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July 15,2025
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If this is science fiction, it's my type of science fiction. Or speculative fiction, whatever you want to call it.

This is a marvellous example of dystopia, which raises big philosophical questions. The biggest to me is "what does it mean to be human". Indeed, especially when all is stripped away. Society, family, the whole world.

Let me back up a bit and explain the bare bones of this story. Forty women are in a cage monitored by male guards who never interact with them. The forty women don't know how they got in the cage. They don't know how or why. When, by a stroke of luck, they are able to escape the cage, they realize they also don't know where.

Forty women roaming an unfamiliar landscape, and the narrator of this story is the youngest of them, who has no memories except the cage-life. So who are you, what is your humanity, when your experience of community is prison, in and outside the cage? When there's so little outside of survival?

It sounds bleak and brutal, and it is, but in the same way as The Road is bleak and brutal. The Road, for me, wasn't hopeless. There was always love. There was always hope. And there is that in Harpman's pages as well, in her curious, frank narrator, and in the women she travels with. It asks many other questions, one of them for me is "what is freedom".

The author's family escaped Belgium when the Nazis invaded, and returned after the war. This biographical fact, once learned, can't help but inform the reading of this story. The senseless incarceration and death. The fleeing and survival, but - what was life like, after that?

The femininity of this book also can't be overlooked. The narrator who has never known a man, but who has had her world shaped by male captors.

I bought this book at a wonderful, eccentric shop that carries small-press selections, mostly in translation. I thought it was going to be fairly unknown, like others I purchased there. But I was amazed to see it's had an enormous number of readers. I'm gratified to know it. It deserves wide readership. We need to read books that make us ask questions, and turn the rusty wheels of our brains, especially in this time. Let's look bravely on what it means to be human, when all is stripped away. And what it means to be free.
July 15,2025
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40 women are imprisoned in a collective cage.


They don't know how or why they ended up there (where exactly is there?).


They are not allowed to touch each other, hurt themselves, cause a commotion, read, and so on.


Three guards take turns to watch over them without exchanging words.


One day, will they find freedom?


A girl, without a name and without her own memories of a previous life, is the one most responsible for guiding them in this strange world. Is it the same world? Are they in danger? Are they alone? What will they find?


A book driven by anguishing questions, with no one who can answer them. Millions of inquiries left for the reader about humanity, collectivity, time, writing... The list is long.


(Deeper discussions would lead me to spoilers, so I won't do them here.)


10/10

July 15,2025
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This is one of those books that you would never read without some reference.

The cover doesn't help, nor does the back cover. There is a front view of a lady who you imagine might be the author, and when you turn it over, there are two more photos... (I don't like so much the protagonist being the author, like Thomas Savage in "The Power of the Dog", etc).

The title also doesn't help. As you progress and almost until you finish it, you realize that the title should have been more explicit, more commercial. I think it wants to refer to what in our Spanish should have been translated as: "I who never knew a man", although it's a bit of a strange turn of phrase but it's clearer, right?

Aside from these small musings of a somewhat picky reader, I must admit that the novel that J. Harpman presents to us is quite good. It's a dystopian, apocalyptic world. I don't really know how to classify it. The protagonist has no name, the setting in which the plot develops is unknown, and there is a constant sense of unease and restlessness. There are some captive women, and we don't know the reason nor if there is a possibility of redemption for them.

As for what the novel is about, although I will hardly go into it to avoid an unwanted spoiler: a woman finding herself without a past and almost no future, discovering human nature, feminine nature, the meaning of life. It's recommendable.
July 15,2025
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Much too monotonous for my taste. This statement holds true for many aspects of life. Monotony can be a real buzzkill, especially when it comes to daily routines or certain activities. For example, having the same job tasks day in and day out can make work feel dull and uninteresting. Similarly, eating the same food every day can quickly become tiresome. Even in our leisure time, if we engage in the same hobbies or entertainment over and over again, it can lead to a sense of boredom.



However, it's important to note that a little bit of monotony can also have its benefits. It can provide a sense of stability and routine, which can be comforting in a chaotic world. But when monotony takes over and starts to negatively impact our well-being and enjoyment of life, it's time to make a change. We can try new things, explore different interests, or simply shake up our daily routines to add some excitement and variety.



In conclusion, while a certain amount of monotony may be inevitable in life, we should strive to break free from it when it becomes too much. By doing so, we can open ourselves up to new experiences and opportunities, and ultimately lead a more fulfilling and interesting life.

July 15,2025
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I am in a really dark place right now. I want to die. But I won't go into details about why. It's just that the pain and the struggle inside me are so overwhelming. I feel like I'm losing my grip on reality. I don't know what to do anymore. All I can ask is for y'all to please pray for my sanity. Pray that I can find a way out of this darkness. Pray that I can find some peace and hope. I need all the support and prayers I can get.

July 15,2025
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I'm having an incredibly difficult time trying to form a coherent thought to describe my feelings about this book.

