Mi-a placut foarte mult, m-a facut sa reflectez la milte aspecte din casnicia mea si din felul cum vedem noi iubirea. Sper pe viitor sa pun in practica ideile ce mi-au placut.
O recomand tuturor, aduce multe raspunsuri si personal m-a facut sa ma analizez pe mine si ce anume imi umple mie rezervorul iubirii ❤️

لطالما تساءلت لماذا ومع كل الجهد المبذول من احد الطرفين، يبقي الطرف الآخرغير مُقدرٍ لما يُعطى له بالشكل الكافي.. وفقط بعد قرائتي لهذا الكتاب أدركت الحقيقة. فكلٌ مِنا لديه لُغة الحُب الخاصة به والتي تساعد علي ملئ خزانه بشكل أسرع، علي عكس الأربع لغات الآخري.
كتاب مُفيد وملئ بالتجارب الحيّة .. حقًا أضاف لي الكثير.. وقد دوّنت العديد من الملاحظات والتي سأناقشها مع زملائي هذا الاسبوع ان شاء الله :)
جدير بالذكر أنه يُمكن للمرئ أن يمتلك أكثر من لغة، ولكن عند مُقارنتهم تجد أن هناك لغة مُعينة لها الأولوية بالنسبة لك.
كما أنه مُرفق اختبار لتحديد لغة الحب الخاصة بك، وقد وجدت ان لغتي الاولي هي الاتصال البدني، والثانية التشجيع :)
أنصح بقرائته قبل الدخول في أي علاقة تجنبًا للخسائر وتجنبًا لكلمة "ياريت" :D

Ein kurzes Buch mit ganz viel Inhalt. Dabei ist der Inhalt eigentlich selbstverständlich, möchte man meinen. Man sollte seinem Partner zeigen, dass man ihn liebt und die Liebe nicht einschlafen lassen. Lob und Anerkennung, Zärtlichkeit und Hilfsbereitschaft gehören beispielsweise dazu. Eigentlich selbstverständlich, aber es ist gut und auch wichtig, sich dieses immer mal wieder ins Gedächtnis zu rufen. Dafür ist dieses Buch ideal; es regt zum Nachdenken und Reflektieren an.
Mir hat es sehr gut gefallen!

I was recommended this book by my counsellor, and I have to be honest; it's way better than I expected.

This book is a great tool if you're looking for some "simple fixes". Keep in mind, all relationships take work. This book gives suggestions on how to help understand your partner's (and your own) love language. Love languages are the ways your partner feels "love" through the things you do, the things you say, and how you act. It's a very thoughtful idea that is simple in nature, but a little harder to do in practice. If you're feeling hopeless and just want some different ideas, this book is excellent!

I really liked the book because it felt like I was chatting with the author. It's very conversational and it's very to the point. There's "real life" examples of couples, and it sometimes seems too easy. Some of the situations definitely didn't resolve that easily, but I am guessing that the tips of trying to understand what makes your partner feel loved helped develop their relationships.

Is this the end all, be all way to save your marriage or relationship? No. Can it give you ideas to understand why your communication skills aren't on point? Yes. Maybe you don't realize that you partner feels loved when you run errands for them. Maybe you don't realize that your partner needs a lot of quality time, one on one. Lots of people can't see what's in front of them! This book is a great way to remind the simplicity of the 5 ways you can appreciate someone.

The book is uplifting and suggests that relationships can be mended (and they definitely can, in some circumstances). I do not think this will help everyone. I don't think this should be the way someone fixes their relationship (get counselling, the works as well as reading this book).

Are there negatives? Absolutely! The gender roles seem very... stereotypical. What housewife doesn't want to just be someone to does all the chores to make her husband happy? Gee golly! Men crave sex more than women do, in fact women don't normally crave sex at all! Men might cheat, but women can get over it. Yeah, lots of problems. And of course, only heterosexual couples are talked about. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt to say somehow in his whole career he ONLY dealt with heterosexual couples... It's a super big, ridiculous benefit of the doubt... But I'm hoping that's it. Oh, and a pinch of religion in there.

