It's high bar!

I must say that i never contemplated what it was to be a true gentleman. Brad Miller has done so. I can only hope to take his writing to heart in what's left of my life.

This book has been on my 'to-read' since 2008, in other words almost since I joined GRs. I joined in 2007. After reading another* positive review (also by a woman) I decided I HAVE to read it. So I am buying it for my husband

A fairly good compendium on the history of chivalry and the authors musings on how it ought to be adapted to the modern day. We could all benefit from a little more of this courteous and dedicated way of living.

There were some pretty low ratings for this book in this venue. So, let me start out by saying that this is not a book of manners and polite pleasantries. If you're trying to figure out which fork to use with which course, you needn't waste your time looking for it here.

Using over a thousand years of history and etymology, this book is also not some propaganda piece thrown together to discredit or redefine manliness. At its core, this book reintroduces the chivalrous man to the modern era.

The author has a rich vocabulary, for which the "pocket" dictionary wasn't of much use. Still, it was a relatively quick read. It also had insights into other issues of our day and succeeded in educating this reader (just short of epiphany) on several topics left completely untouched by other books.

The narrator sounded smarmy, but maybe there was no other way to read the text. It constantly swaps out gentleman/humans, pauses to say no girls allowed, and then occasionally detours to laugh at silly girls who think boys want to exclude them from thing. It even makes what I guess is a joke about trans people when sniffing at the public display of everything such as a trans person going on Jerry Springer to come out as trans before telling their lover "that lady is no gentleman." Except that no lady is a gentleman according to this book, but maybe if the lady has a cock then she had a chance?

It seems to misunderstand the purpose of virtue, and instead just want to be cool like the Fonz.

There is much to learn and admire in this book, but the author seems to suffer from a form of conservative Tourette syndrome. Whatever subject he is addressing, he will suddenly veer off into his obsessions with anti Fa, Black Lives Matter, and transgender athletes. He will then right himself to write again knowledgeably and wittily about his topic only later to suddenly veer briefly back to his obsessions, a bit like a mad uncle.

Чудова історична, соціологічна й разом з тим філософська праця. Книга, котру варто прочитати кожному чоловіку аби знати належний вектор розвитку в житті та поведінці. Книга, котру потрібно прочитати кожній жінці аби знати товариства яких чоловіків варто прагнути і як виховувати нащадків. Приклади достойних вчинків та відповідної мудрости. Виважено та правдиво.

A must read

Mostly good. Goes over the history of chivalry and discusses its use in the modern world.

The author only occasionally interjects his opinion without providing support.

Listened to this book: good perspective for any Dad.

The first page was good but then just proceeded to be a reasonably shallow self-help book. Far too simple to be of any real insight. If youve never read anything of this kind before you may find it useful but its just the usual 'lifes too short to worry/hate/anger/judgement' insert whatever you feel appropriate. I hoped for more from the title buts nothing I didnt already know.

This is unique book. Miner is a good writer who traces the history of chivalry and draws upon original and morphed meanings of being a gentleman. He divides the idea into three categories: warrior, monk, lover. Each of these categories are given adequate attention and he concludes with attempts to interpret being a gentleman in the 21st century. At times, Miner gets sidetracked due to his great breadth of literature, especially medieval literature. I found myself at times moving from the book to my Amazon wish list to add certain works to my Kindle account. Nonetheless, I was refreshed by Miner's high ideals and his capable exploration of the topic.