and I by no means think she meant it intentionally, but for me there was alot of victim-blaming. Saying that cancer patients should just have a more positive outlook is honestly offensive. And don't even get me started on the whole 'say yes to the universe' chapter. All I'm saying, is f**k no.

If you do decide to read this book, I would skip the later chapters. There is nothing to gain here. Avoid the 'filling the void' section at all costs. Its one of the worst chapters I've ever read.

I've still given the book 3 stars because I do think I gained from the first half of the book. It has genuinely good ideas! It's just a shame about the later chapters.

This book was suggested to me when I was in university. I finally got around to reading it (several years after graduating). I think it might have spoken to me more at the time when I first heard about it, then today. That being said, it is a generally good overview of what fear is and the real reasons we feel fear (that it goes much deeper than the first thought). It has some good strategies for envisioning where we want life to go and to remind ourselves that fear only has power over us as long as we let it.

One of my favorite books

Very effective techniques to rationalise insecurities. My greatest take away was to imagine the worst possible scenario and exactly what would happen and understand you more than likely can deal with that, so it should not be a reason to shy away from confronting situations.

I was recommended this by my Dad multiple times over the last decade and never got time to purchase it. Today I decided to give the audiobook a go and it was fantastic.

It embodies a lot of the morals I try to live by, and helps you readjust your thinking into a more positive sense. It is only short, but contains some key motivation for positive living. I personally think given the current situation with the Coronavirus pandemic this is a great little listen for those trying to refocus their mind on the positives.

I read this many years ago, but the message lives on. It is powerful. Most "self-help" books either tell you stuff that your best friend tells you or regurgitates this message's essence.
Life is hard. We learn to fear due to the experiences we have had. We can choose to remain stuck or move forward no matter what may await us. I have had many horrific things happen to me as a result of the family I was born into and left behind. Many tell me I am the most courageous person, they've ever met. I will not allow fear to rule me. I hope and pray that is your choice as well. It is worth walking in freedom and damn the consequences. Of course, for me, I have salvation through Christ, so as scripture teaches, absent from the body present with the Lord. I believe it. I know it, having died several times due to accident and illness. Let go of fear and live life!

Susan talks about fear not only in the sense of public speaking or trying something new but in holding on to anger, illness, and making excuses. It's especially difficult to get out of a rut when you feel like "things happened to you" or someone did you wrong. She goes over all of these and why it's so important to let go. The ending guided meditation via audiobook was good.

Overall the methods are backed by peoples miracle experiences, not by science or facts. A bit of advertising as all of these books do. It's also outdated but that's just a minor misstep.