I found some of his advice to be interesting, but he tends to go on and on in his writing and I found myself skipping over paragraphs because it seemed so repetitive. I do really like his steps for encouraging obedience from children...although he doesnt call it obedience really, he calls it childrens natural desire to please their parents. I have been discouraged lately as I hear my son mimic orders to me and I don't like it. So, following Dr. Gray's advice to ask "Would you....please?" brought about immediate changes in how my son talks to me now. There are some more steps that come after the initial request, should the child choose to say No, that I still need to work on in order to see how effective it is, but overall - reading this book was a nice reminder to just be more polite to my son and even my husband. The atmosphere in the house has changed for the better.

Thanks to my journal, I discover that I read some parenting books in the year 2008. But why???

I remember this to be a bulky book and I definitely can't remember all the principles that are shared until I read it again. Here are 5 messages to positive parenting.
1. It's okay to be different
2. It's okay to make mistakes
3. It's okay to express negative emotions
4. It's okay to want more. [Though I have an issue with this- if it's okay to want more, then how will I teach them contentment?] Maybe that was explained but I didn't put it down.
5. It's okay to say no, but Mom and Dad are the bosses.

I wish someone had given me this book when I had my first child. This is one of the single best books on child rearing that I have read. It stresses what I find so powerful and important: keeping the preciousness of the child at the forfront of your mind (even when you want to throw them out the window!)

Man asmeniškai be galo patiko - labai lengvai skaitosi. Daug pavyzdžių, kuriuos tikrai nesudėtinga pritaikyti. Patiko tokios pozityvios mintys, kaip: “Vaikai iki 14 metų turi būti vaikais, turi žaisti ir išmokti būti laimingais”.

This was highly recommended to me. However, so far, it hasn't given me any earth-shattering news. Don't beat your kids. (anyone surprised?) Then it has focused on parents focusing on the positives with their kids rather than the negative.

Okay, so I got through chapter 9 and just couldn't do anymore. This has good ideas, but it's all obvious. Don't beat your kids. Use positive messages instead of threats. Thanks- learned that in 101 of teaching. If I hadn't been a teacher, this would have been much more helpful. But the book was SO repetitive. I felt like I was reading the same chapter over and over again...

Oh well. :)

I'd recommend this to anyone struggling with any children. Just don't expect a FUN read...

Teikšu atklāti, reti kuru grāmatu es lasu tik ilgi. Draudzenes ieteiktu iesāku šo lasīt jau vairāk kā gadu atpakaļ. Pirmās 70lpp bija veltītas tam, lai autors izstāstītu, ko es iegūšu, kad beigšu lasīt šo grāmatu! Pie 71.lpp es uz pusgadu padevos. Tad nolēmu, ka mest plinti krūmos nav īsti manā dabā un pieķēros vēlreiz. Ap 80.lpp sāka kļūt interesantāk un tad atkal nekā... patika apraksts par dažādiem bērnu temperamenta tipiem un kā ar šādiem bērniem saprasties. Autors izdala četrus tipus: 1) sensitīvais tips, kuriem ļoti vajag, lai viņā ieklausās un izprot, 2) aktīvais tips, kurus vajag “dresēt” un piedāvāt stingrākus rāmjus/ sistēmu, 3) komunikatīvais tips, kuriem ļoti vajag argumentēt kādēļ tas, ko liec viņam darīt ir vērtīgi un jēdzīgi un 4) receptīvais tips, kas nemīl pārmaiņas un viņiem vajag rituālus un rāmu ikdienu.
Saredzēju savus bērnu šajos aprakstos, kaut ko ieguvu ierosmei, bet ne visu man izdevās ieviest praksē. Var jau būt griba par vāju vai trūkst atbalsta šajā procesā, bet nu tāda taustīšanās vien sanāca.
Anyway, tas ko atkārtoju pie sevis kā mantru ir “kļūdīties var katrs” arī mans bērns. Neprasi no viņa vairāk kā viņš spēj paveikt, lai nav vilšanās ne Tev, ne viņam.

بعد قراءة كتاب الرجال من المريخ والنساء من الزهرة سابقا لجون جراى لم أتردد كثيرا في قراءة كتاب الأطفال من الجنة لما عرفت أنه لنفس الكاتب حيت كنت أبحت عن كتاب توجيهي في مجال التربية مع الاحد بعين الاعتبار اختلاف التقافات و المرجعيات إلا أنه اعطاني لمحة عامة و أفكار متنوعة و مفيدة عن كيفية التعامل مع الأطفال رغم كون الكتاب طويل جدا و كان هناك نوع من التكرار و المزايدة بدون فائدة.

كتاب مفيد ويستحق القراءة

يعتمد الكتاب على فكرة عامة شاملة وهي استخدام الحزم بعيداً عن أي عنف مؤذي.. ويقع في التكرار.. يستخدم أيضاً فكرة المكافآت الغير مادية وهي فكرة ممتازة.. مشكلته أنه ذو ترجمة ركيكة للغاية قد تكون عرضت الأفكار بشكل أسوأ.. إضافة إلى أن كل تجربة غربية في التربية لها أولويات تختلف عنا اجتماعياً ودينياً وثقافياً... فعلى المهتم أن يعي ما يقرأ..

Puiki patarimų knyga tėvams. Viskas taip nepaprastai paprasta... Puikūs patarimai kuriais jau pradėjau vadovautis, teks dar ne kartą perskaityt kad įsisavinti metodus, bet tikiuosi ši knyga padės man tapti geresne mama savo vaikams

أزعجني جدًا. تكرار القكرة أكثر من مرة داخل الكتاب وكثرة الكلام حول المعنى الواحد .. لكن بالمجمل لا بأس به

I read this during my early 20s, only realized that how parenting affects the personality and development of children.