I became truly fascinated by the ‘Nice guy’ phenomenon subsequent to reading Robert Glover’s ‘No more Mr Nice guy’.

This particular book is, in essence, the Christian-focussed iteration of that very book. At the outset, it appeared as if I was perusing a sermon. However, as I advanced through the pages of the book, I discovered it to be highly insightful and a thoroughly good read.

The author delved deep into the concept of the ‘Nice guy’ and explored the various aspects that contribute to this phenomenon. It provided a unique perspective, especially from a Christian standpoint.

The book not only shed light on the behaviors and characteristics commonly associated with the ‘Nice guy’ but also offered valuable insights and practical advice on how to break free from this pattern and develop healthier relationships.

Overall, it was a thought-provoking and engaging read that left me with a newfound understanding of the ‘Nice guy’ phenomenon and its implications.

Warning — No More Christian Nice Guy will go against everything you thought you knew about Jesus, and will challenge your way of thinking and acting.

This is an intensely thought-provoking and meaningful book written for men who are tired of being the nice guy and getting walked all over for being too passive, fearful, and mild because 'that's the way Jesus was.'

Paul Coughlin, who used to be a nice guy himself, acted the way the church had been pushing him to act: meek, mild, and gentle. But is that really the way Jesus was when He was on earth, and is that the way Jesus is now? Coughlin challenges this caricature and examines three issues involving male passivity. Firstly, men are being shamed for acting like men. Secondly, there is a completely unbiblical portrayal of Jesus. Thirdly, childhood difficulties often translate into adult troubles.

Men are challenged to move beyond cultural views and towards the true Biblical example of Jesus. The book includes Scriptural references, practical advice, and real-life examples, making it highly relevant and useful.

When I received this book to review, I'll admit to being skeptical. As a woman, I wondered what interest I would have in No More Christian Nice Guy. However, I soon realized that any Christian woman should also read it. There is priceless information about how we, as women, are part of the problem and how we can be part of the solution. I highly recommend this fascinating book. Prepare to be challenged!

This book is truly a good read. It serves as an excellent companion to "Wild at Heart".

It delves deep into the core of a highly significant issue. Although at times it may seem a bit overwrought, it doesn't take away from the overall impact.

The author has managed to present the topic in a way that engages the reader and makes them think. The narrative is well-paced, and the characters are developed in a way that makes them relatable.

Whether you are a fan of the genre or simply looking for a thought-provoking read, this book is definitely worth checking out. It offers valuable insights and perspectives that can enhance your understanding of the issue at hand.

Overall, it is a great addition to any bookshelf and a must-read for those interested in exploring this particular subject matter.

This book truly grew on me as I delved deeper into its pages.

At first glance, some of the content might seem like stating the obvious. However, upon closer inspection, it becomes clear that these are the very things that need to be said more often.

In a world where we are bombarded with so much information, it's easy to overlook the simple yet essential truths.

This book serves as a gentle reminder of those fundamental aspects that we often take for granted.

It forces us to stop and think, to reevaluate our perspectives, and to consider the importance of these seemingly obvious statements.

As I continued reading, I found myself becoming more and more engaged, realizing that there is great value in having these ideas presented to us in a clear and straightforward manner.

Overall, this book has had a profound impact on me, and I believe it has the potential to do the same for others.

This book truly needs to be distilled down into approximately a 50 - page booklet.

The reason for this is that there is an excruciatingly large amount of personal stories within its pages.

These personal accounts seem to go on and on, making it very tough to persevere and get through to the end.

It feels as if the author has included every single detail of their personal experiences, perhaps without considering the impact it has on the reader's ability to stay engaged.

By condensing the book into a more concise format, it would be easier for the reader to extract the key points and gain a better understanding of the overall message.

Moreover, a shorter booklet would be more accessible and appealing to a wider audience, as it wouldn't require such a significant time investment to read.

Overall, distilling this book into a 50 - page booklet would be a beneficial step in improving its readability and usefulness.

I AM QUITE ANNOYED THAT MY FIRST REVIEW DISAPPEARED. (I'm not quite sure what happened there). People take time writing reviews, so the least this app/website could do is ensure these are kept.

The good thing is I save my comments, and I have copied my original comments below:

As a Christian Feminist, I initially struggled with this book. Despite its numerous jabs at feminism and the church's failure to recognize masculinity (something I was skeptical of due to the leadership structures), this book brought to my attention the view that the often patriarchal and western model of the church has left some men feeling insignificant, which I didn't think was possible.

I shared this book with my brother, and to my surprise, he didn't completely disagree with the author's statements - this really got my attention. From this book, I realize that we all have our struggles. Just because I can't fully recognize and identify with what others go through doesn't mean their experiences are any less relevant than mine. It has made me even more mindful of acknowledging and celebrating our differences as believers in Christ Jesus and allowing God to help me see people as He sees them: His Beloved.

Although the target audience for this book is Christian men, Christian women can also find it helpful. I also struggled with being too nice and would often feel used and disregarded. This book affirmed my position of being okay with asserting myself and the importance of choosing to be good over being nice.