It's as if the emotions it evokes are so complex and profound that words fail me.

This book, for me, was a deep and thought-provoking study on what it means to be a human being.

What is humanity? What makes us truly human?

On a larger scale, I feel like every single one of us can identify with the unnamed narrator's sense of loneliness.

We all grapple with the same questions she dealt with. Are we alone in this vast universe? Is there life out there?

Who knows if we'll ever find the answers.

I can't recommend this book enough.

It's times like this when I'm overcome with a sense of gratitude for being lucky enough to read such a masterpiece.

Just wow. It's a book that will stay with you long after you've turned the last page.
July 15,2025
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People hyped this book up to such an extreme extent that I was left extremely disappointed.

This has to be the most boring book I've ever wasted my money on. There is absolutely nothing thought-provoking about it. In fact, it only gave me useless questions regarding all the plotholes.

Sure, the writing itself is somewhat enjoyable, but the story is just so dull. It's such a thin book, yet it took me an incredibly long time to finish it because of how boring it was.

Nothing interesting occurs throughout the entire narrative. Literally, NOTHING. And the twist at the end is also very underwhelming.

I really wish I hadn't been influenced by the overhyping and had saved my money and time. It's a real letdown.

Maybe if the story had been more engaging and the plotholes had been addressed, it could have been a better read. But as it stands, it's just a waste.

I would not recommend this book to anyone looking for an exciting and thought-provoking read.
July 15,2025
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The book "IWHNKM" presents a dystopian world where a group of women are imprisoned for about 12 years. The story is told from the perspective of The Child, who grew up in captivity and has never known men. While the setting is interesting, the book is marred by outdated ideas about womanhood, virginity, religion, sexuality, gender, age, and menstruation.


The women in the story are portrayed in a very narrow way, with little diversity in their ethnic identities, religions, hobbies, or sexual orientations. They are also shown to be very passive, never fighting back against their male guards and relying on the kindness of a man to escape. The book's treatment of sexuality is also problematic, with same-sex relationships being framed as convenient and not "real" love.


Age is another strange aspect of the book, with the women being very focused on their appearance and choosing to be killed when they get old. The book also fails to explore the potential for the women to grow and change under these new circumstances. Overall, while there are some interesting ideas in "IWHNKM," the book's outdated views and lack of depth make it a disappointment.
July 15,2025
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The words that regularly spring to mind while reading this book?


Depression
Loneliness
Hopelessness


This book was top voted the Horror or Heaven sci-fi group read for December 2024, which is the reason I picked it up.


It's a classic dystopia and a huge recommendation from me!


The author, Jacqueline Harpman, hails from Jewish descendants who endured Nazi oppression. Perhaps this accounts for the impoverished outlook of this book?


It's about a group of women who are imprisoned and live in a single cell from which they are never allowed to exit. It's like a macroscopic concentration camp where they are observed and controlled 24/7.


There is no contact with the outside world, and as a result, there is no future or physical interaction with anyone else.


The main character, as a child maturing into a woman, has never met a man and only views them as mute prison guards through prison bars. This intensifies her sense of separation.


Let's be clear.


This book is not a misandrist statement against men!


It's quite the contrary.


Although it may seem like a profound and depressing account of feminism, it holds no grudges or embarks on a crusade. Instead, it's a fictional portrayal of life as a permanent prisoner and the forced limitations that come with it.


Most importantly, it's fantastically bleak and dystopian due to the lack of hope or any potential for life improvement.


Classified as sci-fi, there are also undercurrents of horror.


Some questions arise:


Who or what else is out there?


Why are we here in the first place?


Are we all alone?


Jacqueline Harpman doesn't answer these questions but presents them for us to ponder.


You'll be as intrigued as I was to uncover how everything fits together:


Am I a prisoner?


Are we on planet Earth?


Is there a broader reason behind isolation?


The book also poses profound moral questions about staying or leaving, about looking after oneself or caring for others.


Yes, it's mostly depressing and hopeless, but it expresses the most crucial quality of all.


The importance of contact! Contact with others. Without it, we're lost.


One day we may encounter other planets and civilizations, but in the meantime, each other is all we have!

July 15,2025
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I who have never known men is an astounding piece of speculative and dystopian fiction.

It delves deep into profound discussions on womanhood, love, and death, all while presenting amazing character studies.

The story is set in a bleak and desolate world, yet it holds a remarkable power that grips the reader from start to finish.

The author's vivid descriptions and unique narrative style bring the characters and their struggles to life, making it a truly immersive reading experience.

This is one of those books that will undoubtedly stay with me for quite some time.

It makes me question the very essence of our existence and the roles we play in society.

It is a thought-provoking and engaging read that I would highly recommend to anyone interested in exploring the darker side of human nature and the possibilities of a post-apocalyptic world.

Overall, I who have never known men is a must-read for fans of speculative and dystopian fiction.
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