The reading was a little difficult at me for times. However, the concept and the understanding that came from this book has changed every relationship I have had since for the better. It is a wonderful way to get insight on your own needs and actions, the actions and motivations of others, and figure out how to compromise for everybody's benefit.

Worth reading!

If you're not sure if your words are getting through your partner think again. If you are familiar with the famous 5 love languages then you're in for a treat as this is applied to men. How they experience and give love. Definitely worth a read.

I am not a man I am female, but I wanted to see the views of the opposite sex. This book is almost an duplicate of the Original 5 love languages. Not surprising.

Para Conocer Más Acerca De Tu Propio Language Del Corazón Ocupas Leer Este Libro Que Recomiendo Altamente “Los Cinco Lenguajes Del Amor Para Hombre “
Hay Secretos Para Descubrir Los Detalles Que Ake Gustan A Tu pareja y También Tips Para Amarla Más .

Not because this is worse than the original book, but because it is essentially the same book. The Men's Edition adds a four-page Introduction and changes the phrasing in a few places, otherwise it is identical. There's no need to read both.

It may be a cliche, but it is nevertheless true, that communication is the key to good and lasting relationships. It's equally true that different people communicate in different ways. We're all familiar with some version of this story (which is also recounted in the book): a wife comes home complaining about her day, her husband offers a solution to her problem, she ignores it, and they both get a little more miserable. The trouble is that the wife just wants him to shut up and listen; the husband wants to roll up his sleeves and solve the problem. He doesn't understand that his solution isn't wanted at the moment and she doesn't understand that he's genuinely trying to be helpful. We've all been there, I suspect. This book, short as it is, is full of similar stories and advice regarding the sources and solutions to those problems.

And that's both the advantage and disadvantage of the book. It's advice, by and large, is sound. People do communicate differently and following a set of steps (like the ones in the book), they can learn to more effectively communicate with each other. This will almost inevitably improve relationships. Of course, understanding people can be prohibitively difficult. Just ask a psychologist, psychiatrist, therapist, or counselor. These are people who have spent years--sometimes decades--of intense study of human behavior and they still don't have all the answers. It would be ridiculous to think a book of fewer than 200 pages could solve all of their problems.

On the other hand, people are also quite busy and good advice, even if it's imperfect and incomplete, packaged into a book that can easily be read in a single sitting can be quite useful for those people.

So the real question is: is the advice in the book sound? The answer is complicated. The foundational theory behind this book (and the others in its series) is that there are five "love languages," that each person "speaks" a different one, and that the key to communication within relationships is understanding and speaking one's partner's particular language, even if it's different from one's own. This theory is almost certainly an oversimplification. It's based on anecdotes from the author's career as a counselor rather than empirical research, and the actual research on the topic has been mixed. My best (educated) guess is that it's probably not true that communicative styles fall into five factors with each person focusing primarily on one of them. However, it does seem--informally--like a useful framework for teaching what ought to be the basic and habitual communicative skills within any relationship.

That's where I think the book's value lies. Regardless of the empirical support for the "love languages" construct, it gives the reader something to hang his (or her) hat on when trying to improve communications. The actual advice following from this construct, as described in the book, is pretty simple. Indeed, I'd even go as far as to call the vast majority of it common sense material that everyone ought to already know. However, it's clear that a lot of people simply never learned how to communicate within a relationship, and if they did, they never bothered to put the lesson into practice. For those people struggling to maintain a relationship despite a breakdown in communication, this book might be a godsend.

Admittedly, it's not for everyone. Some will find it too cheesy, occasionally overwritten, often oversimplified, and certainly focused on a very traditional type of relationship or marriage. With apologies for the reference to the book's title, that's simply not the language everyone speaks. That having been said, if you don't mind a book written with a bit of a "fatherly" tone, I suspect most people would benefit from heeding its advice.

It's certainly not the kind of book I'd ordinarily pick up. I usually describe myself as "allergic to the self-help genre." But it was given to me by a friend, and upon reading it, I was pleasantly surprised to find that, despite its flaws and oversimplification of complicated psychological phenomena, it actually does offer good advice.

Excellent reference for understanding how we vary in the ways we show our love and want to accept love. Really helped my wife and I.

I really liked this book. It has the same ideas, and even some of the same stories that the couples edition has. I did feel that this edition is a little more concise and to the point, so it didn’t seem as long. I highly recommend this to any man who is in or wanting to be in a relationship! It is directed more to men, but I felt it is just as beneficial for women.

I am not a reader of self help books, but this book came recommended to me as a text that is helpful in the areas of communication with a lover or a spouse and can have a drastic impact in many areas of my relationships.

While I think that this book says many valuable things, there are also some places that I think that this book is complete nonsense and totally misses the mark.

First, trying to figure out what you best respond to and what your spouse or lover best responds to is definitely an important aspect of any relationship. Furthermore, define what you want and understand what they want is really important, otherwise your efforts are wasted, and your concept of what you think is compatible is just based on some metric that you have devised rather than truth. There is a quiz to figure out what you are. Then you take it, and your spouse or lover takes theirs, and you start trying to figure out what the other person needs.

