I found this book a bit condescending and with too much of a religious feel to it. It also felt a little insincere and manipulative. I remember that everyone was reading it and swearing by it and that the author must have made millions on seminars and the like, but I found it too close to a cultish mentality and was unsurprised when several adepts of the book later tried dragging me in to pyramid schemes like Amway. Empty platitudes are not really incredibly useful. Read GTD instead!

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People = The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is a comprehensive program based on developing an awareness of how perceptions and assumptions hinder success---in business as well as personal relationships. Here's an approach that will help broaden your way of thinking and lead to greater opportunities and effective problem solving.

Be Pro-Active: Take the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.

Begin With an End in Mind: Start with a clear destination to understand where you are now, where you're going and what you value most.

Put First Things First: Manage yourself. Organize and execute around priorities.

Think Win/Win: See life as a cooperative, not a comprehensive arena where success is not achieved at the expense or exclusion of the success of others.

Seek First to Understand: Understand then be understood to build the skills of empathetic listening that inspires openness and trust.

Synergize: Apply the principles of cooperative creativity and value differences.

Renewal: Preserving and enhanving your greatest asset, yourself, by renewing the physical, spiritual, mental and social/emotional dimensions of your nature.

عنوانهای چاپ شده در ایران: «هفت عادت مردمان موثر»؛ «هفت گام به سوی کامیابی»؛ «تاملات روزانه»؛ نویسنده: استیون آر کاوی؛ تاریخ نخستین خوانش بیستم ماه جولای سال 1997میلادی

عنوان: هفت عادت مردمان موثر؛ نویسنده: استیون آر. کاوی؛ مترجم گیتی خوشدل؛ تهران، نشر البرز، سال1375؛ در189ص؛ مصور، نمودار؛ شابک9644420160؛ چاپ دوم سال1376؛ چاپ دیگر تهران، پیکان؛ چاپ هشتم سال1380؛ چاپ نهم سال1381؛ چاپ پانزدهم سال1384؛ در189ص؛ شابک9643280829؛ چاپ بیست و هشتم سال1392؛ چاپ سی و دوم سال1395؛ موضوع موفقیت - خودسازی - جنبه های روانشناسی و خلق و خوی مردمان تاثیر گذار از نویسندگان ایالات متحده آمریکا؛ سده 20م

عنوان: هفت عادت مردمان موثر؛ نویسنده: استیون آر. کاوی؛ مترجم محمدرضا آل یاسین؛ تهران، هامون، سال1376؛ در348ص؛ مصور، نمودار؛ شابک9649146687؛ چاپ دوم سال1377؛ چاپ سوم سال1378؛ چاپ هشتم سال1383؛ چاپ یازدهم سال1384؛ چاپ سیزدهم سال1385؛ چاپ بیست و دوم سال1393؛ موضوع: درسهایی برای دگرگونی خویشتن؛ از نویسندگان ایالات متحده آمریکا - سده 20م

عنوان: هفت گام به سوی کامیابی؛ تهران، نشر نی، سال1376، در416ص، شابک9643122743؛ مترجمها: محسن اشرفی؛ مهدی الوانی؛ معصومه پیروز بخت؛

عنوان: تاملات روزانه؛ مترجم: حسن اکبریان طبری؛ تهران، مهرنوش، سال1379؛ در137ص؛ شابک9649133135؛

کتابی است مشهور در مورد مهارت‌های زندگی

این کتاب، تا کنون به سی و هشت زبان، ترجمه، و پانزده میلیون نسخه، از آن در دنیا، به فروش رفته است؛ «کاوی» در این کتاب، با معرفی «هفت عادت»، و آموزش گام به گام آن‌ها، چیزی که زندگی در شمال نام می‌برد را، معرفی کرده، و اخلاق منجر به موفقیت را، به خوانشگر خویش آموزش می‌دهند؛ عنوان ادامه کتاب «عادت هشتم» است؛

تاریخ بهنگام رسانی 29/10/1399هجری خورشیدی؛ 27/07/1400هجری خورشیدی؛ ا. شربیانی

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change, so risky I took on board this book and now I'm so square I hurt myself, but did it with style. Common sense stuff find your own happy place, take what works for you leave out what doesn't, just appreciate Covey's work for what it is, as it is.

