what a load of crap. my friend gave me this book after trying to salvage his marriage, told me it was really insightful. He got a divorce within a year.

This book was so boring...I can't believe I wasted 3 days reading it. Perhaps because my relationship wasn't very similar to most the examples in the book or because Gray stereotypes men & women so much, I found myself unable to relate to what he was writing. There were a few good parts that I take with me: remembering that all relationships go through seasons of love, continuing to appreciate and communicate with my partner, and remembering that people handle situations differently.

I just finished reading this book , actually I used to read it twice to get all the ideas included .
it's strange to find someone who knows about yourself more than you do !! , so in the same way I think it can tell about others too ..
you will learn how to change your good intentions into actions , so it will save you from repeating bad scenarios .
and all in a very simple and clear form
I Love this book and recommend it to everybody :)

There are some books that you hear about and you hear about and you hear about, and eventually you think, "Hmmm, maybe I ought to read that. It's had a huge cultural impact on our society, it might be a good idea to be in on that."

Kind of like seeing Stars Wars, E.T. and the Godfather Trilogy (I still haven't seen E.T. or the Godfather Trilogy, but I hear they're both great). It's just a big cultural thing, you know?

With books, there are a few that everyone needs to know. There are the obvious ones -- classics written by the likes of Dickens, Austen, and Hawthorne. There are those timeless works that were never meant to be popularly read, but rather popularly seen (Shakespeare, Euripides, Sophocles, Malowe), yet have somehow become English High School standard fare.

And then there are the books that ripple through our space and time. Oprah said this, or my friend said that, or a church is protesting against this. The books that capture the public attention for longer than the space of a breath and manage to hold it. Sometimes these books have actually earned that attention. In most cases, not so much.

This book? It really didn't. It said nothing that we haven't heard before. It actually reinforced a lot of offensive stereotypes. As a woman, one I personally took offense to was in the introduction.

John Gray's telling the story of how, after his wife (Bonnie) had torn while giving birth to their first child, she'd been put on pain killers. After he took 5 days off from work to help her with taking care of the newborn, he returned to work. That day she apparently ran out of sick pills and asked his visiting brother to pick up a refill. For some reason, the brother didn't return with the pills. When the author/husband returned that evening, his in-pain wife starts crying to him about her day, he takes offense and they get in a fight.

All perfectly reasonable and normal. Newborn baby, stressful times, blah, blah, blah. The reason this is important is because this is the authors so-called "Ah-ha!" moment. He apparently, at this point, turns to storm out, and his wife says, "John Gray, stop! You're a fair weather friend! You love me when I'm smiley and happy, but you don't like me when I'm frowny and down!"

Or something to that effect. I've made it even cheesier than it was in the book, but let me assure you: it was pretty cheesy in the book. I am willing to bet it was not that cheesy in real life.

Anyway, long story short, the author says that he realized his wife was right, all she needed was a hug, he'd been a taker and not a giver, blah blah blah. Then he said what pissed me off and made me throw the book across the room with a growl (don't worry, it was an old, beat-up copy that I obtained second-hand from a free bin).

And I quote, "Another woman would have instinctively known what Bonnie needed. But as a man, I didn't know that touching, holding, and listening were so important to her."

I hate those kind of blanket statements, and I have to admit I'm prone to dismissing any advice that comes from someone who makes those types of statements. Do you know what I, a born and raised female, do when someone cries? I pat them awkwardly on the shoulder and ask if there's someone I can call.

People come in all flavors, and a blanket, generic statement isn't going to capture them. Neither is a condescending attitude of, "Remember back when you lived on Venus and I lived on Mars? Remember what that was like? Now we live on mean old Earth that has made us forget all those Venusian and Marsian traits!"

My gosh, it's like a Scientology manual gone mad. I wonder if it is.

am i the only one who found this book extremely sexist ?! why would a woman find this book helpful ?!

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, John Gray

Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this timeless book has helped men and women realize how different they can be in their communication styles, their emotional needs, and their modes of behavior, and offers the secrets of communicating without conflicts, allowing couples to give intimacy every chance to grow. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (1992) is a book written by American author and relationship counselor John Gray, after he had earned degrees in meditation and taken a correspondence course in psychology.

