When I recommended this book to my book club several years ago, an interesting reaction occurred. The only other woman who had read it glared at me with intensity and said, "if we pick this book, I am going to be REALLY mad at you." As a result, I quickly withdrew the suggestion. This particular book, which is a winner of the Man Booker prize, is indeed a painful read. It has the power to force the reader to deeply consider the complexity of human nature and behavior. It makes us realize just how thin the line can be between love and abuse. The story is set in the beautiful country of New Zealand and revolves around three wounded yet likeable characters - a man, a woman, and a child. Their lives intertwine in ways that are both heart-wrenching and thought-provoking.
I out myself as a philistine, I guess. With my dislike of this painfully literary book, I read it only because I was in New Zealand and thought I ought to read a famous NZ author. Once I got past the aggressively defensive introduction, which seemed to be shouting "Idiosyncratic Author is idiosyncratic! I can dizzily swap first-person POV and use my own grammar and make up my own words because I am Artistic!" and the Mary-Sueish tinge of the central character being named after the author (which made me want to *headdesk*), I found this book rather confusing.
Parts of it were interesting, while other parts were dull. And then, hey, there was a surprise woo-woo at the end. I kind of wish it had been introduced sooner, because it was cool and actually went somewhere. I didn't particularly like any of the characters, but I suppose that was part of the point. Maybe I'm just not the right audience for this kind of book. It's possible that those who are more into literary experimentation and complex character studies would appreciate it more. But for me, it was a bit of a struggle to get through.