تابستان امسال هفت عادتی شدم
ممنون از استاد حق محمدی و تدریس فوق العادشون
این کتاب همه ی آن چه که خواهان بهبودش هستید را شامل میشود قرار نیست با خواندش در ده روز به سعادت برسید قرار نیست مثل یک زخم بند آنی یک شبه به بهبود ظاهری برسید قرار است در قدم اول خود را با تمام آنچه هستید بپذیرید ؛قرار است به درون خود آیید و سپس به برون تجلی یابید؛عامل شوید؛پایان خود را با تمام وجود ببینید و آنگاه انتخاب کنیدآن چه سر راهتان شما را دعوت به گزینش میکند؛امور نخست را دریابید؛به پیروزی عمومی برسیدو اره را تیز کنید و آنچه که به واسطه ی اصول و ارزش هایتان دست یافتید واقعیت اکنون و این جا را دریابید و در نهایت از درون به برون تجلی یابید .

Từ lúc sinh viên tới giờ, 6 năm
thì tui đọc cuốn này 6 lần.
Đọc lần này là lần thứ 7,
Và đây là một trong những quyển “tu thân” mà tui khó thấm nhất.
Mà khi tui thẩm thấu được một ít,
cảm thấy “đã não” vô cùng.

Cuốn này nó giống quyển “Hướng nội” ở phần đầu,
Là nó trọng kiểu người “tốt gỗ hơn tốt nước sơn”
hơn là kiểu người “đẹp nước sơn trước cái đã”.

Và rồi kinh qua nhiều lần đọc,
cộng với vài trải nghiệm cỏn con,
Mới phát hiện ra dân gian ta có một câu tóm ý, đó là
Có “THỰC” mới vực được đạo.

Không trung THỰC, đời nó đập liền.
Không năng lực THỰC, đời nó đập liền.
“ĐẸP NƯỚC” mà gỗ không có chất, đời nó đập liền..
Có “THỰC” mới vực được đạo.
Không cần bất cứ chiêu trò hay mẹo vặt nào mà vẫn được người khác tôn trọng, quý mến và tin tưởng

Cái rồi, mình xin đem câu này,
cấy vào cái core values của công ty.
Vậy đó.
Nhiều người dùng từ CHÍNH TRỰC,
nhưng mình thích gói ghém vào câu này hơn,
Có “THỰC” mới vực được đạo.

Filled with great thoughts and wonderful life skills, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People is at once enjoyable and informative, well-written and easily read, and has plenty of food for thought. The charts and such were very helpful, too. The naysayers below have no clue about the subject of which they're blabbering about.

EDIT: I didn't remember that this book talks about how focusing on pleasure, friends, or enemies can ruin your life; that's what I've been doing for quite a while, so, I need to focus on what's truly important. I never would have realized that if I hadn't reread this book.

Not bad. Certainly better, if you know what a shit most of the self help books are.

Inspirational, developmental, and practical -- what a combination! The principles of behavior covered in this groundbreaking and long-respected book are of great worth to anyone seeking success in career, family, or any other aspect of their life. Covey discusses first the actions we must take (or habits we must develop) internally first - getting our heads and hearts right first. These include being proactive, beginning with the end in mind, and putting first things first. These constitute the "private victory." He then moves on to the "public victory," that is, the things that we can do that involve other people, and not just our own internal battles and development. These include, thinking win/win, seeking first to understand and then to be understood, and achieving synergy with others. Finally, he addresses the truth that we won't always be energetic and at our best in his discussion of personal renewal. Key to that is the idea of sharpening the saw...that is, we can only be at the top of our game for so long before we need to re-energize. Any serious athlete understands that principle.

Outstanding book, especially when linked with his expanded discussion of Habit 3, putting first things first, in the book by the same title. Another excellent complement to this book is "Crucial Conversations."

معروف ان الكتاب من اكثر الكتب مبيعا في التاريخ ..ومع ذلك للأسف لم يترجم بطريقة جيدة ..حتى انه هناك جمل غير مفهومة إطلاقاً، فأنصح الذين يجيدون اللغة الإنجليزية قراءته بالنسخة الإنجليزية ...وهناك كتاب اسمه "التغيير من الداخل..تأملات لعادات النجاح السبع" للدكتور ايمن سعد عبده يوضح هذه العادات بإسلوب شيق ويبين اهميتها وان جميع هذه العادات حث عليها الدين الإسلامي الحنيف.