*If you can't sense my sarcasm in the last few sentences, please re-read and add a sassy, sarcastic tone.

Overall though, I enjoyed it. I think it's a great way to help teach people some basic concepts in a fun and engaging way.

Four out of five stars.

رغم إن شهادتي مجروحة بحكم إني لا متزوج ولا مرتبط، لكن يبدو الكتاب مهم جدا في بابه، ومهم جدا قراءته للمتزوجين أو اللي بيفكروا في الخطوة دي.
كتاب جميل جدا.

Oh my gosh my church has this book always on sale right outside of the sanctuary in the lobby!

كتاب صغير في ١٨٠ صفحة يتحدث فيه الكاتب عن مفاهيم قد تساهم في تغير المناخ العاطفي لحياتك الزوجية مع شريك حياتك وماذا ينتج لو اكتشفت لغة الحب الخاصة بشريكك وتحدثت بها باستمرار؟

بسبب عمل الكاتب كإستشاري علاقات زوجية، عَرَض الكاتب نماذج ازواج و مدى التغير الجذري لحياتهم بعد فهمهم للغاتهم العاطفية واستخدامها

كلمات التشجيع والشكر واالاقرار بمجهودات الزوج/الزوجة
ام
تكريس الوقت للزوج/الزوجة
ام
تبادل الهدايا
ام
الاعمال الخدمية كغسل الصحون و قص الاعشاب وغسل السيارة
ام
الاتصال البدني

ايهم لغتك و ايهم لغة شريكك و كيف تملاء الخزان العاطفي للشريك، هذا مايقدمه الكتاب بترجمة سلسلة وبسيطة

I struggle with rating this book anything more than one star because it is extremely heteronormative, misogynistic, and religiously restrictive. However, I think that these issues are the result of its author, rather than the ideas in the book. The concepts presented in this book, once I shook off their disgusting patriarchal rhetoric, were sound and Truthful. I honestly believe that Chapman discovered a fundamental aspect of love, which is a tremendous feat. When I got to the chapter which talked about my primary love language, I literally burst into tears and could not stop sobbing. For the first time in my life, I understood what love I craved most from the people in my life and, most importantly, I felt validated in that desire, like it was okay to want and ask for those things. I wasn't a freak. I was just speaking a love language that society tells me not to speak. Finishing this book was the first step in my ongoing journey towards transcending this societal expectation.

Here's the truth: I am a young woman, but my primary love language is Physical Touch. In Chapman's book, almost every example of couples shows a woman whose language is Acts of Service and a man whose language is Physical Touch. While the world around me, and even this book, told me that I shouldn't want physical affection as much as I do, the chapter on Physical Touch was like someone reaching out to tell me that it's okay to be who I am. My understanding of myself burst open and I felt like I was given permission to be who I am and love how I love. I am disappointed that so many of Chapman's own biases and clear stereotypes are included in this book, but it still helped me. If this book can help just one more person to accept themselves and ask for love in their primary language, then it is worth it to share my story in this review.

A few words of advice: Supplement this book with additional interpretations online and discussions with your significant other. Not everything Chapman says is good or right, but his theory can possibly open a door to other interpretations which work better for you than the opinions touted in the book.

Recommended, but with reservations.

"پنج زبان عشق" رازهایی برای داشتن عشق پایدار است که توسط دکتر گری چاپمن نوشته شده است.
چاپمن در این کتاب 5 زبان متفاوت عشق را معرفی میکند و از مخزن عشقی سخن به میان می آورد که خالی بودن و خالی ماندن آن مساویست با مرگ تدریجی خانواده!
شاید شما هم به افزایش بی رویه آمار طلاق فکر کرده باشید..
شاید  این موضوعات دغدغه و ترس خیلی از جوانان مجرد یا متاهل باشه! طلاق ، طلاق عاطفی ، سست شدن بنیان خانواده و...
ریشه همه این مسائل در  این هست که زبان عشق طرف مقابل رو یاد نمیگیریم و نمیتونیم به زبان عشق اون ابراز احساسات کنیم ، در نتیجه مخزن عشقی که نباید خالی باشه ، خالی میمونه و بعد از مدتی منجر به جداییِ رسما یا قلبا میشه!
و این یعنی فاجعه...!
چاپمن این کتاب رو برای متاهل ها نوشته اما بعد از یاد گرفتن این 5 زبان به نتایج عمیقی رسیدم و علت بسیاری از مشکلات اخلاقی کودکان رو هم کشف کردم..

