This book came to me as a recommendation of someone who I place a lot of trust in their guidance and advice. This book was almost a continued conversation regarding ideals and practices and lessons that I have had and have learn over the last couple of years, but it provided a more direct approach to the conversation. It main focus is how one goes about dating and the amount of knowledge one should have about themselves before getting into a relation and focusing on having one's values be the guide to dating. Definitely a book that calls for a good bit of reflection, and I am drawn to books of that nature. I did happen to read this book in one day, so I am going to have to come back to it and take my time digest the content of this book. But overall, it was a good read.

Mostly focuses on how people should know who they are first before they are dating, so that they know what type of a person to look for.

For us who's still looking for the right one..
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If you are "dating with a purpose" this is a great guidebook for knowing if he or she is marriage material. Not recommended for casual dating.

There were moments where I felt like he was trying to sell me something- with grandiosity and absolutist thinking- which I found annoying. But, the information herein is worth the read, and why I give it a 5.

Currently on Chapter 4

This book teaches you how to be a more efficient dater. It's really so that you can eliminate the wrong people after the first two dates and won't have to "waste your time" (if you take the view that time's a-wastin). But he does encourage people to date two years before deciding to marry--so that you can fully know the other person. It's an interesting, enlightening read! The beginning of the book actually has a series of questions that you can put to yourself and exercises to get to know yourself better. Although he does tend to make finding a marriage partner a mathematic undertaking (quantifying the desirability of yourself and your partner!), and I'm skeptical this could actually work, not being a quants person myself, he makes a number of very fine points that I'll carry with me in the dating game. I especially believe in the importance of making "must-have" and "can't stand" lists before going on a date (rank ordering what you need in a partner and what you can't put up with). Read this book and learn how to "move like a rocket toward the love of your life"!

This broadened my perspective on attraction and what tends to work for married folks in the long run. I have always thought differences can be strengths used to help people grow, and opposites attract. He questions this conventional wisdom and encourages us (through the lists) to find someone fairly similar to us. Maybe not in personality but in other qualities. Broadening this, maybe instead of looking for someone to compliment my skills (like cleanliness, I ain’t the cleanest person) I should work on this myself so it’s a mutual thing. A good read all in all.

Straight forward and useful.