\\tLately, I've been delving into a lot of marriage and divorce books. I even gave one particular book to a friend. At the time, it was the only divorce book I had read any part of. But now that I've nearly finished it, I realize it's actually not very good. It has a strange victim-blaming tone. It's full of New Age mumbo-jumbo about how you attract the disasters in your own life. This really doesn't hold up well when it comes to situations of abuse or cruelty. Sure, it might be possible that you "called this mess into your life" in some cases. But is it appropriate to go on and on about this for forty pages of repetition to someone who is grieving over abandonment or a toxic relationship? Absolutely not! There's no way to avoid sounding like a pompous, patronizing fool.
\\tSorry, friend. I didn't actually read that far when I gave it to you. I've since found "Crazy Time" by Abigail Trafford and "Conscious UnCoupling" by Katherine Woodward Thomas to be much better reads. They offer more practical and empathetic perspectives on dealing with the challenges of relationships and divorce.