تاریخ نخستین خوانش: ماه آگوست سال1993میلادی

ترجمه های بسیاری از این کتاب با عنوانهای گوناگون وجود دارد همانند «ع‍ش‍ق‌ ب‍رت‍ر»؛ «م‍ردان‌ م‍ری‍خ‍ی‌، زن‍ان‌ ون‍وس‍ی‌»؛ و...؛

مرجعی عامیانه برای ریشه یابی ناهنجاریهای روابط انسانها: «مردان مریخی؛ زنان ونوسی»؛ در مورد روابط زناشویی و شناخت جنس دیگر است؛ در این کتاب نویسنده باور دارد، که زنان و مردان به رغم وجود تفاوت‌ها، می‌توانند شیوه‌ هایی را بیاموزند، تا به رابطه ای عاشقانه و صمیمی دست یابند، ایشان به همین منظور، شیوه‌ ها و راهکارهای تازه ای را، برای کم کردن تنش‌ها، در روابط زناشویی، و بوجود آوردن عشق و علاقه در این کتاب بیان می‌کنند

تاریخ بهنگام رسانی 28/04/1399هجری خورشیدی؛ 24/02/1401هجی خورشیدی؛ ا. شربیانی

I'm from Uranus so I don't know what this fuss is about.

قرأتي الثانية و لا زال التقييم ذاته ٤ نجوم.
النجمة الناقصة لسببين : أولها اختلاف نمط الحياة عند العرب عن الغرب وطريقة التعامل بين الزوجين أو الشريكين.
السبب الثاني ربما لا ينطبق على الجميع ، عندما يكون شريكك خارج عالم القراءة والإطلاع و غير راغب بالتغيير يصبح الأمر صعباً ..!
أن تقرأ و تتعمق لفهم الاختلافات ونقاط التحسين وتحاول تطبيقها بينما الطرف الآخر لم ولن يغير فطرته وثقافته الشرقية لهو أمر محبط ومؤسف حقاً.

الكتاب ممتاز جداً لكل شريكين يطمحان لتأسيس علاقة مبنية على التفاهم والتعاون أكثر منها على الحب ، لأن الحب كما يقال "أعمى" لا يكفي وحده لتيسير الأمور بسهولة دائماً.
أنصح به جداً و أنصح كذلك بإعادة قرأته كل مدة ، لأننا كبشر ننسى ونعاود التصرف من منطلق الفطرة دون استعمال العقل في ما يخص مشاعرنا وعلاقاتنا المقربة.
٢- ديسمبر ٢٠١٩ م
٣ محرم ١٤٤١ هـ

I decided to read this book because I'm a Dave Ramsey fan and it was one of the books on his recommended reading. I've been married for 10 years, but I figured it couldn't hurt to learn to communicate a little better. I'm not sure this book helped any. It's written with the assumption that all men are alike and all women are alike and that most of them have a "traditional" marriage or relationship. There is something sexist in the author's tone. He paints the women as the homemakers with a love of shopping and nurturing. He paints the men as the breadwinners who want to come home from work and watch sports on TV until you bring them their dinner.

The only insight I gained from the book was the different ways that men and women react to and deal with stress. The book was boring, very repetitive and seemed to drag on and on for much longer than needed to convey it's message.

Author's take on this subject is interesting.

وبعد قراءة هذا الكتاب بحوالي 7 سنوات ... أستطيع الحكم عليه بانه فاشل ... وحتى ولو انطبق الكلام على المجتمع الغربي والرجل الغربي(ولا أعلم لأي مدي قد ينطبق الكلام الوارد في الكتاب ولأي حد قد يساعد المأزومين في علاقاتهم في المجتمعات الغربية)، فإننا نفاجأ هنا في مجتمعاتنا الشرقية انه لا معايير محددة لا للحكم ولا التعامل مع البشر وسلوكياتهم وردود افعالهم ذكورا كانوا أو إناثا ... ويا بنات ... متصدقوش الكلام دة :)

Worst book I’ve ever read. He dumbs down psychology and makes excuses for men behaving badly. I will never read another book by this stooge.