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As a guy, I felt this was a much better book than the original. It's arguable whether the original needed to be a precursor or not necessary. Explanations and examples specifically for men was more insightful for me. As opposed to knowing your own language of desired getting and giving bit also the critical need for being bilingual, knowing all about hers. I'll stop not to give spoilers of many 'ah-hahs' you'll experience.

You know what, this is a great book serving as an introduction to emotional intelligence for (primarily) men and others who may have not learned these things in the past. I don't think I have a primary love language (which he kind of explains) but this gives so many great ideas to help affirm relationships.

Clear path to living your wife

This book gets right down to the heart of us men and pulls no punches. He helps us view our wives in healthy, biblical ways and gives us practical was to love our wives the way they deserve to be loved.

I know, I know, the men's edition? It's what was available. Really, it's the same information.

It shed some light on things I have struggled with.

*you don’t need to be a dude to read this edition*
I picked it up out of curiosity of how Chapman talked to males regarding the 5 Love languages. I wanted to understand how a man might approach his wife and if my mate would benefit from this book. The subject itself is gender neutral. The book has a slight lean towards the man but nothing that takes away from the message.
If your married I think this book would greatly benefit the marriage. Love is a choice you intend to choose errrrrday when you make the vows of marriage.

Nice and easy read. Though it caters to a Christian crowd, the information is universal. What I like about the author is he’s straightforward and offers multiple examples for finding your love language and fulfilling your partner’s love language. To summarize, love is like an oil tank in a car. The oil in it will decrease no matter what. You have to maintenance the tank regularly in order to remain maintain a healthy vehicle(relationship). Love takes consistent work. That’s what makes it worth it. In the past, I found it difficult to verbally express my feelings, so Gary’s guide on Words of Affirmation really helps. The chapter on finding your partner’s love language was great too.

Words of affirmation:
- pick one thing every fews day to specifically compliment her on.
- Borrow positive message from gift cards that specifically convey your feelings for her if needed.
- Admit faults in an introspective way
Quality Time:
- Undivided attention when spending time together.
- Eye contact during conversation
- Only give advice when asked
- Do not express frustration
- Do not interrupt
- Keep track of feelings in notebook. Event/Feelings 3x per day
Gift giving
- One per week if this is their love language
- Symbolic gifts
- Surprises
- Gifts that compliment hobbies/other gifts
Acts of Service
- Make a list of things that the other could do to make you happy. Vice versa
Physical Touch
- Embrace the embrace
- Make it a point to touch multiple times a day
- Offer activities that involve touch
- Embrace partner’s pet ownership
- Take care of her when she’s sick

Figure out love languages together
- Write down love languages in order of importance to you.
- Remember what partner did that made you fall in love
- Sit with partner and tell them what you believe is their love language. Listen closely to their response/input.
- Tank check: on a scale of 0-10, what is your love tank on? Then ask what you can do to increase the number.

Choose love: when angry about a past discretion, choose love. Past is the past

Every married (or engaged) man needs to read this book. I plan on reading it yearly to keep me reminded of the core teachings about the ways that I love my wife and the ways she feels loved.

Of the many practical marriage books which give suggestions for improving your marriage relationship, I've found the Five Love Languages books quite helpful. Learn how your spouse receives love, and learn to show your love to her in those ways. This book even moves a step closer to the heart of the issue, which many marriage books don’t, by making clear that learning to love your spouse like this is a sacrificial and costly choice to put the other person first.

(Some broader reflections: The book still doesn’t resolve the ultimate issue in marriage - since my spouse can never meet my needs perfectly, how is it possible for me to continue to love them with a lifetime of sacrificial and costly love? This is why I recommend books about the meaning of Christian marriage before I recommend more 'practical' marriage books. The key gospel insight is that we can only lay down our lives for our spouses because Jesus has laid down his life for us. Tim Keller’s The Meaning of Marriage was the book which most helped me understand this: “Do for your spouse what God has done for you in Jesus, and the rest will take care of itself.” The Five Love Languages, which isn’t a Christian book in any meaningful way, doesn’t get to the heart of this issue.)

Nonetheless, I've found the love language concept a helpful way to grow in understanding my wife, and learning to love her better, and reading this men’s version has encouraged and reminded me a number of ways I can keep growing in this. The “for men” concept is well executed — I think it would help men who don’t often read to get through the book.

[In English below] O livro é como uma terapia de casais portátil. É um livro muito prático. O autor explica as cinco linguagens do amor, explica como identificá-las em si e no seu cônjuge e como praticá-las de forma consistente para manter um relacionamento amor saudável e vivo. Definitivamente é um bom livro para qualquer casal que tem consciência de que a chama do amor já não é a mesma do início do relacionamento, mas que tem maturidade para entender que isso é muitas vezes a consequência de qualquer relacionamento e que pretende manter-se unido no longo prazo.

Agora, uma opinião pessoal, é de que o livro também me fez perceber que não há jeito certo de amar. A sociedade nos impõe uma forma correta de amar e ser amado. Dizem que se precisamos de palavras de afirmação somos carentes. Ou de que se precisamos de presentes, somos interesseiros... E na verdade, não há nada de errado com essas formas de se sentir amado ou de amar. Cada pessoa é única.

The book is like a portable couple therapy. It's a very practical book. The author elaborates on the 5 languages of love, explain how to identify them in yourself and in your spouse and how to practice them consistently in order to maintain a healthy and alive relationship. Definitely a good book for any couple aware that the flame of love is not the same that it was at the beginning, but that is mature enough to understand that most of the relationships functions this way.

A personal opinion: The book also made me realize that there is no right way to love. Society imposes a right way to love or to be loved. They say if we need words of affirmation, it's because we are needy. Or that if we need gifts, it's because we are self-seekers. And actually, there's nothing wrong with these ways of loving and being loved. Every person is unique.

This book was part of a two book set. After reading the first book which I enjoyed and appreciated, this book was more or less a waste of time and money.

Except for the cover and the suggestions at the end of each chapter that are catered to men, this book seems to be identical to the original The Five Love Languages. I'm okay with this, since I was due for a reread anyway, and since I spent $1 on this copy at Goodwill, but I'd be pretty upset if I had made any significant investment, expecting to receive insights unique to this version.