I liked this book, but it is a little technical. None of my friends that I suggested to read this book likes it, but I found it to be very useful and to bring up some truths about dating. I keep it on my bookshelf as a great reference. Let me know your comments if you read this.

the book helps you understand more about manipulation

I doubt I learned anything really new from this book, although it offers a few helpful tidbits here and there. It also offers advice which may or may not be good in helping to get a lover and/or find a mate. This book is supposedly based on actual scientific evidence, but that is only a part of it. This is neither a scholarly nor a popular review of the literature on the subject of mating dances. Lowndes presents a variety of techniques, occasionally backed up by studies, on how to find that special someone. Although it is written for both genders, Lowndes is a woman and the outlook of a bourgeois female who wants to be high class predominates. In fact it encourages one to be a little manipulative and do things like make lots of compliments (whether you really mean them or not) and try to present yourself as the kind of person your `quarry' might be looking for. It gives suggestions on how to appear classy and what to say to wealthy people.

There were some good pointers, though: men need to move right away if they are interested; watch porno made by women for love‑making tips; the six things that count in the meet market (looks, money, status, knowledge, style, and personality/nature); and what the steps are in the `dance of intimacy' (nonverbal signal, talk, turning, touching, synchronization).

It's gets its basics right but it s repetitive

It was great to read a scientific research book that wasn't dry and boring and bogged down with terms that most people don't understand.
The flip side is it started out fairly interesting then fell into what seems to me a whole bunch of game playing trying to land your 'Quarry' as the people you are trying to snare are called. It seemed like most of the book was spent trying to manipulate your 'Quarry' into falling in love with you and not being your true self.
It was summed up in the last few sentences and I quote the last paragraph, 'Spike your arrow with this wisdom and the techniques that science has spawned. But as you take aim at your Quarry, never forget the artistry, the creativity, and the magic of love. A great performer studies techniques for a lifetime but, flooded by the warmth of the spotlight, those grueling years of practice fade into the past. Triumphant performers give themselves to the moment, and let the magic unfold naturally. So it is with romance. Study and practice the techniques to make somebody fall in love with you But when the moment arrives, give yourself to it. Follow your instincts and obey your heart.'
These words to me negated the whole book and with that you don't need to read this book. I will save you the time and say, be yourself, learn to compromise on the things that need compromise, communicate, stay true to yourself,and enjoy the love journey.

I wasn't looking for it; was shared a copy which I read sceptically... but end up liking!
Althought not exceptional, I found it way less toxic than the general PUA advice every "seduction" guru wannabe from the 00s encouraged to take, ending up seeing women as a generic goal/object.
I laught at those who claim it's manipulative - don't know what they expected from that title.
I find it useful as a way to polish some behaviours that might break connection with your interlocutor, as it is something we should all want to be better at, at certain situations. Also liked that it reflected the gender differences in that sense.

Hello my Review readers...

This book doesn't talk about the qualities or the ways of which you can find the right partner for you, but instead it talks about how to pursued the partner that you have already chose to fall in love with you.

You will find many great techniques, ways and dos and don'ts when it comes to have someone fall in love with you...

Lovely thing about the book is the great amount of examples and the easy wording the writer puts it down for general readers. And quite lovely is the real life experiences that the writer have had on her own life too.

I definitely would recommend reading the book and learn from it... I personally believe that true love falls within the Godly plans and destinies that have been given to us, yet when we find that partner we ought to be ready to take the route.

This book was a bit funny and frightening. What scares me is that people are out there actually following this advice! :-o I read it out of curiousity, I mean the title is intriguing. But it's full of manipulative advice on how to make someone "think" you like them and to get them to "feel" like they are in love with you.

What I came away with is a knowledge of what to be aware of the next time I go out with someone. If they start going through the steps outlined in this book - RUN!!

This book may have some points or thoughts to consider, but love is never meant to be a bunch of techniques to study and practice!
If you are searching for a book that teaches u have how to date, this book is what u need. so it's better to name it "how to get a date with everyone"

Well it gives us some facts, some things that we all knew or subconsciously know them, but weren't that much of AWARE that those things were techniques to rely on, or to actually benefit from !
so we needed someone to sum it all up & give us the recipe & that what this book did !
BUT i think it's not entirely useful for us as eastern, we have different culture & different way of dealing with that kind of relationships!
but we can always take what suits us & leave out all the rest!

So, I'm sitting in my reading chair, reading (of course), and my husband of 23 years and father of my houseful of children asks me what book's in my hands. Yes, his eyes pretty much rolled all the way back in his head when I told him it was this.

