A Widow for One Year

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“One night when she was four and sleeping in the bottom bunk of her bunk bed, Ruth Cole woke to the sound of lovemaking—it was coming from her parents’ bedroom.”

This sentence opens John Irving’s ninth novel, A Widow for One Year, a story of a family marked by tragedy. Ruth Cole is a complex, often self-contradictory character—a “difficult” woman. By no means is she conventionally “nice,” but she will never be forgotten.

Ruth’s story is told in three parts, each focusing on a critical time in her life. When we first meet her—on Long Island, in the summer of 1958—Ruth is only four.

The second window into Ruth’s life opens on the fall of 1990, when she is an unmarried woman whose personal life is not nearly as successful as her literary career. She distrusts her judgment in men, for good reason.

A Widow for One Year closes in the autumn of 1995, when Ruth Cole is a forty-one-year-old widow and mother. She’s about to fall in love for the first time.

Richly comic, as well as deeply disturbing, A Widow for One Year is a multilayered love story of astonishing emotional force. Both ribald and erotic, it is also a brilliant novel about the passage of time and the relentlessness of grief.
Source: john-irving.com

576 pages, Paperback

First published January 1,1998

About the author

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JOHN IRVING was born in Exeter, New Hampshire, in 1942. His first novel, Setting Free the Bears, was published in 1968, when he was twenty-six. He competed as a wrestler for twenty years, and coached wrestling until he was forty-seven.
Mr. Irving has been nominated for a National Book Award three times—winning once, in 1980, for his novel The World According to Garp. He received an O. Henry Award in 1981 for his short story “Interior Space.” In 2000, Mr. Irving won the Oscar for Best Adapted Screenplay for The Cider House Rules. In 2013, he won a Lambda Literary Award for his novel In One Person.
An international writer—his novels have been translated into more than thirty-five languages—John Irving lives in Toronto. His all-time best-selling novel, in every language, is A Prayer for Owen Meany.
Avenue of Mysteries is his fourteenth novel.

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April 17,2025
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Einmal mehr habe ich mich an John Irvings Menschen und Skurilitäten freuen dürfen. Dieses Buch hatte auch keine Längen. Trotzdem hat mir irgendetwas zum fünften Stern gefehlt.
April 17,2025
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Ilgas romanas, tarsi apjungiantis daugybę įdomių novelių. Nenuobodus. Geras stilius. Autorius nors ir lėtai, bet nenuobodžiai vinguriuoja siužetą, o pabaigai, – kad ilgas romanas nepabostų, – net sugalvoja detektyvinę istoriją.

Veikėjai gan taikliai ir įdomiai charakterizuojami. Pasileidęs rašytojas-dailininkas Tedas Koulas – „toks pat apgaulingas kaip suplyšęs prezervatyvas“. Jo žmona Merion, kaip pati pripažįsta – „žmogus, kuriam vaikas rūpi dar mažiau negu gerai auklei“ – psichologiškai sugniuždyta avarijoje žuvus sūnums ir nesugebanti mylėti po to gimusios dukters. Edis – keistokų, bet mielų tėvų sūnus, šešiolikmetis įžengiantis į knygą ir užsibūnantis joje iki pabaigos. Ištvirkintas dvigubai vyresnės moters, jis įgyja priklausomybę ir net prabėgus 32 metams mylisi tik su už save vyresnėmis moterimis, be tokios meilės kaip Merion, jis niekad nebejautė. Ir kita blogybė – nors ir tapo rašytoju, sugeba kurti tik autobiografinius romanus.
Tedo ir Merion duktė Ruta irgi tapo rašytoja-superžvaigžde (jos romanų herojai – rašytojai), išaugo be motinos ir sutiko ją tik po 37 metų. Neieškojo jos, nes – suprantama – buvo įsižeidusi: palikta keturmetė su ne per geriausios reputacijos tėvu. Autorius pateikia įdomią mintį: „Trisdešimt šešerių Rutai, mylinčiai tėvą ir jo nekenčiančiai, buvo tikra kančia žinoti, kad tėvas myli ją“ – tokie sudėtingi tėvo ir dukros santykiai. „Ruta apskritai nemėgo ginčytis su vyrais, nes tai būdavo panašu į ginčus su tėvu. Jeigu ji leisdavo tėvui laimėti, jis paskui vaikiškai jai primindavo, jog buvo teisus. O jeigu neabejotinai laimėdavo Ruta, Tedas arba to nepripažindavo, arba baisiai suirzdavo.“
Įdomus autoriaus požiūris į dvi blogybes: alkoholį ir santuokinę neištikimybę – „Deja, ėmęs saikingai gerti, Tedas dar labiau suksis apie moteris; ilgainiui paaiškės, kad merginėjimas pačiam Tedui pavojingesnis negu gėrimas“.

Visi knygos personažai gyvybingi, įtikinantys skaitytoją savo realumu, net tokie antraeiliai, kaip Rutos draugė pasileidėlė Hana („Hana iš prigimties atrodė visada pasirengusi gultis su kuo nors į lovą – ir dar su kuo nors, ir dar – be paliovos“) ar Amsterdamo policininkas Haris, teikiantis prižiūrimoms prostitutėms nuoširdžias Kalėdines dovanėles, o žmonos ilgai neradęs todėl, nes... mėgo skaityti lovoje. Neabejotinas autoriaus autoritetas – anglų klasikas Grehemas Grynas, kurio asmeniui ir kūrybai knygoje skiriama nemažai vietos, tiesa, pasitaiko ir sarkastiškų minčių: „Alanas pasakė, jog tikisi, kad jo mažasis Grehemas nebus toks pagarsėjęs nuolatinis viešnamių klientas, koks buvo žymusis rašytojas.“

Tie skaitytojai, kurie kažką rašo, gal nelabai sutiks su autoriaus požiūriu, kaip rašomi romanai (knygoje tam skiriama daug vietos), na, o tie, kurie patys nerašo, gal nesusidarys pernelyg neteisingo požiūrio, kaip rašomi romanai. Knyga galėjo būti pavadinta „Iš rašytojų gyvenimo“, nes rašytojais yra arba tampa visi pagrindiniai romano veikėjai, o Rutos pasirengimas naujo romano rašymui atskleidžiamas taip detaliai, kad skaitytojas gali pasijusti situacijoje „sapnas sapne“.

