Reading "Henry and June" truly inspired my mind to take a wonderful journey back to all the amazing hours I spent with one of my favorite lovers. He was simply outstanding. In fact, just thinking about those times right now makes me feel an intense warmth spreading through my body.
I had been attempting to break free from a chemical dependency that I had developed, which was related to the smell of my lover's sex sweat. I desired to be attracted to other people who were more emotionally accessible. Such is life. But, my goodness, if Anaïs Nin's memoir didn't have me writing love letters against my own usually better judgment. Shame on me!
"Henry and June" made me long for the kind of good sex that leaves you in a state of excitement for weeks. After a 12-hour session, the sheets are dried from sweat, saliva, and everything else that goes beyond the emotional brink of just needing. It had me craving the kind of sex that deceives you into believing that you could love someone unconditionally, even after not knowing them for a long time. Even if you knew they might never want to see you again, after you let them do that really dirty thing with your goldfish, two wax candles, and a portable corkscrew in public.
It's all about sharing passion, being filled with electricity, and experiencing the beauty that comes from that shared passion. It's about sharing rather than possessing, a sensual tingling heat, and mingling familiar bodies for affection. Love, lovers, and lovemaking, kindred spirits exploring, hot and romantic sex, all within a flowery, well-articulated diary. It's really good stuff.
Lovers like mine and Nin's can exist. They can come and go for everyone, as long as we allow ourselves to embrace passion as a part of exploration, rather than adhering to the conventional taboo of clinical coupling as the only way. I'm completely serious.
Sometimes it's a good risk to trust our desires, our hearts, the smells, the aching. The potential to be vulnerable shouldn't feel so perilous. This is a significant reason why the language of sex seems so exciting and controversial. Instead of the easy option of avoiding the language and judgment by either treating sex as a clown car for whore orgies or some blessed union for baby making.
Sex is one of my favorite ways to get to know someone who is incredibly attractive, charming, and funny. It is also a great way to have orgasms, as opposed to masturbation. Orgasms are wonderful, aren't they? "Henry and June" is filled with lovely people with imaginable accents having orgasms all over the place, even in beds. There is also a lot of kissing and foreplay. Butter is mentioned a few times. And Henry Miller is a sexual predator with a heart of gold trying to write a book. I want to have sex with someone just like Henry Miller, soon, or just before I'm 50, when I might have lost my edge. Either way, I'm sure the sex would be really good.
Reading Nin's exploration of the interior, hidden self has truly been a significant part of my own growth and discovery. Her deep dives into the human psyche have provided me with valuable insights and a new perspective on my own inner world. However, as I have delved deeper into her works, I have become increasingly weary of her narcissism.
It seems that Nin cannot have a relationship or even encounter a man without attempting to seduce him. This constant need for male attention and validation comes across as rather tiresome and self-centered. It makes me question the authenticity of her relationships and the true nature of her self-discovery.
Despite my growing weariness of her narcissism, I still appreciate the value of her exploration of the interior self. I just wish that she could have balanced her self-focus with a greater sense of empathy and consideration for others. Perhaps then, her works would have had an even greater impact on my own growth and understanding.