The authors expound on their theory that there are five different ways that people express and experience love: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service. By the time kids are five or so, they say, the kids have started to have a preference (before then children just need love in all the languages all the time). Knowing your child's love language can help you to be sure that they know that you love them, which leads to all kinds of good things they'd like to tell you more about.

For example, if a parent expresses love by acts of service, but the child experiences love through physical touch, then they may feel unloved even while the parent bends over backward for them. Similarly, if they experience love through words of affirmation, but a parent disciplines by yelling, the child may not get the message "You made a bad choice" but may instead hear "I don't love you."

The book is mildly, though overtly, Christian. Non-Christians will probably roll their eyes occasionally, though I still think that the basic message of the five love languages and how to discover and use them will ring true and be useful.

I think this is actually one of the more useful parenting books I've read, and recommend it quite highly.

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كما قال جبران خليل جبران هم ليسوا لنا بل هم ضيوف نحاول قدر الإمكان أن نكرمهم ونحسن ضيافتهم لعلهم يحسنوا إلينا عندما نحتاج إلى دعائهم يوما ما.

الكتاب أضاف إلي أكثر مما كنت أظن إستفدت جدا فهو يتماهى مع طرق التربية الإيجابية ويحاول تحليل الجانب النفسي للحب لدى الأطفال.

لو قريت كتاب الكبار قبله، فعدي اول 5 فصول بتاع شرح اللغات واوصل للفصول اللي بعدها على طول..
الفصول اللي بعد شرح اللغات بقة رااائعة، فعلا مفيدة وفيها جوانب كتير مهمة وانا رأيي انه كتاب لازم لازم يتقري!

I am really torn over what I thought of this book. While I like the concepts and I think it had valuable information I had a hard time with it. For some reason I couldn't get into the writing style. I constantly found my mind wandering and having to go back and re-read portions. The last several parenting books that I have read have been very readable so I found this hard to reconcile.

For the most part I felt like the "love languages" were well explained but in the later chapters when examples are given of putting it into action the authors would say things like: speak their love language and then introduce the discipline and then speak their love language to end the conversation. The problem I have with this is what if their love language is "gifts" or "acts of service"? You give them a gift discipline them and then give them another gift? Sew a button on their shirt discipline them and then help them clean their room? It didn't make sense to me.

My other big hang up was that the book began by saying that it's hard to determine the love language of children 5 and under. My oldest is 5. I didn't feel like this book applied to my family. Most of the examples sounded like conversations with teenagers, and yet their is another book titled "The Five Love Languages of Teenagers". I feel like I would have gotten more out of reading the book about couples and then applying some of what I read to the rest of my family.

All of this being said I still put the book on CD on hold at the library for my brother because I think it would be beneficial for him with his 9 and 11 year-old (and possibly the 7 year old too). It did bring a few tears to my eyes when I thought back to my childhood and realized why I never really felt loved by my parents because they have never spoken my love language to me. I KNOW that they love me and reading this helped me forgive them for some lingering feelings I have. After all they have no idea why I would not feel loved, they did their best.

This is getting really long. I could say more but I think you get the general idea. Valuable information, didn't love the writing.

من المقتطفات الي عجبتني من الكتاب

"من بين اشكال عدم فهمنا البعض ربما يكون الاشد ضررا هو عدم توصيلنا حبنا لاطفالنا كما ينبغي"
" يجب ان نملأ خزانات اطفالنا العاطفية بحب غير مشروط، لان الحب الحقيقي دائمًا ما يكون غير مشروط. فالحب غير المشروط هو حب حقيقي يقبل ويدعم الطفل من أجل من هو وليس من أجل الذي يفعله"
( لحجم صوت الاب او الام اثر عظيم على رد فعل الطفل على ما يقوله الوالدان)
( يعد اعطاء الهدايات وتلقيها كطريقة للتعبير عن الحب ظاهرة عالمية فالكلمة الانجليزية gift مشتقة من الكلمة اليونانية charis والتي تعني grace =نعمة)
( نحن نخدم اطفالنا ولكن عندما يكونون مستعدين، ينبقي ان نعلمهم كيف يخدموا انفسهم يم الاخرين)

A good parenting book on how to determine which love language is strongest for your child and specific ways to show your kids love with each language.

