Sách có nhiều kiến thức tâm lý nam nữ. Dễ đọc nhưng cảm giác khó áp dụng. Nó cho ta các nhìn toàn diện về mối quan hệ trong tình yêu. Muốn có mối quan hệ hạnh phúc chúng ta nên yêu bản thân, chăm chút để luôn đẹp, nuôi dưỡng tâm hồn và phát triển kiến thức, và nên tìm hiểu về sex-thứ mà như tôi, rất ngại nhắc đến và ngại tìm hiểu. Sẽ cố gắng đọc lại thêm để thực tập :)

This was painful. I read it for a class, and now I’m dreading having to read the next two on the list.

It should be titled: How to Be a Manipulative Douche and Bag a Dumbass. The whole thing was riddled with outdated gender stereotypes and tips on how to lie and fool someone into thinking you’re someone you’re not. She even admits as much, but is only concerned with getting someone to fall in love with you, not building trusting relationships.

good book

December 22nd, 2014

After getting constant messages and a few comments about this review (EVEN THOUGH I didn't mark anything as read or I didn't unfairly rate anything without even opening the book ((*SIGHSIGHSIGH**)).) It's on its way into my hands as a to-request-from-the-public-library book.

So now I can satisfy the unsatisfied with a review with a rating and read-mark.



September 12, 2012

Nope, I'm not planning on reading this. Just curious about it!

So curious in fact . . . that I have to write a review. (A review on a book that I'll never read . . . brilliant.)

Why won't I read it??


Well--

DUDE. You can't make someone fall in love with you! They just have to . . . just . . . fall for you themselves.
I mean . . . when I find someone I love, I want them to fall for me on their own. I don't want to TRY and make them fall for me. Love doesn't work that way, dude.


Buuuuuut, I guess if your love life runs on flirting, being attracted by handsomeness or prettiness, leading people on to charm them, raising your stake at popularity, trying to become more and more famous, aiming for a high-level lover, or . . . something of that sort, I guess you can try this book . . .



As for me, I want true love.

I ordered this book as it would have been priceless in mending my broken heart at the time. However ... not until I had received it through the post and started reading it did it reveal that you cannot have previously met this 'anyone.' Tut tut.

My still shattered heart aside, it was a good read. Love the 'sticky eyes' advice.

yea right...

Must have worked, I married the reason I bought the book.

This book was not helpful. It is from 1996 and feels very very dated. The helpful takeaways I gathered apply to every kind of non-forced relationship (i.e. outside of your immediate family members that you didn't chose)

- Mirroring techniques
- Listening to the specific vocabulary words the person uses and feeding it back to them, which encourages a sense of similarity/seeing things the same way
- Relational equity: the idea that everyone earns points for various attributes they have and if you aren’t within 2 points of each other, you won’t establish a lasting relationship because one or both of you will feel better or lesser than the other and this inequity will eat you alive with feelings of imbalance/inadequacy.

If I were to direct someone to a better text for most of her key concepts it would be Robert Cialdini's Influence or Yes! (i.e. fantastic books on the psychology of persuasion).

Much of her content includes sexist descriptions of principles. The truth is that the principles of persuasion apply across all or most categories of people groups. A book like this doesn't have to sound so hetero white like Leil always does. I would not recommend her books.

Gotta borrow the review of another reader to describe how I think about this book.

"This book was a bit funny and frightening. What scares me is that people are out there actually following this advice! I read it out of curiousity, I mean the title is intriguing. But it's full of manipulative advice on how to make someone "think" you like them and to get them to "feel" like they are in love with you."

As a woman, I dont like the way Leil guides ppl to approach love and to understand how it works. As someone who loves psychology, I really like how she breaks down the mechanism of lust, desire, emotion and reaction.

Well, at the end, I'm still a girl who loves psychology, not a psychologist who happens to be a woman.

No sé qué opinar.

Read from a body language and behavioral standpoint, this book is a gem. Has helped me explain to numerous clients in simple, clear ways how to flirt, show interest, and why they're important on a date.

I can't decide if this book is really clever or really offensive. I love that a lot of actual research studies were consulted to come up with the advice (although I have no idea as to the credibility of those studies), but some of the sexually-oriented advice was just weird. Agreeing to think about sexing other women to get your man on side, knowing you have no intention of doing so and probably won't be asked to follow through? Um. This was treated as far less weird than your man potentially wanting to dress up in your clothes, which is at least emotionally harmless.