Don't read it unless you have to. I hope you never have to:)

I have now read 7 books on infant loss to try to facilitate/accelerate my grief over my son's death. This book was by far the "best". The author covered a menagerie of feelings and topics. It was "dry" as one reviewer stated, but thank goodness for that. Plenty of other infant loss books included horrific death stories that were basically unbearable. I needed "dry with a purpose" and this book served me well. I placed no less than 55 sticky notes in the pages to guide me back when I need to reread a specific topic. (By contrast, the "next best" book I read on the topic had about 14 sticky notes.)

Insightful and real

I read this book due to a friend having loss their beautiful girl four days short of her due date. I wanted to educate myself on what the parents are going through, how their life is now forever changed, and what I should and should NOT do or say in an attempt to provide support. An excellent, but heart-rending book. I recommend to anyone who has lost an infant (pre-or post birth), and to their family and support system.

This book says it is for those who have suffered the heartache of miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death. For me, it seemed it would be more beneficial for those who suffered a stillbirth or infant death. That being said, it was useful while dealing with a loss due to miscarriage.

I like this book however I wish it felt more with the emotional ups and downs and how to move on or become whole again. The why things happen and other informations about "what actually happened" was not what i wanted to read or expected to read at all. It lacked compassion and empathy. I would say read this years later if it has happened to you. If not your going to get pissed and irritated.

An absolutely wonderful book that I hope no one ever has to read.

This was one of the most challenging books I have ever read. I would often read a paragraph over and over, or my mind would become blank, and I would sit there with this book, staring into the nothingness that life had become. In my previous review, I wrote, ‘immensely helpful. ‘ That is a complete understatement. This book became a trusted companion, and reading the experiences of everyone who contributed to this labour of love made and still makes me feel connected. The chapters are divided into a format that facilitates finding what is relevant to your personal experience.

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Read through this with my grief counselor after my twin sons died. Very long, almost like a textbook, but very helpful.

• Sometimes babies die, and it is not a reflection of a parent's worth.
(I am worthy.)

• I did nothing to intentionally harm my baby.
(I'm not guilty: I am loving.)

• My baby is not suffering.
(I am at peace.)

• Others are silent as they don't know what to say, or they don't want to trigger my grief.
(I am grateful for their efforts at caring.)

• Intense grief doesn't last forever.
(I am hopeful.)

• I can ultimately grow from this tragedy and find peace.
(I am resilient. I have faith.)

• As I mourn, I am healing and slowly reinvesting in the future.
(I have confidence.)

If Deborah Davis asked me, 'Am I right, or am I right?' I'd say, 'You're right, Ms. Davis'. A lot of what you'll encounter with a dead baby is in here, from the way your parents might take it to hating your body after delivery to what pregnancy following a loss is like. It's in there. The thing is, it's so DRY. It was hard to derive any emotional comfort this, which could've been swapped with my Toyota maintenance manual in tone. The quotes from loss parents pushed it in the right direction, but the book as a whole didn't have enough voice for me.

Hard reality to live, helpful read