Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, John Gray

Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this timeless book has helped men and women realize how different they can be in their communication styles, their emotional needs, and their modes of behavior, and offers the secrets of communicating without conflicts, allowing couples to give intimacy every chance to grow. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (1992) is a book written by American author and relationship counselor John Gray, after he had earned degrees in meditation and taken a correspondence course in psychology.

تاریخ نخستین خوانش: ماه آگوست سال1993میلادی

ترجمه های بسیاری از این کتاب با عنوانهای گوناگون وجود دارد همانند «ع‍ش‍ق‌ ب‍رت‍ر»؛ «م‍ردان‌ م‍ری‍خ‍ی‌، زن‍ان‌ ون‍وس‍ی‌»؛ و...؛

مرجعی عامیانه برای ریشه یابی ناهنجاریهای روابط انسانها: «مردان مریخی؛ زنان ونوسی»؛ در مورد روابط زناشویی و شناخت جنس دیگر است؛ در این کتاب نویسنده باور دارد، که زنان و مردان به رغم وجود تفاوت‌ها، می‌توانند شیوه‌ هایی را بیاموزند، تا به رابطه ای عاشقانه و صمیمی دست یابند، ایشان به همین منظور، شیوه‌ ها و راهکارهای تازه ای را، برای کم کردن تنش‌ها، در روابط زناشویی، و بوجود آوردن عشق و علاقه در این کتاب بیان می‌کنند

تاریخ بهنگام رسانی 28/04/1399هجری خورشیدی؛ 24/02/1401هجی خورشیدی؛ ا. شربیانی

dumb, damaging, gender essentialist nonsense

http://www.frowl.org/worstbestsellers...

UTTER ROT!!!
The book shows men as creatures with very fragile egos and women as over sensitive.
Men & women communicate differently, maybe, but some of the "theories" are really wrong.

Like women talk problems for your empathy or sympathy, for the sake of talking it out and that they are not looking for a solution. Then, talking wouldn't make sense would it?

Like men hate being told how to fix the fuacet, or how to find the way...

This book has OUT-Dated views. I regreted reading it!

A relationship bible. Must get a Vietnamese-translated version for my parents as well.

Takeaways:

- Men want appreciation, admiration, trust and acceptance.

- When your man turns away, just do something you like (reading, exercising, etc.) and let him be alone.

- Don't ask rhetoric questions. Try to be more supportive, eg. "I do not like your coming home late without calling me. Next time when you hang out with your colleagues, call me in advance".

- Set clear personal boundaries.

- When you are resentful, ask your man to support.

- Stop always saying yes to his requests. Instead, gracefully ask what you want to do.

- Do not give your man advice or support unless he asks you.

- Sometimes there is a difficult situation, it is better to write a letter to him. (This is not common in Vietnamese culture but you can try).

- Do not ask your man to support when he is obviously planning to do it.

- Ask a man directly for his support 'Would you/ Would you please ...?'. Do not present a list of reasons why he should support you. Do not question his ability to help.

- If you want him to give more, show him your appreciation.

- Men are more willing to say yes if they have a freedom to say no. When your man rejects helping you, just say 'OK. No problem'. Next time he will be more willing to help you.

- Grumbling is his way to start saying yes. When he grumbles, just keep silence.

- Never argue. Instead, discuss pros and cons of things.

what a load of crap. my friend gave me this book after trying to salvage his marriage, told me it was really insightful. He got a divorce within a year.