This book says some awesome things about relationships as well. One is that there is no magic to it, and that there is no fairytale perfect person. Rather, we are able to build our relationship with anyone, and there are things that you can do to keep the relationship and the intimacy strong through communicating in the right way with the other person. Don’t buy them flowers if flowers aren’t important, rather, do deeds, or take walks if they are a quality time person. Makes sense - you just need to figure out what they need.

That said, it misses the mark in many places, and I think the book could have either been more clinical OR a lot shorter and the skills fit on a pamphlet that can be read in a sitting.

First, there is a strange preoccupation with “everything will work out okay” and the strange religious road that the book steers down about halfway through. I was somewhat disillusioned and confused when I got to the chapter that seemed to lay out a scenario where there was a woman who was deeply religious, went to church every week, and her husband ignored her for months, and she hated sex. The solution in this anecdote, totally open ended, started with quoting Jesus and somehow Jesus wanting her to please her husband even if she hated him and hated sex, and that if her intentions were good it would all work out. Frankly, I got to the end of that chapter and wasn’t even sure what it was telling me. Jesus, church, and other religious things come up a lot, and for someone who is not religious and even can’t see the connection (and even if I was, would find difficulty in including religion if I was having relationship problems since I see it as unrelated), I found the constant referencing distracting.

I also felt like the book was talking down to me - in a manner like, ‘well, guys don’t read, so we need to snatch up the dumb apes’ attention with this. I read voraciously, and know myself, and felt dumb reading it if only for those reasons. I found non-technical, basic, and simplistic approached and suggestions in this ‘men’s edition.’ Furthermore, many contradictions. In one place the author is talking about men’s biological need to have sex, and two paragraphs later that they may be mistaken for needing ‘quality time.’ I often found myself scratching my head that this would make sense to anyone and where the science was in some of the science things the author seemed to be referencing.

Finally, I come from a somewhat dysfunctional childhood, and at times I was wishing that some of this was as easy as that. I am not saying that a book needs to specifically address trauma and assume everyone has some sort of complex, but at the same rate in many ways our childhood has a lot to do with my reactions to things. That said, the chapter about receiving gifts, and seeing them as an investment in me and my relationship rather than an investment in the thing, really hit home. Poverty can really mess you up.

So, my review is simple. The book has a lot of great things to say about communication with your spouse and using a system of cues (the languages) to figure out what they need and expect from the relationship. Oftentimes we miss this information and do a bad job communicating it, and it is through recognizing this that we can figure out what we expect from ourselves, and what our significant other expects from us. There was some really interesting realistic stuff the author presented (you can fall in love with anyone, television may relax you but it is not quality time), but alongside some really weird inclusions (pray, go to church, a good gift is naming a star after someone from one of those shyster companies, among other suggestions, and an absolute dearth of anecdotal evidence). I also think that the avoidance of physical intimacy - rather than the importance of sex it suggests that just putting your arm around one another or touching a shoulder and explaining sex as a mysterious pseudoscience of emotional literacy - was strange. Finally, the “for men” edition, I thought, was insulting to men and to me as a reader, so I wonder if the original is a little more compatible for humans, but I also have no plans to ever pick it up. In short, it was okay, but I could have gotten the gist of it in a tenth of the pages.

It's always a good reminder to spend time, energy, and thought focusing on your relationship/marriage. I read the original book many years ago but decided to read the "men's edition" for 2020. While some of the advice feels dated for our era (e.g. gender roles), anyone in a relationship could benefit from awareness of the framework and the specific action steps.

In short, the five love languages presupposes that each of us has a primary love language through which we feel loved (and we likely project outward whatever love language we need onto the world, whether our partner needs that love language or not). At its core, this theory is about communicating better, because communicating involves observing/listening and THEN acting.

The languages are:
-acts of service
-words of affirmation
-physical touch
-receiving gifts
-quality time

Key insights for me personally:
(1) find ways every day to speak your partner's language
(2) to achieve next level relationship connection, look for ways to align the values of your partner to their love language
(3) if you are a parent, think about your children in terms of the framework and focus intentionally on their primary love languages (which will be different for each child, naturally)

Happy Reading!

I read that exists five languages of love and instantly thought how can I ask something from the man if I don't know the language of mine. So for me, this book was looking from the men's point of view. The book explains how to start speaking your woman's language of love and gives concrete examples. The book answers into a lot of the important questions, I heard from the friends and experienced myself. It is a useful tool for better relationships.

Let me just say one thing about this book. It claims itself to be a special edition for men. Well, I don't know what type of man this author is used to (maybe one that doesn't like to keep any dormant mushy side from being exposed to the world), but just because this book has a brown cover doesn't make it very "manly". I don't have many other books in my library that have big hearts with arrows through them on the cover. Every, and I mean EVERY, new chapter has the same big sweetie-pie picture on the left-hand page opposite the text on the right. This was a real double whammy for me since I had to use one arm to cover up the sappy picture and the other hand to cover up whatever embarassing words made up the title of the new chapter of this fine work. Let's just say that this book didn't make mee feel my manliest as I read it on the train each day. I'm not sure that I was able to hide the subject of my reading. That's okay, I followed up this book with one on fighting to get my manly credentials back.