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NARCISSUS AND ECHO:
The Birth of Narcissus
Narcissus was fathered by Cephisus, who "forcefully ravished" the dark river nymph, Liriope.
Narcissus was so beautiful that, even in his cradle, you could have fallen in love with him.
His family asked a seer whether he would live to a ripe old age. He replied, "Yes, if he does not come to know himself."
At first, it seemed that this reply was innocuous. However, ultimately, according to Ovid, it was proven to be true for two reasons: "the strange madness" that afflicted the boy and the nature of his death.
Sweet Sixteen
At the age of 16, Narcissus could be counted as both a boy and a man.
Both males and females fell in love with him. However, Ovid says that "his soft young body housed a pride so unyielding that none of those boys or girls dared to touch him."
The implications of this assessment are complicated. There are three components:
1. Narcissus was proud or vain.
2. He (or his pride) was unyielding.
3. None of his admirers dared to touch him.
What is unclear is whether he rejected the approaches of his admirers.
Did he not yield to their approaches? Alternatively, did he appear to be so unyielding that they didn't make any approaches? Did none dare to approach him?
The Importance of Gender
It's important to recognise that Narcissus' admirers were of both genders.
He was equally attractive to both.
Equally, he implicitly rejected approaches from both genders, so there is no reason to suspect that his sexuality was resolutely either heterosexual or homosexual or bisexual.
The Arrival of Echo
The narrative accelerates with the entry of Echo.
She is unable to initiate a conversation, but can respond to another's comments, by repeating the last words that she has heard.
She falls in love with Narcissus. When he detects her presence, he says "I would die before I would have you touch me." Echo replies, "I would have you touch me." She is inviting physical contact. He scorns her and she wastes away, almost anorexically, until only her voice is left.
At this point, Ovid mentions that Narcissus has treated her exactly as he has treated both female and male admirers.
"Echo and Narcissus" (1903), by John William Waterhouse
An Admirer Scorned
Now, another of Narcissus' admirers (not Echo) causes him to be cursed:
"May he himself fall in love with another, as we have done with him! May he too be unable to gain his loved one!"
The curse effectively makes his love unattainable.
A Clear Pool with Shining Silvery Waters
In the next scene, we find Narcissus next to a pool in the woods.
As he drinks from the pool, he becomes enchanted with the beautiful reflection that he sees.
He has become "spellbound by his own self". However, at this stage, there is no suggestion that he knows that the image is himself:
"Unwittingly, he desired himself, and was himself the object of his own approval, at once seeking and sought, himself kindling the flame with which he burned."
Unknowingly, Subject and Object had become one.
However, as a result of the curse, the Subject could not attain his Object, himself.
The Shadow of Your Reflection
Ovid warns Narcissus in the text:
"Poor foolish boy, why vainly grasp at the fleeting image that eludes you? The thing you are seeing does not exist; only turn aside and you will lose what you love. What you see is but the shadow cast by your reflection; in itself it is nothing. It comes with you, and lasts while you are there; it will go when you go, if go you can."
However, there is no suggestion that Narcissus hears the warning. Ovid's caveat comes after the event, when he is writing his tale. Narcissus must acquire knowledge of his predicament on his own. He must come to know himself alone.
Narcissus' Love
Narcissus' dilemma is that he can't reach or attain his love:
"I am in love, and see my loved one, but that for which I see and love, I cannot reach; so far am I deluded by my love...Only a little water keeps us apart."
Eventually, he recognises himself and realises the nature of his love:
"Alas! I am myself the boy I see. I know it: my own reflection does not deceive me. I am on fire with love for my own self. It is I who kindle the flames which I must endure."
What is to be done?
"What should I do? Woo or be wooed? But what then shall I seek by my wooing? What I desire, I have..."
He has come to recognise that the Object of the Subject is the Subject itself.
Because he already possesses himself (in fact, he is self-possessed), his desire is futile. He cannot acquire again what he already has.
Separation and Pursuit
His one response is:
"How I wish I could separate myself from my body."
The mind needs to separate from the body, the Subject needs to separate from the Object, so that the one can pursue the other.
This process of separation would make it possible to both desire and acquire. However, again, it is a futile endeavour.
My Ill-Starred Love
Narcissus realises that he can never touch the object of his love, because it is watery and illusory.
As his image recedes in the pool, he pleads:
"Let me look upon you, if I cannot touch you! Let me, by looking, feed my ill-starred love."
Let me gaze, if I cannot touch. Even if the object of my gaze is myself.
He remains trapped in his self-possession.
Woe is Me
Narcissus, absorbed by his own image, remains by the pool and does not eat or drink. Like Echo before him, he wastes away. His last words before he dies are:
"Woe is me for the boy I loved in vain!"
