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This is yet another matter regarding whether one can return home. When I was young, my father severed our ties with both sides of the family. It was only very recently, a year or two ago, that I began seeing my mother's two sisters. I've been invited to a birthday celebration for one of them this weekend, where I would encounter a large number of my mother's relatives, practically all of them. Should I go? Every time I contemplate this, I can't help but tell myself "You Can't Go Home," yet perhaps you can? Maybe? If, in effect, you suddenly see all these people with whom you might have spent your life but didn't, is that similar to going home? I don't know....Does it function that way? Or will I simply feel that I should have left things as they were.
I’ve always been aware of the truth that you can’t go home again. However, as I’ve spent more time in Adelaide, my hometown, over the past few months than I have cumulatively since I first left in the mid-eighties, I’ve discovered it to be even more painful than I anticipated. For the first time in so many years, I’ve started taking buses again and regressing to childhood, sitting at the back, as if a young love is going to miraculously appear beside me and…
I’ve begun going to the shopping centre near my mother again, and just stepping into the place makes me want to weep. I don’t want to, please don’t make me go in there, I keep telling my mother. It’s too big, I get lost, since I can’t explain to her why. It, like the buses, is a time machine that transports me right back to my teens, right back to that intoxicating time when everyone in the world loved you and you didn’t even notice, right back to a time when, in the tree of analysis, you made a decision that determined your life from that point, but you are back there again, and this time, perhaps, you could make that other decision and maybe…
If you desire to be in the place where you are right now, if that is where you want to be, then everything that preceded it, even the miserable, even the messed-up-what-on-earth-were-you-thinking-about, every single bit of it has led you here.
So, I’m considering spending a few months with my mother, simply moving back to Adelaide for a few months. Why not? I’m living out of a suitcase anyway, and she’d have a great time, and there really isn’t a reason it should cause me pain. I love going for visits, it’s just a long visit, but. Usually, I don’t take a bus there. I never set foot in the shopping centre. You can’t go home, this won’t be going home because it can’t be. I shouldn’t be afraid of this, should I.
I’ve always been aware of the truth that you can’t go home again. However, as I’ve spent more time in Adelaide, my hometown, over the past few months than I have cumulatively since I first left in the mid-eighties, I’ve discovered it to be even more painful than I anticipated. For the first time in so many years, I’ve started taking buses again and regressing to childhood, sitting at the back, as if a young love is going to miraculously appear beside me and…
I’ve begun going to the shopping centre near my mother again, and just stepping into the place makes me want to weep. I don’t want to, please don’t make me go in there, I keep telling my mother. It’s too big, I get lost, since I can’t explain to her why. It, like the buses, is a time machine that transports me right back to my teens, right back to that intoxicating time when everyone in the world loved you and you didn’t even notice, right back to a time when, in the tree of analysis, you made a decision that determined your life from that point, but you are back there again, and this time, perhaps, you could make that other decision and maybe…
If you desire to be in the place where you are right now, if that is where you want to be, then everything that preceded it, even the miserable, even the messed-up-what-on-earth-were-you-thinking-about, every single bit of it has led you here.
So, I’m considering spending a few months with my mother, simply moving back to Adelaide for a few months. Why not? I’m living out of a suitcase anyway, and she’d have a great time, and there really isn’t a reason it should cause me pain. I love going for visits, it’s just a long visit, but. Usually, I don’t take a bus there. I never set foot in the shopping centre. You can’t go home, this won’t be going home because it can’t be. I shouldn’t be afraid of this, should I.