Chapman gives interesting and refreshing techniques for responding to the teenager's need to express independence. I think many of the suggestions will help avoid/address the power struggles that many parents complain about. I like that he gives examples of how to phrase your responses, his egalitarian approach to rule setting and consequences, and how he gives clear instructions on how to do this. This is one to keep as a reference since the advice will be relevant and applicable for generations to come.

I do not have a teenager, nor do i have a kid… but as a teacher who works with teens this book was incredibly insightful into the ways I can intentionally care for my youth and help parents walk alongside their youth in every difficult season.

I'm always a little skeptical about people who write a book that sells well and then follow it up with a book that applies their original idea to a more specific group (Chicken Soup for People with size 10.5 Shoes). Gary Chapman's book The Five Love Languages of Teenagers suffers somewhat from the typical flaws of these books, but there is enough that is new and specific in this book to make it worth the read. I read it as a teacher of adolescents, hoping to gain some helpful ideas for working with my students. In that sense, the book was not a success. It is clearly aimed at parents. Chapman gives a lot of good advice about balancing loving teenagers with maintaining responsibility and discipline. The book also serves as a good reminder of the Five Love Languages. It has pretty limited usefulness for teachers, but it would be great for parents and other relatives of teenagers.

Great insight on parenting teens. I need all the help I can get.

This was a great book and I would suggest it to anyone who has a teenager or soon to be teenager. I learned so much about my teenager and about myself. I have already started implementing some of the suggestions in the book and have seen a dramatic difference in my teen and her response to me. She seems different and happier. Our home is more pleasant and she is even doing her homework without being asked! I just needed to fill her love tank and be more patient.

The hubby and I read through this one together and learned a lot. You've probably read at least one of the other Love Languages books, and this one's no shocker. Same author, same languages--words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, acts of service, quality time. But how these apply to teens can get tricky.

The book was full of great explanations, lots of examples, and the practical application of these languages. Considering that each person speaks a bit of each of the five love languages, each page is a great resource. I'd definitely recommend this one to parents and youth workers, and all who want to have a better relationship with the teenagers in their lives.

**NOTE: Thank you to netGalley and Moody Publishers for this review copy.

Same exact principles as the other book for couples, only this one had teenager examples and ideas. I probably didn't need to read it, but just in case it had some different love languages for teens I didnt want to miss. It didn't though. I highly recommend this book If you have not read Five love languages for couples. If you have read the one for couples then you can skip this one. I think I'll return the other book I got titled Five love languages for children. Its all the same.

I didn't realize how much god and jesus talk would be in this book. Also the homophobia and transphobia was really off putting. The book seemed to veer off topic, especially near the end.
I was able to take away a handful of useful nuggets of information on my relationship with my teen. But overall not a book I can recommend.

Great resource and reminder to show more love to my teenagers and in a way that they will appreciate most.

I received a copy of this book from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. I do not usually read any kinds of self-help or parenting books. However, I do have a twelve-year old and in the past few months I was thinking that I should probably educate myself a bit more on the upcoming teen years. Thus my purpose for reading this book was to prepare and educate myself so I can be a better parent as my daughter starts navigating the troublesome teenage years.

If you are like me (i.e., have a pre-teen or a teen and do not normally read parenting literature), I definitely recommend this book. Some of the criticisms I've seen about this book are that it is a regurgitation of Chapman's other 5 Languages of Love books or that it does not provide any earth-shattering advice. I had never read any of his other books, and I also was not looking for any parenting tricks or magic methods. But for me, this was a great concise guide on how to be a parent of a teenager.

What I liked most is that Chapman clearly lays out the approaches that will allow parents to understand their teen better, to show their teenagers that they are loved and to learn how to effectively set rules and discipline their teenagers. Nothing in the book was confusing or impractical. All of his recommendations were cogent, to the point, very doable and supported by multiple examples from his counseling practice. I also appreciated the statistics quoted in this book and the fact that he did not shy away from difficult subjects such as alcohol and drug use and teen pregnancy. I would say Chapman wrote this book in a very loving manner to both parents and teens, without sounding preachy or condemning anyone but offering practical steps to foster better relationships.

I am very glad I read this book. If you are going to read just one book on parenting teens, please read this one. 5 out of 5 stars from me

I read two of Chapman's other Love Language books but still enjoyed this one. I loved hearing about the love languages applied specifically to teenagers. Chapman makes some great points about how the love languages can change from childhood to the teenager and within the teenage years. Great insight and wonderful ideas to apply in our own families.

Good parenting is doing the right thing when a child does the wrong thing.

My husband and I went thru the Five Love Languages for married couples and it changed how we loved each other and more importantly respond to each other. This does the same thing but with our teenagers. I now longer have teenagers and reading this, I found some situations I wish I would have handled differently. Mostly in responding to my daughters and their need for independence and identity. The book goes thru the each of the languages, - Touch, Affirmation, Gifts, Time, and Acts of Service. How each of these expresses love and fills "their tank". How we love and respond to love expresses the gospel. In expressing the gospel, we must use the balance of grace and truth to love others and especially our children.

Dr. Gary Chapman is a doctor and works with families and has seen and counseled many family crisis. He gives very solid information to use as tools to better express how we can love others without being judgmental and to be a positive influence on those we love. It always comes down to not how much you know but how much you care.

Some of the quotes I found inspiring.

If you can't praise results, praise efforts.

Wise parents will study their teenager.

Do not force your love language on your children

As parents we are responsible for our own attitudes. If we express love to our teenagers only when they are doing things that please us, we have left the high road of unconditional love and have entered the treacherous world of manipulation.

The question is not whether the parents have the right to speak to the teenager, they do. The question is: Do you want your teenager to listen to what you are saying.

How we love our children really does matter. How we communicate that love can determine if we have a strong or weak influence on our children. Parenthood is one of the most important jobs and callings we have. This study helps on that calling and gives us tools for the job.

A Special Thank You to Moody Publishers and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review.