The first half was more interesting/useful to me than the second. The second half is too vague and doesn't get to the root of the problem in some ways.

لغات الحب الخمس التي يستخدمها الأطفال
اقتباسات :-
د.جاري تشامبا و د.روس كامبل سيساعدانك على أن :
* تكشف لغة حب طفلك
* تفهم الرابط بين التعلم الناتج ولغات الحب
* ترى كيف يمكن للغات الحب أن تساعدك على تأديب طفلك بطريقة أكثر فاعلية
* تبني أساسا للحب غير المشروط لطفلك
تقييمي :-
لغات الحب الخمس التي يستخدمها الأطفال كتاب رائع ومهم لكل الآباء ،في هذا الكتاب سنكتشف بعض من أسباب السلوكيات التي نراها في أبنائنا ولا تعجبنا ،سنتعلم طرق الحب الغير مشروط وطرق الوصول إلى لغة حب كل طفل لدينا ،فلغات الحب هي ٥ لغات ( التلامس الجسدي - كلمات التوكيد - الوقت النوعي - الهدايا - أعمال الخدمة ) لكل طفل مفتاح ومفتاحه هو معرفة لغة الجسد الخاصة به وملئ خزان الحب لديه ،لقد تطرق الكاتب في الفصول الأخيرة إلى طرق وأساليب تساعد الوالد او الوالده المنفصلين او الارامل " الوحيد في تربية الأبناء " على أساليب تسهل عليهم التربية لان مهمتهم أصعب في التربية أكثر من غيرهم ، بالنهاية أنصح الجميع باقتناء هذا الكتاب و كتاب لغات الحب الخمس فهما مرجعان أستسيان لبناء أسرة سعيدة .
ملاحظة : تقييمي للكتاب يعبر عن ذائقتي الشخصية وقد تختلف الذائقة من شخص لآخر.

Gayet egitici ve bilgilendirici buldum. Düşünmediğimiz alanlari da icine alarak sevgiyi insanlara iletme yöntemleri uzerine cok detayli bilgiler yer aliyor.

Ozellikle cocugumla hemen birkac deneme yaptim ve hemen olumlu yinde sonuc aldim.

I loved this book. Not just for its basic information about love languages in children, but also for its reminders to me as a mother about what my kids need from me. Of course I know they need love and diligent training, but it’s always refreshing to hear it again! Keep going! Keep training! In the marathon of parenting, I’ll be using this book as a “water break” for years to come!

I've read the original 5 Love Languages and so this one was sort of a waste of my time. I did find some valuable tips and interesting insights, but the 5 languages are the same for kids as adults, so it was the same book all over again. With an adult, you can say, "Here honey, take this quiz to let me know what your primary love language is." With kids, you can't do that as easily. This book (politely) says to the reader, "Hey, dummy. Try quality time and see how your kid responds. Then try words of affirmation and observe. Then try…" Now I told you the secret and you don't have to read this book. Probably the most helpful part was the chapter on discipline and the love languages. The fact that if you use their love language against them, it can be traumatizing. When their language is physical touch and you spank them, it's devastating. If their language is quality time and you send them to their room, they're crushed. To another kid, being sent to their room is play time. It was a good reminder to be sensitive to love languages when your kid misbehaves. Most times when your children misbehave, it's because they're asking for love anyway.

I am a blue, type - A, ESTJ, who likes to be shown love through quality time, and likes long walks on the beach and....WAIT, no I'm not. I'm Karen, a girl with lots of personality quirks, one of which is that I dislike pop psychology books that tell me I and everyone else fits into one of their created, ficticious descriptions. I have to admit, I didn't even finish this book (I did read almost all of it though). Probably most of us are familiar with the five love languages, they have enjoyed being very discussed pop psychology for the past 10 years. This book applies those same love languages to children. My issue is not with this book specifically, but with the idea in general. All this labeling, catagorizing, pigeon-holing, and simplifing people, into tidy little groups. I know we all have similarities, but if you really want to love someone, get to know them. It takes time and effort, but that would be a better use of your time than reading this book.

كتاب مهم لكل أب وأم لبناء علاقة حب قوية ومتينة مع أبنائهم .