When a person is dissatisfied with who he is, that is the beginning of pain. You want to be someone else who has more knowledge or is more handsome, or who has a bigger house, more power, a better job than you. You want to be more just, you want to be able to meditate better, you want to reach God, you want to be different from who you are, so you are painful and blind. It is extremely difficult to understand who you are because it requires complete freedom from all desires to change who you are into something else. The desire to change oneself causes pain, blindness, while in the understanding of who you are, the transformation of your present being takes place. ***
Happiness does not come when you pursue it, and this is the greatest secret. I can express it in some simple words, but just listening to me and repeating what you hear, you will not become happy. Happiness is different - it comes when you do not pursue it. [...] You can listen to these words, but for happiness to exist, you have to figure out how to free the mind from all fears. As long as you are afraid of something or someone, happiness cannot exist. ***
Unfortunately, we very rarely think about others, we do not have deep feelings. Most of us are intellectuals - intellectuals in the upper sense as those who are very smart, full of words and theories about what is right and what is wrong, how we should think, what we should do. In the field of the mind, we are highly developed, but inside us there is very little substance or strength, and it is precisely this inner substance that produces the true action that is not in accordance with any idea. ***
No one can teach you to love. If we could learn to love from a book, like we learn mathematics, this world would be wonderful; there would be no poverty, exploitation, wars, division between the rich and the poor, and we would all be friends with each other. But love cannot be created so easily. Hate is easy, and poverty brings people together in its own way; poverty gives rise to all kinds of fantasies, it creates different ways of cooperation, for example, in war. But love is much more complex. You cannot learn to love, but you can observe hate and slowly push it aside. Do not fight against hate, do not say how terrible it is to hate people, but look at the nature of hate and let it pass. [...] If every time hate arises in you, you let it go, then you will see that your mind becomes very sensitive without sentimentality, and thus it gets to know love. The mind can move towards feelings, desires, but it cannot move towards love. Love has to come into the mind by itself. When love has come, there is no division between the emotional and the divine in it. This is the most amazing thing about love: it is the only phenomenon that creates a complete understanding of all existence. ***
Do we know what it means to be ascetic, to be content with little and not to think in the categories of "more and more"? It is precisely the simplicity that is born of renunciation and asceticism that creates a state of creative beauty. But if there is no love, you cannot be simple, you cannot be ascetic. You can talk about simplicity and asceticism, but without love they are just empty forms, and therefore there is no renunciation. Love is only for the one who renounces himself, completely forgets about himself. ***
This world is ours, we are people who live together, and if someone is looking for God, he wanders from temple to temple, because they divide people. The Christian church, the Muslim mosque, your own Hindu temple - they all divide people, and the one who is looking for God does not want to be associated with them. [...] Beliefs are like walls, they divide people and create conflicts. Only when the mind goes beyond all beliefs, all differences and similarities, can it be free to discover the truth. ***
When you start a journey to gain knowledge about yourself, books are not important. It is like arriving in a foreign land where you get to know a lot of new things and make amazing discoveries, but all of it is destroyed if you give importance to yourself. At the moment when you say: "I have discovered, I know, I am an excellent person because I have figured it out," - you are lost. When going on a long journey, you have to take very little with you - if you want to climb to a great height, you have to travel light. ***
If you love something, you will never get tired of it - I mean such love that there is no expectation of a result, no waiting for any benefit. When you love something, it is not self-fulfillment, so there is no longing, no end. ***
Discipline seems to me something unappealing; it is not creative, it is destructive. But if I just state such a statement now, there may be an argument that you are free to do whatever you like. The opposite is true in love: a person who loves never does everything that he likes. Only love prompts the right actions. Love brings order into the world and allows love to do whatever it wants. ***
Another cause of corruption is tradition. Tradition makes you conform. The past forces you to submit, to walk in line, and because of adaptation, the mind feels safe and protected, it arranges itself well in the familiar groove to work smoothly, without obstacles, without any doubts. Look at the adults around you and you will see that their minds do not want to be disturbed. They want peace, even if it is the peace of death; but the real peace is completely different. [...] So the mind has to die to everything that it has accumulated - to all its traditions, the values it has inherited and everything on which it has based itself to feel safe. Then the mind is no longer trapped in the web of its own thinking. Dying every moment to the past, the mind becomes fresh, so it cannot be clouded or darkened by the waves of darkness. ***