I hope this review helps others who may be considering reading this book.

This book is without a doubt not suitable for everyone.

I am certain that a great number of people will read this book and perceive it as life-enriching, while others will read it and consider it to be offensive.

This book bears a strong resemblance to "Wild at Heart" in that it critiques the passive and meek Christian men within our churches and challenges them to embrace a greater calling as men.

Coughlin addresses this issue in a very harsh and direct manner, frequently blaming modern church culture for emasculating men.

I concur with the majority of what Coughlin asserts, although his approach does seem a bit severe at times.

I envision this book being extremely beneficial for younger men who lack strong, godly role models to look up to.

I would also suggest it to pastors who might encounter difficulties in getting the men in their congregations to overcome passivity.

I hope that those who read this will understand Coughlin's intention to inspire passive men to be courageous and bold, rather than necessarily to endorse aggressive men or condone abusive behavior.

For readers who can identify with the intended audience, I would highly recommend reading this book.

I'm not a Christian. I reviewed this book for work purposes. To my great surprise, I was gobsmacked at how useful it turned out to be in my own life.

Sure, I might not be a Christian, nor am I a guy. But I guess I can be described as nice, passive, and sometimes resentful. I had heard a good deal of his advice during counseling, and it really rang true.

Particularly, his chapter on work and his description of a CNG (whatever that might be) at work was quite eye-opening. He described a perfectionist who views all problems as pervasive, permanent, and personal. WOW! I was already aware of the personal aspect as I've been working on that one. But the other two? It was quite a revelation.

So, overall, this is a good book regardless of your religious beliefs. As long as you can skim over the Christian centric stuff if that's not your thing, you might find it as helpful as I did.

His writing style is engaging, although perhaps a bit overblown for my personal tastes. But what really makes the book stand out are his own personal experiences. It takes a great deal of courage to be that vulnerable in print. Kudos to Mr. Coughlin. You have truly proved to me that you possess biblical courage.

In a nutshell…

This book provides a comprehensive outline of the distinct differences between being nice and being good. It specifically encourages the male readers to strive towards being good in the way that the Lord was. It points out that the Lord wasn't always "nice" in the traditional sense.

The good…

This book had a profound impact on me. It convicted me in many ways. It reminded me that it is perfectly okay to be human with all our flaws and imperfections. It also emphasized that it is okay to embrace one's masculinity. Moreover, it clearly delineated the difference between true masculinity and the often misconstrued concept of machismo. Additionally, it frequently provides Scriptural examples to support its claims, which gives the book a solid foundation.

The bad…

However, the book does have its drawbacks. At times, the message it conveys and the way it is derived from the Bible can come across as a bit too aggressive. While it has a clear intention and point, it may push its ideas a little too forcefully at certain moments.

Overall…

Despite its minor flaws, I wholeheartedly recommend this book to every Christian man for serious consideration. It offers valuable insights and teachings that can help them grow in their faith and understanding of what it means to be a good man. I also believe that women can benefit from reading this book as it can enhance their understanding of men and their role in the Christian faith.

A great look at masculinity in the post-modern church.

The author engages with the reader by addressing the crucial issues that most men encounter.

He presents valuable ideas on how to embark on the road to recovery for the emasculated generation.

There is a great chapter on Jesus’ portrait of a man.

God’s sense of humor is highlighted, although further reassessment is suggested.

This exploration of masculinity offers a fresh perspective and practical guidance for men in the contemporary church context.

It encourages them to reflect on their identity and take steps towards a more fulfilling and authentic masculine experience.

The author’s insights and suggestions provide a starting point for men to begin their journey of self-discovery and growth.

By addressing the challenges faced by men today, this work aims to empower them to become the men God intended them to be.

It is a timely and relevant contribution to the ongoing conversation about masculinity in the post-modern world.

This is a really good and challenging book that is specifically tailored for the Christian guy.

It presents a wealth of ideas and concepts that truly make a lot of sense.

Despite what the title might initially suggest, it does not provide any sort of excuse for one to be a jerk.

On the contrary, it manages to strike a very good balance between different aspects.

The writing style is such that it is easy to read and understand, which makes it accessible to a wide range of readers.

Whether you are a devout Christian looking for some spiritual guidance or simply someone interested in exploring the intersection of faith and masculinity, this book is definitely worth checking out.

It has the potential to offer valuable insights and perspectives that can help you grow and develop as an individual.

Overall, it is a great addition to any Christian's library.

A Challenging Book for Christian Men

There is a particular book that is designed to be a challenge for Christian men. Its core message is truly profound. It emphasizes that being a loving and graceful follower of Christ doesn't imply that we should always agree with every idea or person. In fact, there are times when it is necessary to push back. Sometimes, standing up and disagreeing is the most loving thing we can do. This book encourages Christian men to have the courage to speak the truth in love, even when it may be difficult or unpopular. It challenges them to be discerning and to use their faith as a guide in all aspects of life. By doing so, they can become better men and more effective witnesses for Christ in a world that often seems to oppose His teachings.