Paradigm shift

We must look at the lens through which we see the world

We first have to change ourselves, have to change our perceptions

We see the world, not as it is, but as we are

The United States today is the fruit of paradigm shift

Paradigm is the source from which attitudes and behaviors flow

Listening

Listening involves patience, openness, and the desire to understand

Problem

The way we see the problem is the problem

Habit

The intersection of knowledge, skill and desire

Happiness

What we want now and what we want eventually

Dependence to independence to interdependence

Life is, by nature, highly interdependent

Effectiveness

(1) What is produced (2) capacity to produce - (P/PC)

Effective people are not problem-minded but opportunity-minded

Effectiveness lies in the balance

Social paradigm

More projections than reflections

Freedom to choose

Can you look at yourself almost as though you were someone else?

We are not our feelings. We are not our moods. We are not even our moods

Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose

We are free to choose the action, not to choose their consequences

Reactive people

Reactive people build their emotional lives around the behavior of others

Driven by feelings, conditions and environment

Proactive people

Proactive people are driven by values -- carefully thought about

Their response to the stimuli is a value based choice or response

What hurts us

It's not what happens to us, but our response to what happens what hurts us

Victor Frankl

Three central values in life:

(1) Experimental: what happens to us

(2) Creative: what we bring into existence

(3) Attitudinal: our response in difficult circumstances

Meaning comes from within

Love

Reactive people make it a feeling

Proactive people make it a verb

Circle of concern / circle of influence

Where we focus our time and energy

Reactive people focus on circle of concern

Proactive people focus on circle of influence

Areas of problems

(1) Direct control

(2) Indirect control

(3) No control

Proactive approach

Change the formula, change the result

Change from inside-out

Acknowledge a mistake, correct and learn from it

Begin with the end in mind

All things are created twice. First in mind, then physically

Accept the responsibility for both

Habit 1 says "you are the creator". Habit 2 is the first creation

Habit 1 says "you are the program". Habit 2 says "write the program"

Management / Leadership

Management is the bottom line

Leadership is the top line

Management is the efficiency in climbing the ladder of success

Leadership determines whether ladder is leaning against the right wall

Leadership: constantly monitor environmental change. Organize resource in right direction

We are trapped in management paradigm, thinking of control, efficiency and rules instead of direction, purpose and family feeling

Rescripting

Through imagination we can visualize the uncreated worlds

Through conscious we come into contact with universal laws

Combined with self-awareness, these two help us to rescript our own script

Mission

People can't live with change if there's not a changeless core inside them

Sense of who you are, what you are about and what you value

Fankl: We detect rather than invent our missions

Goals

Goals give structure and organized direction to your personal mission

Center of life

Whatever is at the center of our life will be the source of our security, guidance, wisdom and power

Security represents your sense worth

Guidance means your source of direction

Wisdom is your perspective on life

Power is the faculty or capacity to act

Principles

Principles are deep, fundamental truths, classic truths, generic common denominators. They are tightly interwoven threads running with exactness, consistency, beauty, and strength through the fabric of life

Brain

Left hemisphere: logical, verbal, parts and specifics, analysis, sequential thinking, time bound, manage

Right hemisphere: intuitive, creative, wholes and relationship, synthesis, holistic thinking, time free, lead

Expand your mind. Visualize in rich detail. Involve as many emotions and feelings as possible. Involve as many of the sense as you can

Affirmation

Five basic ingredients: personal, positive, present, visual, emotional

Put first thing first

Habit 3 is the second (physical) creation

Time management

First generation: notes and checklists

Second generation: calendar and appointment books

Third generation: prioritization, setting goals

Fourth generation: challenge is not manage time but to manage ourselves

Urgent

Urgent means it requires immediate attention

Its visible

Important

What contributes to your mission

Four quadrants

(1) Urgent / important

(2) Important / not urgent

(3) Urgent / not important

(4) not urgent / not important

As long as you focus on quadrant one, it keeps getting better

Samuel Johnson

There could be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity

Golden Rule

Do unto other as you would have others do unto you

Relationships

In relationships, the little things are the big things

In relationship, fear replaces cooperation

People are very tender, very sensitive inside

Keeping a commitment or a promise is major deposit

Breaking one is a major withdrawal

The cause of almost all relationship difficulties is rooted in conflicting or ambiguous expectations around roles and goals

Integrity

Integrity is conforming reality to our words

Leo Roskin

It is the weak who are cruel. Gentleness can be expected from the strong

Rebellion

Rebellion is the knot of heart, not of mind

Think win-win

It means that agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial, mutually satisfying