Nors nebijau storų knygų, man ši knyga pasirodė kiek per ilga. Ar reikėjo tų 634 puslapių, kad autorius įtikintų skaitytoją, jog pagyvenusių moterų mylėtojas netikėtai gali įsimylėti 36 metais jaunesnę buvusios meilužės dukrą? – palieku spręsti skaitytojams. Ir kai kurie siužetiniai vingiai manęs neįtikino, bet tai nereiškia, kad negalėjo ar neturėjo įtikinti.
April 17,2025
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When I think of John Irving, I think of memorable, deep, flawed, and outrageous characters. His books are crafted and precise while being comical, tragic, and raw. The first two parts or Widow are Irving at his best if you ask me. The characters are flawed yet sympathetic and believable. While his plots may not scream at you to grab your attention, his detail and dialogue lead you into your immersion. Before you know it, you care about these people and can't wait to find out how their lives progress.

A Widow For One Year is probably my least favorite of my first three Irving novels but that's simply because the first two were so wonderful and absolute favorites of mine. Part 3 of A Widow For One Year loses a little steam for me, compared to the first two thirds of the book. While Irving is always wordy, it's that style that keeps me coming back for more. But in this case, even I think part 3 was a little over-cooked.

Wordiness aside, just like both previous Irving titles I've read, I will take a few of these characters with me for a long time. While there may not be a Owen Meany or a Suzy the Bear, the characters are still rich and likable. And while the plot isn't as wacky as Hotel NH, or as intricate as Owen Meany, its still rather good.

Irving always seems to have an overwhelming theme in his novels that I really appreciate. Owen Meany was faith, Hotel NW was acceptance and Widow is about loss. While those are serious topics and themes for the characters, John Irving always presents them to me in a way that is entertaining and keeps me turning the pages.

I'm glad to have added this to my "read" shelf, and not everyone will like it as much as I did. But if you like John Irving, I would say give this one a try without a second thought.
April 17,2025
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I hated this book. John Iriving's inability to write women characters was a huge problem in this book since it has a female protagonist. I didn't care about her at all and I wasn't that intrigued by the story either. I generally like John Irving's writing style, but it didn't make any difference to me with this book because I didn't like one single character.
April 17,2025
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John Irving always writes interesting and quirky characters. While his plot lines don't always attract me he writes so well that you cannot help but wonder 'where is this going'. He does an excellent job of foreshadowing while still letting you imaging possibilities and then surprising the reader in the end. This was not one of his best books but still enjoyable. I continue to be a fan.
April 17,2025
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Sakytum tipinis standartinis Irvingas - prostitutės, mamos ir tėčiai, skyrybos, vaikai ir jų netektys, rašytojo vidinė makalošė, kelionės į Europą, peniai (taip, peniai išties yra vienas iš pagrindinių Irvingo leitmotyvų)... Aišku, jau esu rašiusi, kaip man Irvingo pastovumas patinka ir jį skaitau kaip seną draugą - numanydama, kaip maždaug vystysis siužetai, kas nutiks, o kas, ko gero ne; vis tik arba aš jau nuo jo pavargau, arba ši knyga man buvo be gyvybės ir nuobodi, kažkokia neirvingiška apvemtinai saldžia pabaiga, kažin kokiais neišbaigtas veikėjų portretais, nors ir nereikalingai ištįsusiom jų istorijom... Žodžiu, Našlė stovi toli nuo jo stipriausiųjų (man - Garpo, Oveno Minio, Tvisted Riverio).
Be kita ko, ir vertimas šūdinokas. Skaičiau lietuviškai vien todėl, kad turėjau knygą, o negalima negalima negalima.
April 17,2025
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Never have I wanted a house in the Hamptons more than after reading this book--okay, fine, I might have said that after watching Grey Gardens as well. Never have I wanted to visit Amsterdam's Red Light District more than after reading this book--nope, there's a documentary called Meet the Fokkens that had the same effect. Never have I wanted to learn to play squash more than after reading this book--the truth at last! For a moment I thought John Irving was going to make a liar out of me all for the sake of writing a Goodreads review.

As it turns out I am capable of reading 500+ page books, though this doesn't mean I don't think most can benefit from a slight trim. Thanks to this book I'll never think of squid ink in the same way ever again, or see an empty picture hook without feeling a tinge of sadness. Time to start on that children's book I've always wanted to write--thanks John Irving.
April 17,2025
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Wow. My 5th Irving, and what a good book. As usual, the author depicts scenarios that seem SO UNLIKELY! and yet they are believable and compelling.

A major theme of this novel is grief, grief for those we've lost to death, grief for our bad past choices, grief for loss of connection with the living, grief over abandonment. Connected to this, however, is the theme of love. Love of children for their parents, love of parents for children, love for our fellow man whom we may not know very well, the love of friends. Irving portrays love inextricably interwoven with grief. Imperfect love. Real love.

This book gives me hope, and helps me feel more tolerance for my own imperfect loving, and continued patience with my own process of grieving.

Another plus is how many times I perceived in this novel that Irving was poking fun at himself as a writer. It seemed obvious to me, but was not so obtrusive as to be distracting from the story.

A great story!
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