My excuse: I serendipitously came across this, bizarrely, while online reserving other library books -- and the title is just too good.

That said, this book is ridiculous. Oh, yes, there are many practical techniques, but the book comes across as manipulative (surprise!) and hardly the best things to base a relationship on. At the same time, I see the truth in some of the basic suggestions: Dress well, smile. Of course, most people don't need a book to figure those out.

The biggest issue I have with Leil Lowndes' book is when she encourages people to do things such as mimic their "quarry's" body language, as though you can create a connection by doing the things that connected people do naturally; that is, you can trick someone into feeling more connected than they might otherwise. The book is full of things like that: People in love do x, so, do x when around the person you want to fall in love with you. Or: Men (or women) like x; therefore, do x.

Which all sounds like a not-so-good basis for a relationship.

And, oh, she tells women to watch porn (!) and men to read romance novels -- to see what "the other side" likes. Now, it's my turn for my eyes to roll all the way back.

I wouldn't exactly recommend this book, but it can be unintentionally humorous and fun on that front. For all its flaws, it's an entertaining read and a reminder of just how good I (and maybe you) have it.

I read it because the title was spicy.

It was okay. I have mixed feelings about it.

Some of the things the author says are quite suspicious (there was a comment about German Shepards in sexual fantasies of women alongside things like rape, dominance and etc, I don't think that was a good remark to make in a book... Beastiality...? what....)

Another examples is "Some women's relationship fantasies are even more masochistic than Katharine's. Have you ever known a woman who always winds up with a bastard who treats her badly?". The author isn't very well versed in relationships and people it seems, despite writing this book. Abuse victims usually wind up with terrible partners again because of a harmful cycle they've roped themselves in. Not because it's a 'fantasy' or 'what they want in a partner'.

The book follows the format of research and the author's own thoughts. The research parts were interesting, the author's thoughts not so much. It got tiring after awhile that she called the reader 'Hunter/Huntress' and your love interest 'Quarry'. Some of her own thoughts were stereotypical and not based on any research despite some parts of the book containing research. One example was when she remarked "Women will continue to be 'exasperating', and men will still be 'insensitive'. I need research to back this claim up (feel free to correct me if I am wrong).

The section about the first moves that work for women, she cites a study about a researcher Monica Moore observing more than 200 women making approaches towards men in pubs and how successful they were. The number of times it worked successfully is the number used here. And that's the issue. This is not a fair experiment unless all women has tried all the approaches and percentages were used to rank each move. Smiling at a man was ranked highest with 511 and patting his butt was the lowest at 8. As much as I know the lowest ranked one is definitely a terrible idea, I think most women unaware of this study going on would not have touched a man's butt the entire time. It's not a reliable measure.

In other words, some research in this book is baseless and the author takes them at face value and creates points surrounding them.

Other research was interesting, such as men expressing interest in having relations with the highly attractive and moderately attractive women no matter how badly they were dressed. Or how men fall in love faster than women and feel more heartbroken in relationships.

"Huntresses, you want to be smart in male subjects. But not smarter than your Quarry." This annoyed me. I wonder if this still holds true today though. Or if there's any questionnaire results that I can look into. This book is quite old and outdated in terms of gender stereotypes after all.

'Could you give me a hand with this?' chapter was blood boiling. Basically, NEVER correct a man even if he's doing something all wrong. You don't wanna hurt his ego. Oh jeez, so anyone other than you can only correct him, and by saying nothing I'll leave a man living in a blissful ignorance that he's absolutely destroying my plumbing system each time he 'fixes' it huh...

The advice to watch porn catered to the audience (if you're a man, watch porn made for women and vice versa) seemed pretty terrible. Why not... talk to your partner? I mean, if you have to guess and try to armchair analyse your partner (which this book does a lot and often, it gives you hints and tricks on how to do so) than communicate with them, it might not be a great relationship. Or you might not actually be a good fit for your partner in the first place.

Which brings me to the final point, this book teaches you how to change yourself for someone else. I don't hate the book because of that, it delivers what the title is, How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You. Everyone can't love the real you, only what they're into. So the book teaches you to try to figure out how to be the person that that other person will like.

Although you'd be miserable, because you aren't truly who you are. Just like how The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People have put it, you have to change inside out for genuine results. This book is teaching you band-aid solutions. Just like how to be more trusted is to be a trust worthy person than 'learning how to better talk and communicate with your peers'. This book does the latter.

The research is interesting, but that's all there was to it. I don't recommend people read this really, pick up a book on something better for your well-being and personality.