I think my sister left this in my car while she and my brother-in-law were going through premartial counseling or whatever. I found it and read through it while I was in between buying new books. There was a lot of insight but not much depth to this book. All of his points where just that, a small point which quickly moved on to the next. I thought for all of his wisdom, Warren could have expounded considerably on numerous topics within each chapter. Several times I found myself reading a "this is what you should do" statement but never finding the "and this is how you do it" to back it up. Reading this on your own won't do much more than pique your interest or at the most incite you to find something more to read on the subject. I'm sure, though, that this would be great for couples to read together for a counseling session in which they can come together for a broader discussion -- because that is what this book lacks. A broader discussion.

So good I need to re-read and take notes again.

I've been referring to this book quite a bit ever since I read it. I had heard that some of my brothers had read it. Not sure how it has affected them. But it has meant a lot to. The book makes sense and I agree with it very much. But keep in mind that just because you read the book doesn't mean you will find anyone right away. :-)

Offers practical advice that applied to all aspects of life and relationships, (not limited to just romantic relationship advice). I lent this one out to a few girlfriends and both of them agreed.

Książka zawiera naprawdę sporo pomocnych wskazówek dotyczących doboru partnera na całe życie.

I read this book because it was given to me by a family member. Said family member is 61 and happily married in a very rural area.

I'm 44, divorced, and live in a metropolitan area where little to no respect is given to others, so I've given up on dating. I don't think this family member realizes how awful the dating pool is these days and that if I do maintain my standards, I'll likely be alone forever. I've almost reached the point of acceptance that I'll be alone for the rest of my life, and this book only solidified that for me.

Dr. Warren gives phenomenal advice; so good, it made me realize that there really is no one out there for me.

Per usual, Mother Ulibarri has not lead me astray.

This was definitely worth reading. The book is easy to follow but still engaging and comes from a perspective that I find refreshing. The author writes from a Christian perspective but also has a Ph.D in psychology and works as a pre/marriage counselor. He brings a slightly new lens to a topic I hear from one specific view too often. It is somewhat validating to hear “don’t rush into marriage” or “don’t get married too young” for reasons that are honestly just logical. He touches on things I have felt but don’t hear many others expressing.

The principles that stood out the most to me are “develop a high degree of conscious clarity about the person you wish to marry…” and “make sure the person you marry is very similar to you”.

One sort of negative thing I have to say is that I wish it brought a bit more of Scripture into the picture. There wasn’t anything unbiblical mentioned (though he does say you need to love yourself before getting married, but the way it is explained isn’t as bad as it sounds). I am pretty sure this book is written for people in general, not just Christians, so it makes sense that specific Bible verses aren’t a central focus. It’s a book for people who want their future marriage to be healthy and stable, regardless of religious backgrounds.

Recommendation from dear old mum about "finding the love of my life" obviously. I would say it was best for you to read this book without already having a "love of your life" in mind... some may find it beneficial to go against me saying that but I found it very distracting. I can see how some might like to immediately apply everything to their own relationships though. Overall very interesting, given it is not something to read in one sitting - a lot more contemplation involved. A little dated but the message is still clear and data still applies and not overbearingly spiritual, so have at it.

One of the best books for anyone wanting to get married.

This book was recommended to me. I read it because I have two sons in their early twenties and I thought it might help me talk to them about finding the right person to marry. I think most of the ideas in the book were sound. It is a logical way to look for a mate instead of just keep dating until you find someone. I don't think everything it said was right on the mark, but it did have some good ideas for people that want to get married.

I would say this is a must-read for anyone not married yet and wants to put effort into truly making a solid decision in mate selection. This guy knows what he's talking about (after all, he's counselled 100's of couples)

Denise

Read this years and years ago for a college class.