It seems that he has come to "know himself" It's interesting to speculate on the meaning of this phrase in this context. Normally, to "know yourself" would be good advice and might prolong life. Here, knowledge will abbreviate Narcissus' life. I wonder whether the verb "know" is being used in a different sense to knowledge, perhaps something analogous to the "Biblical sense"? Was his problem knowing himself as he might know an Other? Alternatively, is there an implication that the illusion could have continued had he not recognised himself? and therefore, in terms of the prophecy, he would not live a long life.
When they are preparing his funeral pyre, the only evidence of him they can find is "a flower with circle of white petals round a yellow centre", a narcissus.
Love of One's Own Echo
The Narcissus myth has been interpreted as a warning against:
1. self-love; and/or
2. homosexual love.
It's arguable that the reason Narcissus loved in vain, is that he loved in vanity.
If initially he loved another, eventually he loved his own image.
However, in doing so he was deluded, or he deluded himself.
The object of the pursuit needs to be an Other, an Object, not the Subject.
It takes two to make one.
Vanity or excessive pride can be an obstacle in this quest.
Same Sex Attraction
The second issue relates to whether the Object needs to be an Other, someone who is not like you. In other words, someone who is different, someone who is of a different gender.
In a way, the implicit question is whether homosexuality is a quest for another self, a match, a doppelgänger, rather than an opposite or a complement.
If the former, is homosexuality a form of "narcissism"?
I don't think that the original Narcissus myth implies anything about homosexuality.
Initially, Narcissus did not yield to approaches by either gender. There was no differentiation between heterosexuality and homosexuality. They were equally available and appropriate.
It's true that, inevitably, Narcissus saw a male image in the pool, just as a woman would have seen a female image. He also rejected the advances of the female Echo (as he did previously reject the advances of both genders).
However, I don't see the myth as a caveat against same sex attraction and relationships.
Leaving Room for An Other
The real issue seems to be a preoccupation or an obsession with yourself, the obsession of Subject for Subject. This is the "strange madness" that Ovid refers to.
In other words, the myth itself suggests that it is not sufficient for a Subject to be attracted to itself, a Subject needs an Object, regardless of gender.
Although Echo was originally a nymph capable of giving love to Narcissus, her fate in mythology suggests that, while it might have been legitimate for Narcissus to fall in love with Echo, it wasn't appropriate for Narcissus to fall in love with his own echo.
Ultimately, Narcissus died by his own hand, killed by a reflection or an echo of his former self.
This review is part of a reading sequence that includes both Freud and subsequent Queer Theory:
On Narcissism: An Introduction
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...
Reflecting Narcissus: A Queer Aesthetic
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>
The Birth of Narcissus
Narcissus was fathered by Cephisus, who "forcefully ravished" the dark river nymph, Liriope.
Narcissus was so beautiful that, even in his cradle, you could have fallen in love with him.
His family asked a seer whether he would live to a ripe old age. He replied, "Yes, if he does not come to know himself."
At first, it seemed that this reply was innocuous. However, ultimately, according to Ovid, it was proven to be true for two reasons: "the strange madness" that afflicted the boy and the nature of his death.
Sweet Sixteen
At the age of 16, Narcissus could be counted as both a boy and a man.
Both males and females fell in love with him. However, Ovid says that "his soft young body housed a pride so unyielding that none of those boys or girls dared to touch him."
The implications of this assessment are complicated. There are three components:
1. Narcissus was proud or vain.
2. He (or his pride) was unyielding.
3. None of his admirers dared to touch him.
What is unclear is whether he rejected the approaches of his admirers.
Did he not yield to their approaches? Alternatively, did he appear to be so unyielding that they didn't make any approaches? Did none dare to approach him?
The Importance of Gender
It's important to recognise that Narcissus' admirers were of both genders.
He was equally attractive to both.
Equally, he implicitly rejected approaches from both genders, so there is no reason to suspect that his sexuality was resolutely either heterosexual or homosexual or bisexual.
The Arrival of Echo
The narrative accelerates with the entry of Echo.
She is unable to initiate a conversation, but can respond to another's comments, by repeating the last words that she has heard.
She falls in love with Narcissus. When he detects her presence, he says "I would die before I would have you touch me." Echo replies, "I would have you touch me." She is inviting physical contact. He scorns her and she wastes away, almost anorexically, until only her voice is left.
At this point, Ovid mentions that Narcissus has treated her exactly as he has treated both female and male admirers.
"Echo and Narcissus" (1903), by John William Waterhouse
An Admirer Scorned
Now, another of Narcissus' admirers (not Echo) causes him to be cursed:
"May he himself fall in love with another, as we have done with him! May he too be unable to gain his loved one!"
The curse effectively makes his love unattainable.
A Clear Pool with Shining Silvery Waters
In the next scene, we find Narcissus next to a pool in the woods.
As he drinks from the pool, he becomes enchanted with the beautiful reflection that he sees.
He has become "spellbound by his own self". However, at this stage, there is no suggestion that he knows that the image is himself:
"Unwittingly, he desired himself, and was himself the object of his own approval, at once seeking and sought, himself kindling the flame with which he burned."