The issue is still complicated than this ,but it's a good step on the way !
*****
السؤال هنا ، هل أنصح بالكتاب ؟ . الإجابة نعم أكيد
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مبدأيا ملحوظة مهمة على الماشي " ماحدش يتذاكى و يحاول يطبق أي حاجة من الكتاب في علاقته ، قبل ماينهي قراءة الكتاب فعليا .. من أول حرف لآخر حرف .. و الا النتيجة هتكون عكسية و مخيبة جدا ... :) "
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مع انه أمر العلاقة بين الرجل و المرأة ما زال أكثر تعقيدا من كل ذاك في نظري .. لكن يبقى الكتاب محاولة لا بأس بها على الطريق ، و خطوة تكاد تكون مهمة فعلا لأي اتنين داخلين على ارتباط :) ... أي اتنين عاوزين يستمروا مع بعض طبيعي بيدوروا على أي حاجة و لو بسيطة ممكن تساعدهم على دا ، و موش عيب ابدا لو استعانوا بكتب زي دي ... و عموما قراءة الكتاب موش هتخسر على أي حال
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بالنسبة لي ما انكرش ان تفهمي لطبيعة الرجل مثلا اتغير فعلا عن قبل قراءتي للكتاب ، تغير جدير بالإهتمام و الملاحظة الحقيقة ! :) .. كمان استفدت جدا من فكرة رسايل الحب اللي ممكن نطبقها كمان مع أهلنا و أصدقائنا و حتى زملائنا في العمل زي ما أوضح الكاتب
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في بداية قراءتي له شعرت بسخط على الكاتب جدا الحقيقة .. و بأن كتابه ما هو إلا كتاب ذكوري متعفن :))) بيعبر عن حاجات الرجل و متطلباته و مشاكله و بيعني بها أكثر مما بيعني بمشاكل المرأة و حاجاتها و متطلباتها في المقابل كما هو مفترض ، لكن مع الوقت تقبلت الأمر و رأيت انه شئ صحي و طبيعي كون اللي كاتبه هو رجل في الأساس ! ، و كمان شئ مفيد كون ان رجل بيتكلم و يفهمنا عن طبيعة و فسيولوجية الرجل ! .. كمان زاد من تقبلي للكتاب محاولات الكاتب اللطيفة لمناقشة و تحليل و فهم مشاكل المرأة من موقعه كرجل و من واقع خبرته على أي حال :)
عجبني توصيفه لكهف الرجل و بئر المرأة مثلا
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عموما اعتقد ان قراءة الكتاب هتكون تجربة لطيفة .. جربوا موش هتخسروا حاجة يمكن يعمل فرق معاكم أو مع شركائكم فعلا
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Sad that not giving any stars means not rated instead of truly awful.

My mother in law gave me this book years ago, when I'd been married about five or six years. I wasn't totally surprised - she's old fashioned Irish, woman's place is in the home etc. And I admit that having been raised by atheist hippies to believe that as a woman of my generation I never had to do anything I didn't want to, there was probably a culture clash there to start with.

However, I've never read such utter and total BS. This book made me so mad that I literally couldn't read more than a couple of chapters. The general overtone of this book, as it came across to me, was do whatever you can to ensure you man is happy, no matter what. Apparently, we women should subjugate our every thought and desire in an effort to better understand how our feelings may upset or hurt our fragile male partners. But let's not forget that we, apparently, also want a man who can protect us and be a good provider. And since we patently can't survive on our own, and would die without a big strong man, we need to view our every action in terms of making sure our man feels loved and appreciated.

The implicit lesson of 'do whatever makes your man happy, and enjoy it while you do it or you may detract from his happiness' made me want to burn this book - and I think book burning is abhorrent. This book was unabashed trash, and no thinking, independent, intelligent woman should take one shred of its preaching with anything less than a veritable gallon of salt.

أثناء قرائتي لهذا الكتاب كنت أتذكر كل تلك المواقف في حياتي، التي تعتبر أمثلة في طبائع الرجال وطبائع النساء، وكل تلك الخلافات التي حدثت التي كان من الممكن تجبنها لو ادركت طبيعتي المريخية أو طبيعة الانثى الزهرية .. هذا الكتاب من النوع الذي أقول عنه : لا يمكن تجاوزه

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بعد تاريخ 21/3/2012
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لو كان الأمر بيدي ... لما سمحت أن يتم عقد قران أي شاب و شابة

إلا بعد أن يحضر دورة في هذا الكتاب ... و يتم إختبارة بها

حقا ... الرجال من المريخ ... و النساء من الزهرة


كتاب جدا جدا مفيد لفهم الجنس الآخر

Chyba jej nie ocenie gwiazdkowo, ale dużo fajnych rzeczy przeczytałam dających do myślenia

Ah how i remember this book. I found it during a night browsing at a bookstore. At that time I am like so many young adult is obsess understanding the opposite sex. How they think and how to communicate with them without causing misunderstanding.

Until now, the content of this book is relevant. Thank you John Gray.