Begin with an individual, and before you know it you find that you have created a type. However, if you begin with a type, you will find that you have created nothing. This is because we are all queer fish. We are queerer behind our faces and voices than we want anyone to know or than we ourselves know. When I hear a man proclaiming himself an "average, honest, open fellow," I feel quite certain that he has some specific and perhaps dreadful abnormality that he has decided to hide. And his assertion of being average, honest, and open is his way of reminding himself of his misdeed.
We often try to fit into certain molds or present a particular image to the world. But in reality, each of us is unique and complex. Our true selves may be very different from the personas we project. People may use labels and proclamations to try to simplify themselves or to hide their true nature. But these attempts are often in vain, as our true selves will总会 find a way to surface.
It is important to recognize and accept our own queerness and the queerness of others. We should not judge people based on their appearances or their self-proclamations. Instead, we should take the time to get to know them on a deeper level and understand their true selves. Only then can we truly connect with others and build meaningful relationships.