Win-win sees life as a cooperative, not a competitive arena

There is plenty for everybody

Belief in third alternative

Win-lose

Authoritarian approach. Prone to use position

We are deeply scripted in the win-lose mentality since birth

The academic world reinforces it

Lose-win

No standards, no demands, no expectations, no vision

Seek strength from popularity or acceptance

Intimidated by the ego strength of others

Win-lose people love lose-win people

Character

Your example flows naturally out of your character

Your character is constantly radiating, communicating

Listening

Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with intent to reply

They're either speaking or preparing to speak

Filtering everything through their own paradigms

Reading their autobiography into other people's lives

The opposite is empathetic listening

Ethos

Personal credibility. Integrity

Pathos

Empathic side. You are in alignment with other's trust

Logos

Logic. Reasoning part

Synergy

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts

Synergy is everywhere in nature

Everything is related to everything

It is creative cooperation

To value and respect the differences

There is psychic synergy taking place in our own head

Manage from the left, lead from the right

Sharpen the saw

Renewal of four dimensions in balance

Quadrant II activity

Build your body in three areas: endurance, flexibility, and strength

Writing is a powerful way to sharpen the mental say

Be a positive scripter, an affirmer

See unseen potential in people

See them in fresh way

The upward spiral

Keep progressing, we must learn, commit and do (repeat)

The lord work from the inside out

The world work from outside in

The world would shape human behavior, but Christ can change the human character - Ezra Taft

And the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we began - T. S. Eliot

I had a review of this book almost completed in my spiral notebook that I keep in my backpack and that I take everywhere (now there is a highly effective habit!) but every brilliant insult I wrote about this load of fertilizer has to take a backseat because I just discovered that there is a website 7habitsstore.com which forced me to rethink all of the vitriol I'd penned while sitting in a café thinking about this book (sitting in cafés and thinking: another highly effective habit) because the merchandizing of this book somehow lowered my already rock-bottom opinion of 7 Habits.

Just looking through the obscenely over-priced merchandise is enough to merit a 1 Star rating for the book on Goodreads. How about a 7 Habits poster for your children for only $39.95? Seriously, if someone I knew were teaching their child the word “synergize,” I would call protective custody immediately and have the child removed from that home. Just that thought makes me shudder. There are dozens of spin-off books, so this toxic waste site and “self-help” book has spawned a library of moronic literature. Someone please pound a stake through its heart!

Here’s the thing, I think that the people who claim that this book somehow guided them on their path to riches and fame just don’t give themselves enough credit for working hard. They could also credit the fortune cookies they have read along the way which have a stronger intellectual base than anything in this idiotic treatise. His list of 7 habits are either completely stupid or mind-numbingly commonsensical. I have often said that most self-help books could be reduced to a 3x5 index card. If there is anything even remotely interesting contained in this book, it could fit on the back of a postage stamp using a marker pen.

He actually uses the fable of the Golden Goose and spins it into a chapter. Wow, what an intellect! The lesson is to take care of things or they won’t work well for long. Now there is a great lesson to teach people…except almost everyone learns that one at around age 6.

¡Spoiler Alert! Here are the 7 habits and I am not making this shit up:

1 - Be Pro-active
2 - Begin with the End in Mind
3 - Put First Things First
4 - Think Win-Win
5 - Seek First to Understand
6 - Synergize (Yeah, I don’t know what that word means either)
7 - Sharpen the Saw

The thing is, no one can define success or effectiveness for anyone else. I'm sure that many people feel that Donald Trump is effective and successful. I think that he's a huge asshole and a total loser. It all depends on your perspective.

I know I was supposed to fall down and worship the ground that Mr. Covey walked on after I read this book. I am sure it is a fine book for some people. But not for me. I could not take the sheep mentality that this book creates. I am supposed to repeat the mantras in this book and practice the principles so I can be like everyone else that has read this book. Ummmmm...no? They are actually teaching these principles at the school where I work and my kids come home with these little platitudes every week. I am so sick of hearing them. Our teachers are no more effective or productive for having read this book or trying to drill it into my kids. I am no more effective for reading it. I am however more effective when I live my life the way I say I am going to. I am effective when I stick to my own principles and am honest and open with people. I don't need someone to stand behind me and whisper in my ear that I am a good person and people will like and respect me more when I become more effective. All this "pat on the back" mentality that our society has is tearing us down. We mollycoddle our kids to death, no one takes responsibility for themselves or their own actions and if you are not effective, it is not because you are not working hard enough or trying hard enough, it is now because you did not learn these principles or read the book and so, it is not your fault. Pppfffftttt!!!!