This book is based on the premise that everyone has a "love language". Things others say or do that make one feel "loved",they are follows:


-words of affirmation.
-recieving gifts.
-acts of service.
-physical touch.
-quality time.

Personally I want you to tell me how great I am (words of affirmation) while walking in the house with a collection of poetry for me (receiving gifts), make a beeline for the trash that needs to be taken out (acts of service), then come back in and read quietly next to me (quality time) before I ride you like the wild stallion that you are (physical touch) so where does that leave me? Which love language am I? This book was not helpful (as indicated by the shelf it's on).

Chapman used many real-life examples from his own marriage, and of couples that he had counselled across the years, to illustrate the concepts in his book and how they can be applied to address different marriage/ relationship issues and circumstances. These are case studies help us to identify similarities and lessons for our own relationships.

In the book, he also offers 2 pages of additional ideas and suggestions for each of the 5 love languages, as well as separate love language profile surveys for husbands and wives (to identify your primary love language). If you enjoyed the ideas in this article, do get a copy of The 5 Love Languages from Amazon

When I finished reading this book yesterday, I thought the first 70% of the book wasn’t that bad. Hell, I can even go as far as to say that it had pretty good points for someone new to relationships.

Now that I’m writing this review, I don’t think I can hold back because the remaining part of this book is fucking trash and I have to talk about it!

If you’ve ever been in a relationship where there’s healthy communication, I think all the advice given by the author won’t sound so revolutionary. That's because you don’t have the fancy words to label the ways you show your love to your partner.

But, I don’t want to drag this book down completely as I feel that this has some good points in the beginning. “Love language” is a metaphor for the actions you take to show your love for your partner which results in a full love tank i.e. satisfaction in a relationship.

After the emotional high of love wears off AKA honeymoon phase of the relationship ends, it leaves us with the reality that the person we are with is not as perfect as we had once imagined. In this situation, we have to make efforts to sustain love and cultivate intimacy.

All of this is fine until the author ruins everything by attempting to save the relationship of a woman who has been abused. Using religion, he manipulates her to have sex with her husband (because his primary love language is physical touch). I’m not even exaggerating this. I found it wrong and vile.

If he had given the same advice to a man, I’d be angry too. But this is especially disgusting because, in many cultures and communities, women are told to just put up with the abuse or sweep it under the rug. I just cannot believe he gave this advice using such pleasant words.

It takes two to be in a relationship. It should be the decision of two people to make it work. If only one person is putting in efforts while the other person couldn’t care less, it’s best to give up because this is an unhealthy dynamic.

It was wrong on his part to give such advice to the vulnerable woman who was in a dilemma of whether she should stay with her abuser or leave. It just plays into the mentality that a good girl can fix a bad guy if she loves him enough. We should wonder about something else. Is the guy even worth loving? Short answer: No. Long answer: HELL NOOOOOO!

Secondly, he talks about how a relationship can be revived even after there has been sexual infidelity. I’m neither an expert in the field of dating and relationships nor have I read any research papers or statistics, but I feel there should be a line that cannot be crossed.

In my opinion, certain actions should be forbidden and considered the last straw in relationships for eg, cheating, abuse, and some other serious offenses (murder?).

I think aiming to make every relationship work by applying the love language rules is idealistic and unrealistic. Sometimes, people just aren’t compatible. There might be a hundred reasons for not being together. I don’t think all problems can be solved by applying the five simple rules.

All in all, read the first 70% of the book as it is sensible. For the rest, hurl the book out of the window and forget about it.