This book is a very helpful book for men just entering a relationship or men who have been in a relationship for a long time and have not discovered their primary love languages. Dr. Chapman does a great job delving into each of the five primary languages and describing how the actions performed in each language speaks volumes to your significant other. He also hit on two key things for me: how to respond to anger in a relationship and how to apologize effectively in a relationships. Apologizing in general has always been a struggle for me and I had no idea that, like there are 5 love languages, there are also languages of apologizing that may communicate your apology in a better way. This really opened my eyes and I hope I can be more effective in communicating the genuineness of apologies in the future. I would recommend this book to anyone in a relationship, especially those that are struggling in communicating love to their significant others.

Similar to the original version. Could serve as an alternative to the standard version or as an addition to it.

I know what you're thinking... "Meg, are you, in fact... a MAN???" Nope. My brother-in-law just handed me a copy of his book (the "Men's Edition") a few weeks ago and told me to read it, that it would probably improve my marriage and understanding of my husband. And it did! It's a great book, and Chapman’s a genius. My main issue with it was redundancy. There doesn't need to be a whole book about this theory (much less several), the following paragraph would suffice:

There are five major ways that people prefer to be loved: QUALITY TIME (going on a walk, having a meaningful conversation, enjoying an activity together, etc.), WORDS OF AFFIRMATION (vocally expressing an interest in them and their opinions, asking advice, giving compliments, etc.), RECEIVING GIFTS (bringing home flowers, picking up a little something "just because you were thinking of him/her," homemade presents and cards, etc.), ACTS OF SERVICE (washing the dishes or doing laundry for them, helping them with a project, going grocery shopping so they don't have to, etc.), and PHYSICAL TOUCH (holding hands, giving massages, play fighting, sex... but not JUST sex... everybody loves sex. Well, let me rephrase that, everyone WHO REGULARLY HAS AN ORGASM loves sex... but Chapman didn't say that, it's just my opinion--disregard it as part of this review). So there they are, the five love languages. Figure out which one is your partner's (hint: it'll be the one he or she is always nagging that you "never do"), then go out of your way to show love the way they WANT to be loved, not the way you want to love them.

There it is, in a nutshell. It's an amazing theory that I think is mostly true and will work wonders in relationships. The book itself tends to make its point OVER AND OVER again... but now that you've read my paragraph, you won't need to invest the time!

You're welcome.

I hope Chapman doesn't sue me.

Very practical and effective, however, ignores the picture of marriage as Christ and the Church. It gets closest to this when it encourages men to keep loving their wife in their language even if it doesn’t get reciprocated. That said, the principle of loving your wife in the most effective way is clearly communicated throughout the book.

Muy enriquecedor, mis 2 lenguajes son Tiempo de calidad y Regalos.

To oversimplify this book pay attention to your spouse.  Try to love them in the ways they want to be loved not in the ways you want to love.  It is easier for men to acts of service.  We don't mind taking out the garbage or getting the oil changed.  But if she really wants quality time as Chapman points out over and over again you aren't filling her love bucket.  

throughout this book, Chapman goes over the 5 languages of love

Receiving Gifts
Physical Touch
Acts of Service
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Sometimes people may react stronger to more than on of the languages.  You will have to work on this test out each one for a while and see what works.  I believe Chapman's idea here is great because you have to listen to your spouse.  You have to learn who they are on the inside, and you have to spend time together figuring out which language works best.

Sound advice in a quick read

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The basic message of this book is a lot of people work very hard to be good spouses and they're doing things their spouse doesn't value. Figure out what your spouse really cares about and focus on that. Don't focus on your needs, and if you meet the needs of your spouse then they'll be more receptive to yours. They'll either know them already or you'll be able to talk to them.

While a lot of the examples in the book seem painfully obvious, there's definitely some things I can take away. Observe, listen, serve, understand. Make sure what you're doing is what your spouse actually wants, not what you think they want.

This isn't a 10 step guide to feeling like a teenager, drunk on love, for the next 40 years of your life. It can help a lot, though, and at least get you on the right path.

A book I revisit often to make sure my marriage is going strong.

HIGHLY recommend. Deeper understanding of how to love people in different ways. Offers practical tools to figure out your own love language and also noticing love languages of other people. Good balance between stories and facts. Definitely a must read, especially when trying to learn to love someone.

I've read a few of Gary Chapman's books, and I even own a couple of them. This one was written especially for men and the little interview with the author at the end, even mentions he tried to give it a manly cover. As with most books of this nature, I feel I have to sift through what is given.......what is pertinent to me, what isn't. This book was no different. Some of this was useful, some of it wasn't.

I like his emphasis on strengthening relationships. Everyone has the ability to improve any relationship, but bottom line, they have to be willing to put the other person first. Sometimes this means reaching out of your comfy little box. He illustrates his 5 major points well and gives helpful ideas for application.