To be is something completely different from becoming. Being is such a revolutionary act that society rejects it and deals only with the act of becoming - it is respectable because it fits into the matrix. But any desire, expressed in the act of becoming (one of the forms of ambition), is without fulfillment. Sooner or later it is frustrated, delayed, distorted and we are disappointed with this malicious distortion. When you grow up, you will be convinced that your desires are never really fulfilled. In fulfillment, the shadow of longing still remains, and in your heart there is not a song, but sadness. The desire to become (an excellent person, a great saint, something big) is without end and therefore without fulfillment, its demand is for "more and more". But when a person is free from all desires related to becoming, the state of being arises, the manifestations of which are completely different. It simply is. That which is, is without time. It does not think in the categories of fulfillment. Existence itself is its fulfillment. ***
Religion is goodness; it is love that leads to the river - the living, the eternally flowing. In such a state, you will experience a moment when there will be no more searches, and the end of these searches is a completely different beginning. The search for God, for truth, the feeling that you are completely good, not cultivating goodness, humility, but finding something with the tricks and tricks of the mind, which means feeling this "something", living in it, being it - this is the true religion. But you will realize it only if you leave the well that you have dug for yourself and throw yourself into the river of life. Then life will take care of you in a wonderful way, because you no longer care about it. Life will take you where it wants, because you are part of it; there will no longer be problems of safety, worries about the words of another person, and this will be the true beauty of life. ***
The person who says that he knows is already dead. But the one who thinks "I don't know", who discovers, figures out, but does not strive for any goal and does not think about achievement or becoming, - such a person truly lives, and this life is the truth. ***
When you ask whether love can cause changes in a hooligan, what do you mean by the word "love"? If to love means to understand this person - not to change him, but to understand the causes that create hooliganism, - then this understanding will put an end to hooliganism. If I want to make this person change so that he is no longer a hooligan, my very desire to change him is an empty form, isn't it? But if I understand why he is a hooligan (it could be the wrong diet, lack of sleep, lack of warmth in the heart, the fact that he is laughed at by another person and so on), then he will no longer be a hooligan. But if my desire is only to change this person, that is, to fit him into a specific matrix, it means that I cannot understand him. ***
Similarly, most people also have ideals, don't they? And an ideal is not something real, factual, it is the desired, the expected in the future. I say this - forget the ideals and realize who you are. Do not strive for what you should be, but understand what is. Understanding what you are, a spontaneous process of transformation begins, while becoming what you think you should be, no change occurs, the previous one continues in a different form. ***
We accept sorrow as an inevitable part of life and build a philosophy out of it; we justify sorrow and claim that it is necessary to find God. On the contrary, I say: sorrow exists because people are cruel to each other. Moreover, we do not understand a lot in life, and therefore sorrow also arises - such phenomena as death, unemployment, the plight of the poor. We do not understand all this, so we learn, and the more sensitive a person is, the more he suffers. Instead of understanding these phenomena, we justify sorrow; instead of being disappointed with the system and getting out of it, we just adapt to it. ***
The mind refuses to recognize that ambition, pain, alcoholism, violence are corrupting. Therefore it says: "It is better to discuss non-alcoholism, non-violence, create ideals for ourselves," - and at the same time it continues to maintain its own dirt. Therefore, figure out for yourself how disgusting, destructive, corrupting all this is, and you will soon reject it. But if you just say: "I should not do it," - and continue to do it anyway, you will be hypocrites. ***
Fighting maintains the conflict between who we are and who we should and want to be. Can the mind exist without fighting? This is the main question, not - how to achieve a state in which there is no fight? The very attempt to achieve this state is a fight, so a state in which there is no fight cannot be achieved. But if you observe every moment how the mind struggles in a constant fight, if you just observe this process, not trying to change it, not trying to impose on the mind a certain state that you call peace, then you will experience that the mind spontaneously stops fighting, and in this state it can learn an enormous amount. Then learning is not just the acquisition of information, but the discovery of its amazing wealth that arises from the mind's achievements; and the human mind that discovers it experiences joy. ***
Why does this constant desire to be loved exist? Listen carefully! You want to be loved because you do not love yourself; but at the moment when you love, it ends; you no longer ask whether someone loves you or not. As long as you are waiting to be loved, there is no love in you, and if you do not feel love, you are cruel and brutal. Why should such people be loved? Without love, you are dead, and when the dead asks for love, he is still dead. But if the heart is full of love, you never ask to be loved, you never put an empty vessel and ask someone to fill it. Only the empty asks to be filled, but the empty heart can never be filled by running around in circles and looking for love in hundreds of other ways. ***
See, fears exist as long as you want to be safe: safe in your home, at work, in your social status, in your area of responsibility, in your ideas, beliefs, safe in your relationship with the world or in your relationship with God. At the moment when a person's mind strives for safety or pleasure in any manifestation, fears will inevitably arise - it is important to be aware of this trend and understand it. So a person's mind that is modest, respectful and free from fears is innocent. Only the innocent mind can understand reality, truth, God.