Unknowingly, Subject and Object had become one.
However, as a result of the curse, the Subject could not attain his Object, himself.
The Shadow of Your Reflection
Ovid warns Narcissus in the text:
"Poor foolish boy, why vainly grasp at the fleeting image that eludes you? The thing you are seeing does not exist; only turn aside and you will lose what you love. What you see is but the shadow cast by your reflection; in itself it is nothing. It comes with you, and lasts while you are there; it will go when you go, if go you can."
However, there is no suggestion that Narcissus hears the warning. Ovid's caveat comes after the event, when he is writing his tale. Narcissus must acquire knowledge of his predicament on his own. He must come to know himself alone.
Narcissus' Love
Narcissus' dilemma is that he can't reach or attain his love:
"I am in love, and see my loved one, but that for which I see and love, I cannot reach; so far am I deluded by my love...Only a little water keeps us apart."
Eventually, he recognises himself and realises the nature of his love:
"Alas! I am myself the boy I see. I know it: my own reflection does not deceive me. I am on fire with love for my own self. It is I who kindle the flames which I must endure."
What is to be done?
"What should I do? Woo or be wooed? But what then shall I seek by my wooing? What I desire, I have..."
He has come to recognise that the Object of the Subject is the Subject itself.
Because he already possesses himself (in fact, he is self-possessed), his desire is futile. He cannot acquire again what he already has.
Separation and Pursuit
His one response is:
"How I wish I could separate myself from my body."
The mind needs to separate from the body, the Subject needs to separate from the Object, so that the one can pursue the other.
This process of separation would make it possible to both desire and acquire. However, again, it is a futile endeavour.
My Ill-Starred Love
Narcissus realises that he can never touch the object of his love, because it is watery and illusory.
As his image recedes in the pool, he pleads:
"Let me look upon you, if I cannot touch you! Let me, by looking, feed my ill-starred love."
Let me gaze, if I cannot touch. Even if the object of my gaze is myself.
He remains trapped in his self-possession.
Woe is Me
Narcissus, absorbed by his own image, remains by the pool and does not eat or drink. Like Echo before him, he wastes away. His last words before he dies are:
"Woe is me for the boy I loved in vain!"
It seems that he has come to "know himself" It's interesting to speculate on the meaning of this phrase in this context. Normally, to "know yourself" would be good advice and might prolong life. Here, knowledge will abbreviate Narcissus' life. I wonder whether the verb "know" is being used in a different sense to knowledge, perhaps something analogous to the "Biblical sense"? Was his problem knowing himself as he might know an Other? Alternatively, is there an implication that the illusion could have continued had he not recognised himself? and therefore, in terms of the prophecy, he would not live a long life.
When they are preparing his funeral pyre, the only evidence of him they can find is "a flower with circle of white petals round a yellow centre", a narcissus.
Love of One's Own Echo
The Narcissus myth has been interpreted as a warning against:
1. self-love; and/or
2. homosexual love.
It's arguable that the reason Narcissus loved in vain, is that he loved in vanity.
If initially he loved another, eventually he loved his own image.
However, in doing so he was deluded, or he deluded himself.
The object of the pursuit needs to be an Other, an Object, not the Subject.
It takes two to make one.
Vanity or excessive pride can be an obstacle in this quest.
Same Sex Attraction
The second issue relates to whether the Object needs to be an Other, someone who is not like you. In other words, someone who is different, someone who is of a different gender.
In a way, the implicit question is whether homosexuality is a quest for another self, a match, a doppelgänger, rather than an opposite or a complement.
If the former, is homosexuality a form of "narcissism"?
I don't think that the original Narcissus myth implies anything about homosexuality.
Initially, Narcissus did not yield to approaches by either gender. There was no differentiation between heterosexuality and homosexuality. They were equally available and appropriate.
It's true that, inevitably, Narcissus saw a male image in the pool, just as a woman would have seen a female image. He also rejected the advances of the female Echo (as he did previously reject the advances of both genders).
However, I don't see the myth as a caveat against same sex attraction and relationships.
Leaving Room for An Other
The real issue seems to be a preoccupation or an obsession with yourself, the obsession of Subject for Subject. This is the "strange madness" that Ovid refers to.
In other words, the myth itself suggests that it is not sufficient for a Subject to be attracted to itself, a Subject needs an Object, regardless of gender.
Although Echo was originally a nymph capable of giving love to Narcissus, her fate in mythology suggests that, while it might have been legitimate for Narcissus to fall in love with Echo, it wasn't appropriate for Narcissus to fall in love with his own echo.
Ultimately, Narcissus died by his own hand, killed by a reflection or an echo of his former self.
This review is part of a reading sequence that includes both Freud and subsequent Queer Theory:
On Narcissism: An Introduction
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...
Reflecting Narcissus: A Queer Aesthetic
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>