This book saved my life.

This book is geared toward the perinatal loss community, however, had sections that were valuable to me. I was given this book by hospital staff when my 7 month old son was taken to the hospital and arrived unresponsive. There are sections that talk about reactions to infant loss that held true for me even though I did have the opportunity to get to briefly know my son.

One of the best books I’ve read on this topic. A lot of helpful insights and great to have so many views from other bereaved parents. Only 4 stars as I don’t really agree with the whole ‘unnecessary suffering’ theme that runs through the book - it just didn’t quite fit with how I see this.

A great story of a family surviving the loss of their baby.

I hate that this book even needs to be read. This is a club that no one ever wants to be a part of. I had a stillborn son at 39 weeks with no pregnancy complications whatsoever. This book was gifted to me by a local organization called Books from Bennett.

It is the first grief book that I have ever read. I agree with a previous reviewer that the book is very dry. I found myself having to re-read parts because my mind would wander off. Obviously, my mind is still reeling from our loss, but I still feel like part of this book read like a textbook. I also didn't like the last section which talked about parenting subsequent children. I just didn't think it belonged in this book because at the time most people are reading it, they just lost their child(ren) and don't have subsequent children to take care of yet. Reading about taking care of another child just felt like salt in a fresh wound. I don't find that I'll be going back to reference this book when/if I have another child.

It does have a lot of good information in it and maybe people would benefit from just reading sections that they felt applied to their situation. I read it cover to cover and maybe that was my problem. In any case, if you are reading this because of a recent loss of a child, my heart and tears are with you.

This book was given to me after the unexpected stillbirth of our third child. The friend who passed it on to me also experienced the stillbirth of a child. I was very devastated. I didn't think this book would offer me any advice or help. However, I read it because of my friend. I discovered how wrong I had been. This book brought back peace to my everyday life. It helped me look forward and have hope. I especially enjoyed reading the personal experiences from other couples who had lost children. I know we all mourn differently, but I highly recommend this book to anyone who has suffered with the loss of a child.

Perfect read for any parent who has experienced the loss of losing your baby.

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My granddaughter died at birth at 20 weeks gestation almost a year ago. I found this book, read the reviews and ordered the latest version (which I understand is vastly updated from the previous version) immediately upon knowing that she would not survive. I had no idea perinatal loss could be that devastating or that lonely. Although very long and detailed, it was a huge help in figuring out what my daughter and son-in-law were going through. The author is extremely knowledgable and about 25% of the book is excerpts from parents, including some fathers which are very enlightening. To honour our granddaughter I am ordering the book for my local library as well as theirs. Information on perinatal loss at their local library and bookstores was non existent. The book gives validity to a wide experience, accepting the diverse feelings and coping methods. The only drawback is persons who are not readers, could find it overwhelming in its detail and length.

I am sad that I have to read this book, but recommend it for anyone facing any infant loss.

So far this book is helping me realize that I am not off on how I am feeling and that I just need to be careful to not suppress things or I can cause myself a lot more heartache. Jesus will help me.

I haven't been able to finish reading this book but what I've read so far has been helpful .

I hope that no-one I know ever needs to read this book. However, if anyone experiences a loss like this, I do highly recommend this book. It helped me get through my initial grief as well as my anxieties and struggles with my subsequent pregnancy. The book is filled with the science behind the chemical process of grief and anxiety and depression as well as a little anecdotes from people who have been in a similar situation.I highly recommend this book; I just hope no one ever needs it.