I absolutely loved this book! It had such a profound impact on me that it completely convinced me to abandon the idea of a highly medicalized birth and instead strive for a birth that is as natural as possible.
The author's words were so persuasive and filled with valuable information and personal experiences that made me see the beauty and benefits of a natural birth. It opened my eyes to the fact that our bodies are designed to give birth in a way that is in harmony with nature.
Reading this book gave me the confidence and courage to take a different path and trust in the process. I am now looking forward to my own natural birth with excitement and anticipation, knowing that it will be a unique and empowering experience.
I'm skimming this book again several years after reading it, and I realize that I never left a review.
The main point I took away is that when making birthing choices, we must always carefully weigh the risk of intervening against the risk of not. Often, allowing things to follow their natural, biologically-intuitive course is the least risky, even if it is less predictable. This message is both good and valuable. Goer, a doula and birth activist (not a midwife), supports this message with information from medical research articles and what is standard practice in other countries. I think this book does a great job of providing women with the information they need to give informed consent and make informed refusals.
Another take-away is that what matters in a provider is how much they will allow you to deviate from the very strict definition of normal progression that modern American obstetrics/midwifery adheres to. Some midwives can be very interventionist if you deviate from the textbook birth progression.
However, I found the format of the book not very helpful for a quick lookup in the heat of the moment. Although there are tables with pros and cons that are good summaries, finding specific information can be difficult. Additionally, the tone of the book is very negative. When a patient refuses to let a provider do what they think is best, it requires the patient to be truly knowledgeable and also gentle so as not to trample on people's egos, as the provider only wants to help. There must be similar information presented in a more gentle way and in a more easily referenceable format.